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Ladies is it bad I don’t give my husband a ******** because I think it’s gross?

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  • 12 months ago

    No it’s not bad if you thinks it’s gross, you have a choice. You don’t have to like it. But if he’s a GOOD man, and he done earned it, it’s kinda cruddy if your wife won’t do it. And it’s selfish she don’t even give it a try knowing it’s something I really want. 

    it’s wrong if you don’t at least try and make your husband happy. Relationships are a give and take. Sometimes we all do things we don’t want to do or have to do to please our mate. There has to be a balance or course. A give and take. If you refuse to give him head, does he at least get to have anal sex! Do you try to find other ways to excite him That are equal to his want for oral sex. If so, he can shut up and enjoy.lol if you deny him that too, than again, where’s the balance.. it’s not cool.Think of it like this, one day you may need him! One day your husband may be the one to have to wipe the dodo of your butt. Or give you a shower after you messed yourself. Or he may have to change your Menstruation period pad for you or clean up the sheets after you’ve lost control of your bladder and peed the bed.. all gross stuff for men.  And he will do it, even though it’s gross to him, because he loves you. So yea, get a few drinks. Loosen up them jaws or that booty and go take care of him please. 

  • Anonymous
    12 months ago

    No. This is something that needs to be talked about upfront. Most Guys do like it but it’s not something you need to do if you don’t want it. 

  • Ocimom
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    Its something you don't like to do.  Did you discuss it prior to marriage.  Its something 99% of guys like and kinda expect.  If you don't like to do it, don't pretend.  Be clear its not something you want to do.  BUT be prepared to keep him sexually satisfied!

  • ?
    Lv 5
    12 months ago

    yes..yes it is..u better get to doing it or won of my 4 triplet ((sisters)) will.

  • 12 months ago

    Your prerogative. If you don't want to, that's your business.  If he is insistent on it, it wouldn't really hurt you to give in once in a while though.

  • Anonymous
    12 months ago

    Of course it’s bad. If you don’t do it, someone else will.

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    As long as your aversion was established before you got married and he's okay with it that's fine. But if you pretended to like it or just failed to make your phobia clear to him in the beginning you're being pretty duplicitous.

  • dman63
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    You haven’t said whether he goes down on you or not.  If he doesn’t that’s his business and you’re even.  But...if he’s happy to provide that for you then you should return the favour.  It doesn’t have to be every time, but remember that it works both ways.

  • Anonymous
    12 months ago

    If you want the honest answer, the answer is yes.  When did you make this known to your husband, that he was never going to get head?  Did you conceal and cover it up early, hinting at the promise of a lifetime of sex, only to have him commit to a lifetime of not being loved?

    I'm in that boat.  I do not feel loved by my wife.  My face easily slips in between her thighs, no hesitation whatsoever.  None.  I don't think she's gross.  Why does she think I'm gross?  Why do you think your husband is gross?

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    I'm leaving when our youngest is finished with school.  I'm not going to live the rest of my life not being loved.  That's how 'bad' that is.  If your husband is in the 1% of guys who don't like BJs, then you're fine.  But chances are that he will find it elsewhere.  Why do you think your husband is gross?

  • ?
    Lv 5
    12 months ago

    I mean if you already established your limits a long time ago with him, I'm sure he's okay with it or he would left by now. It's a lot of wussy dudes out there that don't eat the box so you're in the same bracket as them. 

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