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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 2 years ago

Should I get legal advice ?

I am a 21 year old who lives in New York .

I have not lived with my mother for over two years , my recent living situation i was living with my fiancé and his family babysitting his nephew every day besides the days his parents had off , and cleaned the house on a daily basis so I didn’t have to pay rent .

Just as of two days ago I moved in with an elderly lady into a room where I share the kitchen and bathroom , I can live here rent free on the following bases

- I pay my own internet

-I pay half of utilities (central hudson)

-I provide my own food

-I cook meals and clean household .

-and help the elderly lady with small talks she needs help with

This deal sounded great to me , as I have a low income right now and this will help me build up some funds to eventually live on my own .

Now me and my mother have NEVER really gotten along well she has controlled my life the entire 18 years I lived with her and she still tries to and succeeds in certain ways to this day . She has found out about the living situation and is insistent that I am going to go to jail for it because I am not paying half of everything ?

I have gotten multiple opinions and hers is the only negative opinion , and with the type of person she is I know she would be the one to try and start problems because she does it to everyone in our family .

So I’m unsure if I should go about getting a lawyer ? Or if I should just ignore her negativity and continue on with my arrangement ?

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  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. In fact, it's puzzling you'd even have to ask about it. Stop and think. If your idiot mom was correct, half of NY would end up in jail. You couldn't even have a relative come and stay for several months.

    If you're fully independent and on your own, it's time to start setting some adult boundaries with her. It's hard at 1st for some people, but you are her equal now. You don't have to listen to her nonsense, and something like this is almost emotional cruelty. Tell her you're sick of her lies and you're taking a 6 month break. There's not one thing she can do about it and it's teaching her how to treat you.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    Probably best to get your arrangement in writing - ideally with an independent witness - or someone in her family.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    2 years ago

    Your mother is being ridiculous, people make rental arrangements like that all the time. The ONLY one that it affects is the elderly lady and you. No one else matters, and it seems like the elderly lady has no problem with it. If you are so worried about it, then put your agreement down in writing with the elderly lady and have both people sign and agree to it. That should stop your mom from causing unnecessary problems.

  • Pearl L
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    i would just do what you want and ignore what your mom is saying

  • g
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    You're an adult - whatever your agreement with your landlord/roommate is between you and her. It's none of your mother's business and I wouldn't discuss it with her further. You may have to be blunt and just cut her off next time she says anything.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    you aren't breaking any laws and have no need to waste any money on a lawyer. Your mother either doesn't know what she is talking about or she knows she is lying to scare you and just trying to manipulate you

  • ?
    Lv 5
    2 years ago

    Ignore her. There is nothing illegal about your living arrangement.

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