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Parents having suicidal thoughts because of my relationship ?

I been in a long distance relationship for over a year and my parents hate the relationship because of the difference in culture and the fear of unknown due to distance.

This is a really important relationship for me and I love her a lot and it has made me happy.

My parents don’t want to accept it and have threaten me to choose between them and her. As my family is really important to me, I discussed why I couldn’t have both and how I want to work over the challenges of distance and culture.

They are adamant and they have been telling me that my decision is causing them to die everyday.  They said their are planning their insurance and wills because of the effect of stress on them.

I feel so hopeless. I don’t know what to do.

I been affected so much and now taking medications for depression. I’m myself also having bad thoughts to stop the suffering. 

Update:

I’m 21

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  • 4 weeks ago

    Your parents led their lives,  now you live yours.  They made their decisions,  so man up and make yours. 

    Their stupid threats are pathetic. 

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    At least now we where you get your flair for drama from. For anyone in this family, including you, to be putting so much importance on what is essentially a pen pal situation is a little strange. The reality likely is that you were already depressed and that's why you've latched on to this stranger online. But your parents also have some mental problems if any part of this story is true. So maybe urge them to look into seeing a professional about this. It's not a healthy response to threaten suicide just because your kid has an online friend from a different culture. 

  • 4 weeks ago

    Your parents gave you a choice and then there is nothing you can do about that but decide who you chose.  Life is full of choices. Parents do worry about their kids and the choices they make in life. I would listen to your parents and maybe find someone in the same culture since you seem to be stressing about it too and want to stay close to your family. 

  • 4 weeks ago

    Your parents are manipulating and bullying you.

    I suggest you find a counselor in your area to help you work through this.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    How old are you? Cultural differences are non existing these days but every now and then you will find that there are arising issues.

    I think you're parents are just being overprotective but maybe they're not well. It's good that they plan for those things since I'm sure they are waiting on what they expect to happen.. 

    Take your medications as prescribed, and speak to your psychiatrist about this stuff.. especially since now you're having ''bad thoughts'' but want to stop the suffering..

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 month ago

    I have a son and daughter, and would never have treated either like that.  Totally shameful.  Today I have three grandchildren, and proud of my kids, their spouses, and all three delightful grandchildren.

    You should simply ignore your parents' coercive behavior.  Stop sharing information on your gf with them, since they clearly don't want to know it.  Since she is so far away, the relationship may eventually end, but if it continues at some point you may have to tell your parents they will become grandparents soon.  That should change their attitudes!

  • 1 month ago

    How sad. I agree with the others that there is something manipulative and very damaging in their approach but perhaps they are simply incapable of discussing this with you. Is there another family member who could mediate? It is an awful decision for you to make, no wonder why you're in despair. I'd be too. I would try to find a relative or someone they trust to talk to them. 

  • 1 month ago

    I am a firm believer in taking care of one's self as the topmost priority. The ultimate manipulation is to threaten suicide, if someone doesn't get what they want. But from your description, it sounds less like suicide and more like "murder", for which they might blame you. Its nonsense.

    You must come from a culture where parents choose and arrange a marriage. Do you?  No doubt, its always a good idea to have one's affairs in order, such as insurance and wills, regardless. So, good for them.

    They are forcing you to choose, which is unfortunate. Perhaps you might arrange for your girlfriend to meet them, although , if I were her, I surely wouldn't want to do so.

    Have you always conformed to their wishes, when they go against your own?  Now is the time for you to choose, since they are forcing you to do so. Good luck and good wishes,  

  • 1 month ago

    I don't know I've never had a white girls parents upset with me for hanging out with her or a Latina or half Latina. I'm really sorry for my appearance fake gf on phone tell your boss I said so this is what tax dollars should be allocated towards. And I'm the one with the his. Lol.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Your parents claim about their insurance and wills is simply a tactic to pressure you into doing what they want.

    You have to decide if your parents or your girl are more important to you.

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