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Is it normal to still think about high school crushes, years later? ?
So, I'm 26 years old. When I was 16, I fell in love with my teacher. I became pretty obsessed with him, at least til I was about 18/19. Long story short, as time went on, I had to "give up" on being with him. I turned 19, and 20, and he just never contacted me.
I've now been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 6 years! I'm very serious about him, he lives with me, I want to marry him and have his kids. I STILL think about the teacher.
I don't constantly think about him. It comes and goes when I reminisce about high school. I still dream about him, too. I've recently dreamed of seeing him and his wife (he only got married in 2019. I last saw him in 2013) I dreamed I've seen him and his wife at thier house. I'm thinking about driving by thier house for real to get it out of my head and system.
I feel awful about this. I don't get why he still matters to me that much. I totally understand that he was a HUGE crush/infatuation for me in my teenage and high school years. But I can't understand why he still seems to matter to me.
Is this normal by any means? Does this happen to others? I mean, my BF's mother still talks about a guy she dated for 3 years, before she was with her current husband (BF's dad). And that took place in the 70s! I don't know. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks. 👍🙏
Update 1: THANK YOU to mokrie!! Although, I did not plan to stop at the house at all, only DRIVE by it, you're still right. It's just this curiosity about it with me. I definitely want he and his wife and me and my boyfriend to stay the same!
You are also definitely right about the way it felt as a teenager, and the perception I had of him because I never got the chance with him. Which I don't think would have actually worked out anyway, as you said. Thank you. 🙂
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- mokrieLv 72 months agoFavorite Answer
Totally normal. You have to remember that at that age from 13 to 18 your a volcano of hormones turning your body into a woman. It's the Romeo and Juliet years of life where a pimple is a reason for suicide and a crush is bigger then life. Had you really been with him until now you'd probably realize he's not for you but since that didn't happen you still have the romantic version of him in your mind. First loves always stay with us through life but one word of warning. DO NOT go see him. His wife would take it very badly and may believe he cheated on her or he was having sex with students. He was a crush. Keep the memories but don't mess things up with reality. Most all girls have these memories of someone that we obsessed over at that age. Just relax and don't worry about it.
- halfadozen1984Lv 62 months ago
Yes I think it's normal. I miss my ex-wife that CHEATED on me 20 years ago. The heart has its own time.
- Anonymous2 months ago
Sure. I think about everything I've done and everyone I've known all the time. Memories are constantly popping into my head going back to when I was two. I remember it all. I think that's why. I think it's because I'm continually remembering something and thinking about it. Unless I'm actively mentally focused on doing something, that is what my brain is doing, never idle.
