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How do I breakup with someone who loves me like I’m their whole world?
i need help with breaking up with my boyfriend, I care and love him, just not to the same extent as him. Here’s background info: he’s 20 and I’m 17 (I turn 18 this month). we started dating when I was 16 and he was 18. He is my first serious boyfriend. I’m his second serious girlfriend. I’m in high school. I feel too young for his level of seriousness and love and I never wanted such a serious relationship so early. my parents have always encouraged me to date a lot so I know what I like in a partner and what I want in life and I’ve agreed and wanted that for myself, too. But anyways... so this guy like is hopelessly in love with me and I’m just not reciprocating it to the same level. I wish I could. I just don’t to the level he does. He wants to marry me. He talks about proposing to me next year and he talks about having kids with me. Like he talks as if I’m his whole world... and I just feel awful because it’s not the same for me. How do I breakup with him without breaking him? Seriously like he's closer with me then he is with any of his friends of family. I’m not that way. He values me over everything in his life and I’m just not ready for that. It’s so much pressure that is always stressing me out. Help?
Side note: Also it’s not weird for him to want to marry me so early, that tends to be the norm in my religion (which I don’t want to follow. I don’t want to get married at 18. But I’d be fine getting married in my 20s with the right guy)
3 Answers
- GlassLv 71 year agoFavorite Answer
Tell him it's over and then cut ties completely. Don't offer to stay friends or imply you could change your mind. That is the kindest way to deal with someone like him. Any attention will only give him false hope and encourage him to keep trying to get you back. He is an adult, he is capable of coping with rejection and disappointment. You are not his caretaker or therapist, how he feels isn't your problem. Make a clean break so you both can move on.
He has put you on a pedestal and is infatuated with his fantasy version of you. If he loved the real you, he wouldn't pressure you in to marriage or to conform to his religion. He would actually treat you like a partner and care about your input instead of unilaterally planning your lives. He isn't letting guilt or empathy for you hold him back from doing what he wants, you shouldn't either.
- Anonymous1 year ago
How about Praying to God. Then showing him this YA question you have here? It should explain all to him.
Is it possible you may want to be with him later on in life?
- ?Lv 71 year ago
Of course you don't want to hurt him, but sometimes in life, hurting someone we care about is inevitable. You are hurting him worse in the long-term by dragging this out and giving him false hope. What you're doing right now isn't kind.
Think of it as pulling off a plaster. The quicker and sooner you do it, the better it's going to be for everyone. Of course he will be devestated but he will move on, and you have to do what's best for you.
Otherwise you're going to end up married at 18, a couple of kids by 23, miserable and depressed at 30 because you wasted the best years of your life in a loveless marriage.
How does that sound compared to one uncomfortable conversation?
