Single Moms: Was dating even harder after having your child?

Red flag for most men that you aren't a good judge of character or you would have had a man that stuck around. I wouldn't worry about dating till your kid is a bit more grown up maybe when you're 30. Trust me all the single moms I know that ARE dating are doing it with men that are shady but upfront about it. Don't settle.

One of the biggest problems facing a single mom with a young child isn't finding a guy to date; it's her finances. Most single moms are on a very tight budget and she doesn't have the money to afford a lot of extras. Every time she wants to go out with a guy (even if it's only to the movies), she's going to have to hire and pay a baby sitter. That gets very expensive, very fast. Most single moms simply can't AFFORD to do a lot of dating.

Ya think??????

Honey.. women who want the fairy tale don't get knocked up and then expect to be able to have a dating life.. You can't seriously think it's easier to date when you have a child at home than when you're a single person...

Please focus on your baby.

For the first year you should only pay attention to him.

Think positive always. A right guy will surely come around someday.

You can't make anything happen by worrying.

Read Yahoo answer family section. All sorts of questions regarding love life from people of all ages young, old, too old, with kids, without kids, single, divorced... Etc are there.

Why do you think you would be left out from having romantic relationship?

Life is not a Fairy tale and thank God. Cinderella married some guy with a shoe fetish after he stalked her down after once dance. Princess Aurora from sleeping beauty married some guy she didn't know who did things to her in her sleep. Sleeping Beauty did it with a Necrophiliac, Ariel lied and changed herself for a man who could not accept her as she was. You deserve a real man, not some stupid Fairy Tale. Women with kids have some kind of baby Daddy Drama every time and it is hard to make sure he isn't one of those pedophile types that you need to protect your baby from. The best you can hope for is another single Dad. Get involved in Church or some other activity like a support group where you can be with people who empathize with your struggles and don't judge you for them, at least you will have help doing the single thing and maybe you will find love. The best way to lasting love is through a foundation of friendship. Lots of the dating apps will not do that for you. I liked E-Harmony, it is worth the price. It will weed out all the guys who would not consider a partner who already has a kid. I didn't meet the love of my life there but it did connect me to like minded people I could have been good friends with if we hadn't met in such an awkward way.

I am not a single Mom but can offer that the dating pool gets much smaller once you have a child. What also occurs is that pool increases in size as you age because the number of childless women shrinks thus by your mid 30's you the dating pool will be pretty close to the same as it was before you got pregnant.

But if you are going to hold onto the idea of the fairy tale relationship seeking the fairy tale wedding, just point out which fairy tale include the maiden with children. Then wake up to the reality that focusing on your ideal only serves to make it exponentially more difficult to find happiness. Sorry to be so blunt, and answering as a man.

Yes, it will be harder, because the men your age who want kids are mostly already married or engaged, and the men that don't want kids are still young enough to be relatively free of their own "baggage" so they don't want to take on someone else's. But hey, give it 5-10 years and the divorced w/kids and divorced b/c married-the-wrong-person-too-young will start appearing. The dating market will still be small, but at least you'll have a better shot of finding someone who understands what it's like to be a single parent.

I haven't dated since I became a single Mom almost 13 years ago

I know several women who are divorced with kids. The consensus is that dating is easier when the kids are grown. Before that, it's pretty hard. My sister was divorced with two small children and she did get lucky - she met a guy who was divorced because he wanted children and his first wife didn't. So he was thrilled to meet someone who had children young enough to think of him as their dad. But this is rare.

you should really wait until either someone persues you or your child is in college