Does he like me enough to consider dating me?

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Is he somewhat into me? Or just looking to hookup? We met on an app, and texted all day everyday for a few weeks. We finally met one day after work and it went pretty well! Then we went out again a few weeks later, only for a couple of drinks and then I didn’t hear from him for about a week so I texted him Heyy what’s up and he didn’t respond. About a month later he hit me up again and said he was busy (I know he was living w his family when we first met, and he was talking about how he was getting an apartment with his friends) but within that time we weren’t talking someone else from my past came back into my life and I was talking to him for a few months-so I told the guy I met on the app that. I made a bday post on my bday and he messaged me saying happy bday and asked if I was still seeing the other guy. I wasn seeing the guy from my past anymore so I said I wasn’t. We started to snap chat almost daily and text here and there, including in Xmas eve and Xmas day! We went out before Xmas and he kissed me at the end (first kiss) and asked if I wanted to come inside his place. I said no (because I wasn’t ready yet) and he was totally fine with it. My question is do you think he likes me as a person, but just doesn’t want to date? (Yet?) he told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship when he messaged me on my bday and I asked him what he was looking for. I feel like he’s a prettt genuine nice guy, do you think he likes me enough to consider dating me when he feels ready?

Janet · Answer

Men fall in love with women who attract them.
Right away.

If she doesn't attract them, they may feel around to see if they can get some sex from her.

but when they have fallen for a girl, you cannot chase them away with a big stick.
if they leave you time to yourself, they don't care enough to worry if some other guy comes along and steals your heart. Think about it .. say you saw something you value .. a $100 bill on the sidewalk . would you walk on by and think about picking it up later?  No . .you would grab it while it was still available.

Does he like you as a person?
Men pursue women for sex.
IF they are ready to settle down, the pursue a particular woman for sex AND to see if she will become his partner. But they are consistent about it.

I think you need to read this book:&#92;
“We men are very simple people: if we like what we see, we’re coming over there. If we don’t want anything from you, we’re not coming over there. Period. Please highlight this part right here so you can always remind yourself the next time a man steps to you: a man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you’re willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him.” 
 ― Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

Obviously you were not offering what he wanted.
And when he told you hat he wasn't looking for a relationship, then that means all he was looking for was sex.

Don't wait for him.  He is not smitten with you, so when he becomes ready, it will not be you that he turns to.

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