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Call, text, or leave a message when reaching out to an ex.?
I am not going to go into detail but due to various reasons and situations, I know she still has feelings for me. I am wanting both women and men's opinions. Is it better to send a text or to call her or to call at a time I know it would go directly to voicemail and leave a message? Or if I do try and call her and get the machine, should I leave the message anyway (assuming my goal is to speak to her)
So women, if one of your ex's were to reach out to you, how would you like it to be done? and say you still have feelings for the guy.
Men, what are your experiences, what approach did you take and how did it work out?
The only information that I will give on here is that it has been almost two years and I have it on very good authority that she misses me too. So based on my vague question, what do you think I should do? She does not use social media, so messaging her through facebook or whatever is not an option.
2 Answers
- 2 years ago
Hello,
I am a guy.
If it's been two years, and she still has feelings for you, this must mean she has rather strong feelings.
Otherwise, she would have moved on and lost nearly all her feelings for you, if you see what I mean?
The best approach would be to phone her, if you are confident she really has strong feelings for you still.
Phoning (or speaking face to face) requires a lot more confidence than a measly text.
But...
I would recommend not getting in touch, making the initial contact.
If she misses you that much, she would probably get in touch with you one way or another.
The best thing you can do is to continue to move on, not think about her as much as you can and talk to other women.
This will benefit you too in the fact that if she does miss you, and she hears how you've been keeping busy, she will feel even more compelled to reach out, either through mutual friends or some form of communication (you say she's not on social media).
Also, it depends on who split up with who.
If she broke things off with you, then you should definitely NOT make initial contact.
She left you, she has the job of making it up to you, if she really cares.
If you broke up with her, go for the phone option, but don't expect things to happen - don't get any hopes up.
Hope that helps!
- Anonymous2 years ago
For something like this, I would hate leaving a voice mail. I always sound like a flaming moron.
What makes this easier is you know for a fact she wants to hear from you. So if I were you, I'd send a text saying "Hey, I'd love to chat when you have time. When should I call you"?
Resist the temptation to do any of this by text. It will be much better to talk to each other.
