How to deal with being disliked?

Good grief you are only 16 and a week ago you had a male friend you really liked and wanted to kiss..... Paranoia cam make you miserable when you think people care enough to talk about YOU> Sure it may be happening but who cares. Carry your head high get you a nice foot stool and next time your 6'5" guy wants to kiss go for it if YOU want to.

Stop obsessing about things YOU think people are saying and ask a few of the girls if they want to go to a movie or Pizza. Will they turn you down who knows but you have to reach out in life.

enjoy it tremendously it means your doing well

Set fire to their houses 😁😁😁😁

It's been 5 years since I've been in high school/secondary school. It honestly feels like it's been a million years ago, or many times, I often forget I was even in high school, until a random thought or memory came back to me.

When I was going to high school, I wasn't too well liked. I was in the same shoes as you. I understand that when you're going to high school, that it seems like the most important thing in your life, and it can really get to you, but really, once you graduate, your memories of high school will quickly fade into obscurity.

Perhaps you could try socializing elsewhere. Maybe find online friends.

You’re still young, so others opinions may matter to you right now but as you grow older you’ll start to learn that it doesn’t matter who likes you or not. Their opinions don’t pay the bills nor does it stop you from living your life. Do you. Forget what they have to say.

High school is a bubble you wont see again. It's a time to volunteer in your community, try out sports to take into your adult future. Be going to church youth groups yours and friends. Wear your smile, be clean and neat. Get into hobbies and into your passions. The notion that these silly cliques are all that is nonsense.

This is something that everyone deals with at some point in their lives.

Just be yourself and the right people will like you for who you are. That’s the best advice I can give. Just don’t get discouraged and don’t let it bring you down. I know it may seem like a lot now, but it’s really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. You’ll look back on it in the future when you’re a stronger person and wonder why it even bothered you so much.

beat the **** out of her and kill all her friends

I like this part of you already: “I go to a school in England where most of them smoke, swear, drink alcohol and go to parties but I do none of that and yes I hate swearing...”.

It’s just that you are desperate to belong. But you are trying too hard and it is going against your nature to try to be like them. Herein lies the conflict you are experiencing.

A good and long time friend of mine once confessed to me that before he got to know me better, he thought I was a stuck-up person. But when he got to know me better, he realized he was wrong about me. Perhaps they need to get to know the real you better.

Develop your plus characteristics, perhaps something like being helpful to others when they asked for help, or being kind and etc. I find the words in an early 1920s prose poem by the American writer Max Ehrmann to be comforting:

https://www.desiderata.com/desiderata.html

I suggest that you ignore it.

No one can be liked by everyone and some people...well, some people just SUCK and are mean and bullying.

I think you sound like a really interesting person with your own interests and priorities. School situations can be hard because people tend to want to fit in and then also people tend to be mean to people outside their "group".

This can be trying, especially for adolescents who are already dealing with hormonal crisises and changing societal expectations and life roles.

I suggest you try to navigate this by being true to yourself. What do YOU like or dislike, what makes YOU feel good, bad, happy, fullfilled. Pick your friends the same way. Do you feel good about yourself around them? If not, take a hard look at that relationship, what is it doing for you? Is that something you want?

Fitting in with the wrong crowd or changing yourself in ways you don't want or like to fit in is giving up part of what makes you, you.

In five years will anything any of those people think or do be important? Not likely. Try to keep an even keel, steer your own course based on your own priorities. At some point, you'll be off to grown up school or out of school all together and the things that feel like crises now will not even be remembered.