Why is it never ok to express you love towards someone anymore?

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When I was younger, I used to tell girls that I like/love them. They told me that they like/love me back. These days, none of that occurs, not by words neither by action

All the advice I get from the internet is that:

"do not tell her you like her, she'll lose interest"

"Do not kiss her throughout the date, only after you're home"

While all these rules are valid. I did lose girls before when I told them I like or made them know that I do. Ever since I wiped out all my feelings

These days I go on dates with script in my mind: what to say, how to act, when to be silent, when to kiss, when to withdraw

I get irritated every time I need to text them. Before I used to text them, whenever i felt like and text for hours back and forth

These days, it's only to create dates. And if she responds hours later, I respond a day later.

All I'm saying is that dating became a nightmare. I don't know what's right anymore.

Is is the same with you guys?

Thank you

? · Accepted Answer

Im engaged and have been in a relationship for eight years so i don't date anyone but i remember when i was younger i kind of went through the same thing that you're going through i hated that awkwardness where you had to play games and read between the lines or hold back on how you felt it was like it was never acceptable to just say it. When i started dating my fiance i was more than okay with holding off on saying everything i felt until he was comfortable we eased into telling each other how we felt so it was like we were on the same page and i really liked that. It was never a nightmare experience with him. He makes me really happy and i think when you find the right girl you guys will also be on the same page it's just like you'll be able to read her and you'll feel when she's ready to tell you how she feels about you. It sounds weird but you can sense it. I hope this helps because i've been where you are and it's almost like people expect you to act like a robot and you're a stalker if you call them instead of texting. Sounds like nothing much has changed since the last time i was single way back when except most people are a lot more careless so just be careful and always know that you're important no matter what anyone says. Take care of yourself and good luck.

Patricia · Answer

Dating is a nightmare because everyone has some idea they have to act "cool" and like someone they are NOT.  Be yourself.  You'll get further.

And falling in love is a process which takes more than a week or even a few months.

Jesere · Answer

Your date is quite possibly be having the same thoughts as you are. If your nervous say so then laugh. Be yourself.  This comes from my 20 + years of experience dating

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