How do I get him to marry me?

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This guy I know for a fact wants to get married in general. I met this man on the premise that we were going to get married because thats we both wanted i think more so he wants it more than me. So youd think it'd be easy to do right? Wrong. He has some sort of plight where he is stuck between wanting to marry a woman who earns a lot of money in his business industry, or be with a girl like me who doesnt have a job. He says things like "my mom never had to work a day in life" but then also says the opposite things like "you dont make any money youre broke, youre competing with girls who earn a lot" and then i tell him that i went and told my cousins im getting married and he says "we'll see" So i mean im a little confused if he actually is serious about wanting to get married to me or not. It seems as though he isnt sure of what type of wife he wants. i mean what can i do to make him feel a little bit more interested in chosing to marry me instead of a girl with a job...

Update:

update, i dont intend to marry for love i just want to marry for money i dont care if the guy i marry is a douche i just want to get married in general period

David · Accepted Answer

OK, not sure if this is a troll or not.  I suspect not, as most women really do marry for money.  Most are not honest enough to state PLAINLY that that's what they are doing.  But there's a reason why when you meet a woman, the first two things she wants to know about you are 
1)  What is your job title?
2)  How much money do you make?
And if you can't get past those two questions, there is no 2nd date.  Sometimes, there is not a first date.

So I'm not sure whether you are a troll or not.  If so, then at least you are an honest troll.  So there's something to be said for that...

You want to know how to get a guy to marry you.  Well, regardless of what any man says, men value just a few qualities in a prospective future wife.  Those men who are stupid enough to get married, that is.  A lot of men are beginning to realize that it's just not a good idea to ever get married.  But men who are looking for wives or even just serious long-term girlfriends...they are looking for:

1)  Youth  (generally, 23 or younger)
2)  Beauty  (look 23 or younger, and cute/feminine
3)  Sexy (in particular, be NOT overweight, but have some curves in certain places...the classic hourglass figure, for example)
4)  NOT a bltch  (have a good attitude, be a lady...especially when conflict arises)

In this day and age, it is almost impossible to meet any girl who matches that description that is both INTERESTED in marriage, and yet not married already.  But the guys who are worth marrying, that is the qualities (1-4 above) that they are interested in.

If he says he's interested in your job title or how much money you make, he's just using that as an excuse to string you along.  Men don't really care about that.  That is something that women care about in men.  Men aren't looking to marry other men.  (well, most of them aren't, anyway)

Barb Outhere · Answer

Simple show that you can be more than a girl who just needs/wants some man to support her the whole of their lives by actually either studying for a job, or going out and doing one.

Dr. Stephanie · Answer

Whether you marry or not, don't have children.

i + i · Answer

He is playing mind games with you. 
Sad that you still think it's a good 
idea to marry someone like this.

Anonymous · Answer

Dont waste to much time playing this little game of his. Tell him you need to know exactly where you stand so if this isn't going to work you can find a guy who is ready to marry you. A little assertion on your part is needed and if it doesn't work then it's better to have a little heartache now than have more heartache after wasting years of your life.

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