Is it normal to breakaway from the expectation of Marriage?

So do you really believe that 20% of single men are dating 90% of the single women out there? Because that’s what you imply, with your statement about many average guys not dating at all. But all those women who are just “flinging around” must be doing so with someone, do you really think it’s those same few lucky guys that are hitting everything out there? Nope, not even close. 

Now, I do think the advent of technology has increased the number of people who don’t know how to interact with others in person, because they are so used to electronic interactions that they have very little in the way of social skills. And as a result, there may be people who have less success with in person dating connections because they have zero social skills. A man who spent his teens and twenties completely absorbed in online gaming and watching YouTube videos hits his thirties and realizes he doesn’t know how to actually connect with women in his peer group because he’s never learned how. Whereas women in their teens and twenties are often focused on things like trying to be “influencers” and drive their numbers of followers on social media, so focus on other aspects of internet connection. Yes, there are women gamers, yes there are male influencers, but as a generality, the online connections between men and women are different. And men who don’t develop proper social interaction skills IRL finding it difficult to date successfully as they age.

Also, many people see less and less benefit to marriage. Women are financially independent, so don’t need to depend on a man for financial support, a big reason they used to get married. Having children out of wedlock no longer carries the social stigma it used to, for either the mother or the child, so many women who might historically have gotten married either because they were pregnant or wanted to become mothers no longer feel the obligation to do so. 

In many places women can now earn money and support themselves so they don't generally jump into early marriages just to have a roof over their heads. Good jobs now require more education so even people who do want to get married generally wait until they've finished school, thus making the average marriage age older. But yeah, a lot of people, both male and female, engage in hookup culture while they're getting their lives together enough to be able to marry. You can't say only women are doing this because most of them are having sex with men (so clearly men are hooking up too). 

I have been to 5 weddings in the last decade. The Brides and Grooms were all 30 or over. Educated professionals who worked hard to obtain their goals. Who have marked interests in social and civic issues and actively work to aid others less fortunate. All brides and grooms put themselves through school and were self supporting and contributing. No silver spoons. No rich families. Just real people. 

We live in the same world. Our viewpoints are very different. I see ZERO evidence that men are being victimized, conned, fooled and ruined by your offering that women are now merely sluts and users because they missed their chance to be TV Sitcom version of motherhood. You need to meet new people! Maybe move to a new town. Make a change for yourself.