I hate our new puppy. Help?!?

First off,

If you do consider surrendering the animal (after working things out with your husband, of course),

---> PLEASE FIND A NO-KILL SHELTER (SPCA) to surrender the pet to! <---

Secondly,

Puppies require a lot of monitoring and training. The thought process for every puppy owner, is to raise the pup how you'd want the pup to be raised! Free of bad habits and personality traits you may find in a rescue. The downside is; the training is intensive and takes a lot of effort. They are a lot of responsibility, you can't just will the animal into learning the rules of the household.

There are a number of options you could try if you stood for keeping the pet;

• Obedience training - I'm sure that there are a number of organizations in your area that offer these classes.

• Training guidance from other organizations - Places like animal shelters and a lot of pet stores will, without hesitation, help guide you on the do's and don't's of training your pets. Taking this into consideration, if you don't want to spend the money to get the pet trained, this is another alternative.

• Consult your vet - Talk to your vet about the issues you're having. They aren't uncommon, but sometimes a condition may be present.

• Kennel training - Now, this is NOT a punishment. But Kennel training a pup is a good way to not only give you free time, but teach the pup how to get along by itself.

• Put more of the responsibility onto your husband. Leave soiled doggy beds and blankets and such in the garage for him to clean, if your daughter isn't helping, make her be active in the responsibility. Still be present in the training, that way you can maintain a say in how its raised. Never use the pup as a punishment of any sort, but be patient. Treat the pup as a member of the family, because it is. Then! Once the pup is trained, you'll be significantly less stressed with the animal and may even come around to it. Not to cause more tension in your household, but as you already know; its not fair for you to dislike the pet and have to take care of it. Ask for help.

As afore mentioned; if you do decide to surrender the animal, please find a no-kill shelter to surrender it to. Most SPCA's rely on the intake of ADOPTABLE animals. Example; the SPCA I volunteer at searches for adoptable animals at other organizations and transfers them into our shelter, usually with little to no information about the pet. Surrenders are 10000x better, because there is input from the owners. Your's is still a pup, it'll get adopted SUPER quickly. Please consider a no-kill shelter to surrender your pet to.

I really hope that every thing works out for you. Truly, and I hope that things work out WITH the pup. I hate seeing people give up on their animals (not guilt tripping), but I completely understand it. I love dogs, which is why I volunteer at the SPCA. I'm in no position right now to own one, as I'm constantly relocated due to work. But I've grown up with them, so I completely understand the amount of time it takes to train them.

I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do! You deserve to be happy and comfortable in your home too! :)

Same thing happened to me. Got the dog to please my daughter. I had to do the hard work of course. However you have to show the dog who is the master, do your research or take it to a training centre. It only took me two weeks to train my dog, and I was someone who was always afraid of dogs. So if I can do it, then you can. Best thing I ever did. Loved that dog to bits. Sadly we only had him for four years and he died. Broke me in two I can tell you, he was my best friend. Please make the effort to train him, its not hard and the dog then understands his boundaries. When he sees you as the master your panic attacks will go and you will see how very much the dog loves you and protects you and your family, honestly.

Hug her.

Yes, new puppies are like new babies in that they make a huge mess, don't listen and require a lot of tending. They do however mature faster than humans and by his pup's first birthday it'll be an asset to your home that you couldn't believe you once hated. This isn't to insult you, just to point out that if you can stick with it for a few months you'll probably grow to appreciate this animal as part of your family.

First of all, the dog needs to be potty trained. There is a gob of information online about how to housebreak a dog. If everyone in the house doesn't participate in this, it's futile. What do you want, a dog toilet for a house or to do the work it takes to fix this issue?

The puppy also needs to be taught not to play bite, and everyone in the house needs to participate in a technique.... google it, lots of information about how to get a puppy to stop biting.

Yes get rid of the dog.... this is what a lot of people do when they are irresponsible and weak. When we get a puppy, we all ought to know it's a lot of work. the puppy deserves someone better than you.

I'm not trying to be insulting, i just can't believe people are so heartless and blame a puppy because his behavior has been provoked by his home life situation. Really, do you people ever take the dog outside to go to the bathroom? Did you ever research how to housebreak? Didn't you realize puppies have natural behaviors which are not appropriate in our world? (such as biting)? if not, now you know

The puppy needs to be relocated.

Stop being hard on yourself..........so you rolled over and gave in, but please don't aim your frustration and anger at the pup, it needs aiming at your husband and daughter and they both need to step up and should be the ones who are standing in the garage and washing dog beds and blankets, they need to be the ones going out to purchase a puppy crate/pen/dog gate so you can keep the pup in one secure easy to clean place rather than allowing it to run around and chew what it feels like chewing and they are the ones who need to book dog training classes and take it out daily for toileting and walks and even before it is vaccinated it can be carried out daily so it gets used to sights, sounds and smells....... book dog training classes and THEY need to take it.....OR it is returned to the breeder which they need to contact and arrange and you need to learn to say and mean NO

Trade with your neighbours cat

I'm with you 100% and they are being totally selfish to have persuaded you in the first place and even more so to walk away from the responsibility of it all. Your only fault was being worn down by their persuasion.

Nobody should ever bring a dog into the house unless everyone wants the dog and most certainly in your situation THEY should be doing most of the work.

Sorry but I think you've got to sit them down (hubby especially) and say NOOOOO... the pup should go back to the breeder. This is only the initial part and there is so much work ahead of you to get a well mannered dog. I would be presenting the ultimatum to husband if I were you. He has been totally selfish in expecting you to take the brunt of the work when you didn't want the dog in the first place.

It might have been better to adopt an older more stable dog from a rescue that didn't give you the amount of work a puppy will give.

Feel for you tbh.

Well, a puppy was a big mistake. You should have gone to the shelter for an older dog that wouldn't be so much trouble.

If you cannot cope with the puppy and your family isn't budging, I would really consider spending the money and getting a trainer NOW. No one seems to want to pitch in, so maybe bring that point up to them next time you argue about it. Either spend the money to get this dog trained or tell your family that you're rehoming it. You really have no other options here.