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How to handle someone who won't stop calling me?

My husband and I have a long-term friendship with this pastor and his wife whose church we used to attend. They pastor a small church and lately, attendance has been down. So, just about every time they're having a special service, the pastor calls me and bugs me to death to come. He calls multiple times a week, and usually at the most inconvenient times. I would block his number, but his wife is a close friend of mine and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Lately, I've been ignoring most of his calls. Any ideas on how to deal with this situation?

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  • 1 year ago
    Favorite Answer

    I think you need to talk to the wife. Shes your friend and I think if anyone could solve the issue, it would be her. I'd invite her out to lunch, just you and her and let her know how you feel. That you love them both but you think the calls are becoming excessive. You still want to spend time with them, and you understand the situation with the church but they only need to invite you once and sometimes you just want to stay home because you're exhausted and want down time. Sometimes you just want to be lazy. It's nothing against them personally, but you feel like you're being hassled and guilt tripped into going. 

    If they cant understand that and acts rude to you for being so nice and nicely explaining the situation, then maybe they arent the people you thought they were. As a pastor, they should understand. 

  • Kaz
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    I would continue to screen your calls, and let his go to voicemail.  I would make it clear to the pastor that I was not available for any special services - that I was busy attending my own church and my free time was limited.  You can be a door mat and allow someone to take advantage of you - or speak up - and do your own thing.

  • James
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    If she's a close friend, can't you get her to talk to her husband?

    It's not truthful, but if all else fails you could also say that you've joined a different church closer to home or even converted religions.

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