How do I get past my sexual guilt and enjoy being intimate with my wife?

Ask your wife to help you...ask her what turns her one and take pleasure knowing that you are doing something she likes and leases her sexually.

Okay there is some truth to what you have read but your taking it too literally what they are saying is this that many woman do not reach orgasm by penetration alone some do and some do not. It does not mean they do not like being penetrated by a penis crap even lesbians use dildos. What it means is certain positions do not allow some woman to get off like missionary and doggy style are a couple of positions more for the guy then the girl. Some ladies need more clitoral stimulation cowgirl like woman on top works well for this they can rub into the male pubic bone and stimulate the clitoris all the while your getting stimulation on your penis also the man can caress the breasts at the same time allowing more arousal in the female. You get past the guilt by just enjoying the sex stop over thinking it moaning and dirty talk usually is a sign what your doing is good keep it up. oral stimulation works well too this is where foreplay comes into the picture. Many guys hate foreplay but if you actually do it well many positions you get pleasure too as the saying goes "69 dudes!" Penetration is pleasurable for both man and woman who ever wrote what you read must be a complete moron or never had sex.

Don't believe all you read.

This may be something you can get past just by having a conversation with your wife. She may tell you that she enjoys penetrative sex, many women do. Not all can get off via that alone, but some can. Most couples use this as merely one quiver in their sexual arsenals. So as long as you're doing other things too you shouldn't feel guilty about that. I can tell you that if you're hoping to have children the conventional way that's kind of a must.

The emotion of sexual guilt steals intimacy from lovemaking and makes sex impersonal, repetitious, and mechanical.We can’t feel sexy if we feel guilty. Sexual guilt is a learned emotion and the good news is, it can be unlearned.

Unlearning sexual guilt means dropping other people’s programming of your sexuality so you become free:

Free to express your desires

Free to be creative and confident

Free in your feelings

Free to experience your own pleasure the way you choose.

You apparently thoroughly researched women who didn't like coitus but didn't research all the millions and millions and millions of women who DO!

Please pay more attention to what your wife tells you than your "research". You came to some incorrect conclusions. Let her straighten you out!

Maybe in all your "reading" you skipped the part where you should either use positions that stimulate the clitoris or rub her clit with your finger during sex. Then she can orgasm with you and your guilt should be gone. Please ignore David who thinks that women enjoy being turned on and left frustrated instead of satisfied. Also, you should concern yourself more with the needs of your wife than with the hypothetical statistics you have "read" about. Plenty of women enjoy sex

You’re way over-thinking everything, and that’s all you need to know. It is then up to you to find the cure.

You might have noticed there are very few female virgins around? And many women are having sex with lots of guy? Well? It wouldn’t be like that if they were as uninterested in, or averse to sex, as you are mistakenly supposing, would it?

Also, it is hard to compare the subjective experience of any two people. But studies have shown that the *objective* signs of orgasm - the number of contractions - are greater in females than males. So for all we know, females derive greater subjective pleasure from sex than men; albeit men have the greater drive to initiate it.

Also, female enjoyment of penetrative sex depends on the guy’s skill. Most guys just do the in-and-out thing, and that is what you are reading is ‘not actually all that enjoyable’. However if you use the ole Golden Schlong in such a way as to stimulate both her clit and her g-spot, you will find that, as I have, that many women can experience the highest pleasure and satisfaction from penetrative sex alone.

Also, there is no reason why should not enjoy something that is done for your benefit. What kind of straitened asceticism is this?

You’ve been misinformed with your reading. With appropriate foreplay penetration is desired.

Be a better lover and you’ll both enjoy it, free of guilt.