how to gauge a women interest first time mmeting them?

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im 25 and i say i do pretty well with girls. my friends say my approach is good and they all say certain girls are looking at me. when i approach girls at bars i basically go up to them ask them there name say my name ask them im bout to leave so let me get your snapchat if they dont have that phone number never ig i tell them i dont accept that or maybe something like i like your tattoos and ask for there info looking them in there eyes there always smile or what not. my buddies say im not making long conversation thats why and im not  making a impression on them. what do you think ? im also asking this because im not getting text back 80% of the numbers or snaps im getting.i want everyone response but really wanna hear what the girls have to say. i really think these girls are attracted to me physically but yeah

Kate · Accepted Answer

Physical attraction will get you literally nowhere. You have to bring a lot more to the table than that. What is an attractive guy who acts as bland as a piece of paper? Idk personally I just like men with substance. I would say definitely try to make girls laugh. That would be my best advice but the thing about that is.. humor is something you either are born with or aren’t & forced humor is just so cringe. 
 Also maybe try being less assertive. I know that guys that are too assertive can sometimes scare us off. 
 Haha I really don’t know what advice to give because the first thing my husband said to me when we first met was “do you even talk bro” 😂 now we’re married 🤷🏼‍♀️ Life’s a strange thing. But what made me fall for my husband was his asshole persona but his lowkey softness that he only shows with me. Also that he is just unapologetically himself & absolutely hilarious. That cocktail is a recipe for marriage allegedly! Haha all I can tell you is what worked for my husband. 
 Also idk how old you are but I met my hubby in college. Try taking a few courses or something & meet a girl that way Bc usually the only girls who go out to bars are party girls looking for a hook-up.

seedy history · Answer

I think it's easier to get a gal's number the second or third time she's met you if she's interested. If you are particularly interested in a gal, find out something about her that means you might be able to run into her outside the clubs and meet her  in real life for a few minutes. If she sees you at a club, at the Farmer's Market, an outside cafe... Then you're not just a guy in the dark but someone she shares her universe with.

choko_canyon · Answer

You'll never have any success with really interesting, intelligent women as long as you don't start writing as if you actually graduated from the 6th grade. Your spelling is terrible, your grammar is awful, you appear to have no idea how to use punctuation, and you come across FAR younger than the 25 years old you claim to me. I'm not telling you all this just to criticize you, I'm doing it because you asked for help getting more responses back from your texts. If you text as poorly as you wrote this post most women will not be interested in you.

Wow, sorry I didn't realize how defensive you were about your lack of writing skill.

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