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Should I be OK with my girlfriend talking to her recent ex boyfriend? They broke up less than two months ago. ?
We were in a relationship for three years for a short period of time(like the last few months of our 3yr relationship it was on again off again and the last time she got with this guy and was with him for about 4-5 months then told me she wanted to break up with him and get back with me so that’s what happened Yet she insists on talking to him via text Facebook messenger and phone call even though I’ve made it clear that it’s a dealbreaker for me if she continues to talk to him. she insists that they are just friends and that I have nothing to worry about and is willing to say”screw the dealbreaker I still wanna be friends with him! Go if you fell that’s a dealbreaker!” am I in the wrong here? All opinions welcome Even the devils advocate
3 Answers
- AnaLv 68 months ago
Your only mistake here is not following through on your ultimatum.
You’re completely right. She’s being a cheating hoe. But she doesn’t FEAR YOU enough. She doesn’t fear the consequences of her behavior
She doesn’t think you’ll dump her. She doesn’t think you’ll publicly shame her to everyone. She doesn’t think you’ll kick her out of your place.
You need to ACT, and dump her and kick her out. And then tell her if she doesn’t delete him within a week you’ll publicly shame her to everyone, too. Show you mean business. It takes both fear and love to create respect
- Anonymous8 months ago
Everyone is entitled to their friends, as are you. Forbidding her to maintain a friendship is controlling.
What she’s not entitled to do is screw the guy while in a relationship with you.
You should be OK with her talking to him if you trust her. If you don’t trust her, you wont be able to love her.
She’s not going to want to be with you if you’re controlling. It would be a dealbreaker for her.
If she’s not trustworthy, dump her.
- yLv 78 months ago
The enlightened 21 century man will say, it's all right. They can just be friends, nothing will happen. The old man who has seen this play out time and time again understand this temptation. Understands that she has no intention of behaving badly, until she does. That this contact is influencing the flood of chemicals through her body, that she is getting and emotional charge out of it, whether she admits it our not.
Put pressure on her to break off the contact, you'll be the bad guy, the controlling one, the one in the wrong. Don't ask her to stop the contact will result in her figuring it out for herself, and breaking it off. Or her having a last fling, then breaking it off, or she will start to sneak around with him until they are caught, or her breaking it off with you for him. There are no winning answers and you can't control her actions. All you can do is figure out what is best for yourself, then follow that path.
