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What should I do?
About a week ago I met this girl on a dating app. We never met in person but she gave me her number and we were trying to plan on days to meet. We talked for about 2 days and she asked many and I meen personally questions and kept sending me photos of herself etc. She even. Told me she was stalking me on fb etc.
About 2 days into our conversation I told her some things about me abd she ended up telling me that due to her past experience she didn't want it again and judt left. Didn't even say we can just be friends. I told her how heartbroken I was because she didnt take the time to get two know me or even just be my friend. So I'm wondering what i should do because I really do like her and want to show her I am not like her other girlfriends
5 Answers
- JanetLv 72 years agoFavorite Answer
It was GOOD that she found out SO quickly that she doesn’t offer what you want. Had you actually started to date her and become emotionally-attached, then when she found out these things about you, she would have dumped you ... and it would have upset you FAR MORE.
ALWAYS be open and honest about who you are. The first TWO YEARS of dating are SUPPOSED to be a screening process. But understand that 90% of attraction to an actual person, of understanding the other person too .. comes ONLY from interacting face-to-face. Because 90% of the subtle content is transmitted ONLY when together in person. So any on-line stuff is no more than 10% reality … with the rest being filled in with our own subconscious fantasy.
Finally, it takes at least 2 years of living together for love to actually BEGIN to grow. Until then, our “feelings” are a selfish attachment to our own needs and our own fantasies we have created about the other person. Not love at all. In fact, factors that tend to destroy a relationship. It takes an emotionally-healthy female about 6 months of steady in-person dating to become attached ... for men, it SHOULD take 12 months. Any heartbreak before those 6 or 12 months (depending on your gender) is over a fantasy that we have mistaken as “reality”.
If we become attached sooner than that, it is because we are incomplete inside and looking for a “quick-fix” from someone else. Which never works. We never end up happier in a long-term relationship with someone than we were happier before we met them. Our primary task FIRST is to become whole, complete, secure, and happy. Only then can we find and make a relationship last.
- ,Lv 72 years ago
You're "heartbroken" over someone you met one week ago? Okay... Why don't you meet some people in the "real world."
- Beverly SLv 72 years ago
Whatever you told her obviously turned her off completely. Maybe you need to think about whatever you said....
- Anonymous2 years ago
Let it go. If she changes her mind later, be wary of her.
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- ?Lv 72 years ago
You're heartbroken over someone you've only spoken on the phone with. Might want to find out why.
