Why do people bash me if I want to be a virgin until marriage?

Don't be overly concerned about the unusual attitudes of others. The only thing that matters is the opinion of you and your intended. You know what is right and best for you and you have an obligation to be true to yourselves. Actually, as you point out, sex IS a personal issue and no one's business, but yours. Forget about those others.

I think you are doing the right thing. It will pay off for you later in life.

Wait, you are saying that "your man" , as you call him, hasnt slipped it to you yet?

Wow that is sad for him. NO BALLS!! NO BALLS WHATSOEVEEEERRRRRRR!!!

"Why do people bash me if I want to be a virgin until marriage?"

Thats not accurate on my part. Im not bashing you, I am bashing him. 

As when women say they want to wait until marriage, it is a situational statement (most of what women say is situational - I.e. based solely on the emotion they are feeling "right then and there"). 

Meaning that with "your so called man" you want to wait until marriage. But lets say a stud like me or Mario Lopez comes along who really turns you on and gets your motor running. 

That whole "wait until marriage bullschit" would then go completely out the window. 

Besides, your boyfriend hasnt f1cked you yet because he hasnt tried. He just takes what you say about wanting to wait until marriage for its face value and doesnt question it like a good little boy. 

I dont bash you. I bash the boyfriend for not trying harder to get some. 

It is your right to do things the way you want to. I would agree with others that it would be in your best interest to have sex with him before marriage because females have a much tougher time enjoying sex than males do just because of the way we are anatomically. The head of a males' penis is very sensitive and the male will enjoy sex much easier than the female because she only has certain spots in her vagina that are really sensitive and if he doesn't rub them with his penis then the sex won't be as good for the female as it is for the male. If the female isn't willing to relate this to the male, he will have no idea it isn't feeling as good to her as it it to him. Most of the times it will take a female longer to have an orgasm than it does the male and she may think that's all she gets but males can have multiple orgasms in short periods of time so should expect him to continue even after he has had an orgasm. Some males are not highly sexed while others are so this is something you should find out before you get married, if you are not sexually compatible you will not have a happy marriage. Some males may feel belittled if they aren't sexually satisfying their woman and she tries to tell him how to make her feel satisfied. Guys should NOT feel that way, he should be willing to do just about anything to help her have an orgasm short of letting her have sex with another guy. You and he should read books written by other females that tell males what to do to turn you on. Do you get turned on when he kisses you? Does he kiss you passionately? Does he kiss you on your neck and shoulders? That should turn you on also. I think you are taking a bigger chance of getting an STD by waiting than you would be by having sex with him NOW. As long as you only have sex with each other, there would be no chance but if you wait and someone else comes on to him, he may relent, females doesn't know about how strong males desires are to mate. It can draw him closer to you or drive him away. You really do need to find out if you're sexually compatible before you get married.

I appreciate any nice comments, be classy.

To begin with, I can't exactly answer your question . You might as well know, I don't mean to brag with my story -- read my entire answer, so you can get my point . I decided I wanted to be a virgin until I get married . I don't tell people about that decision right away . I made friends with Tom and Kenae . My friend, Joe, told Tom and Kenae that I want to be a virgin until I get married . Tom and Kenae both lost their virginities as soon as they could, and they've had sex plenty of times . They believe I have the right to my decision, they understand, and they're behind me completely . Kenae's sister, Renae, lost her virginity as soon as she could, and she's had sex plenty of times . Tom and Kenae told her I'm a virgin . She believes I have the right to my decision, she understands, and she's behind me completely . Renae told her boyfriend, Carl, that I'm a virgin . Carl's had sex plenty of times . Carl's dead now, but he believed I have the right to my decision, he understood, and he was behind me completely . I get plenty of support for my decision . Far be it from me to tell you what to do, but if I was in your situation, I'd put my hands on your hips and say "It's MY decision, and I expect you to stand behind me !" .      

sex before marriage sorts out sexual imcompatibilty, organ fitness, fetishes, quirks,etc.......also avoids wasting money on a doomed wedding and divorce

Choosing not to have sex is your prerogative. If you feel you are being bashed, it's clear that you aren't as confident in your choice as you think you are.

I suspect that what you call 'bashing' is really just people questioning YOUR arcane, antiquated concept of what sex prior to marriage entails. Your ignorance is what they are reacting to, not the decision itself. "No sex before marriage" IS A RELIGIOUS CONCEPT.. The fact that you don't know this is ridiculous.

You are grossly mistaken in thinking the opposite of virginity is screwing around indiscriminately. When you suggest that non-virgins are sleeping with different people every week you ARE suggesting that you think you're better than others.

Sex before marriage does NOT automatically result in STD's or pregnancy. You're an idiot to say "if you want that, knock yourself out". Those who want to protect their reproductive health protect their reproductive health. You can do that AND not deny your sexuality.

And Honey... clearly you DO care what we opine, or you wouldn't be posting here to try to convince us you know what you're talking about. When a person is confident in themselves and their decisions, they don't feel the need to defend themselves to strangers.

you are the only one who can give that power to someone.The second thing you need to know is that no one has the right to make you feel bad. No one! Neither your father or your mother, or your boss, or your partner, or a coworker… nobody! And no matter what that person considers you have done wrong or what you think you should have done differently.

When another person has the power to make you feel bad that’s a sign of a lack of self-esteem. Because, if you love, respect and value yourself, you will not let anyone make you feel the way you don’t want to feel. Give the importance to your opinion, your feelings and your way of being and don’t let anyone make you doubt in yourself. You have a right that others treat you with respect.

If sex to you is such a personal issue and you're waiting until marriage, then how can people think you're "stupid" for not having sex yet?

People whose lives are personal and private don't go around talking about their sex life (or lack of it)

so apparently, you've rushed around announcing the fact you're not having sex right now.... So you're getting opinions about it from others. What do you expect?

You don't like people bashing you for the choices that you've made about your life, exactly your life and people don't want to hear it. Using forums such as this to layout your own personal philosophy can invariably come across as a person also bashing others that made choices opposite to yours, or sounding completely arrogant, neither of which do people find appealing. So, either get use to being criticized or choose not to share info on forum/sites such as this whereby people have a right to bash you seriously or even jokingly to gain a reaction or even hurt your pride, as the choice was yours to offer up your philosophy.