My gf had BV the first time we had sex and I’m very sad/confused about it?

BV is not a sexually-transmitted disease. Anyone can get it, including virgins. It's just a bacterial imbalance, not a true infection.

If she really did have it, she shouldn't have been having sex, because that could just worsen her symptoms and discomfort. I therefore doubt she actually had it.  

You're not a doctor. You have no expertise and no business making assumptions of this kind. You've certainly demonstrated how ignorant you are.

Grow up and stop trolling.

BV stands for Bacterial Vaginosis or Vaginitis.

It is a bacterial infection of the vagina. The vagina maintains a specific pH level. There are naturally occurring "vaginal flora." There's lots of little micro organisms that live in vaginas. There's vaginal yeast, good bacteria, and bad bacteria. All of this is normal.

If the pH level changes, or the population of vaginal flora becomes unbalanced... either of these things can lead to a bacterial infection. This can happen with or *without* sex.

When things in the vagina become unbalanced it can cause inflammation and discomfort. If this happens the person with the vagina should see a doctor. A doctor can confirm the cause. A doctor can provide a prescription for antibiotics.

If a woman has a yeast infection, which is very common, many pharmacies sell yeast infection treatments that don't require a prescription. Ladies can just grab one off the shelf.

Bacterial Vaginitis (BV) is not a sexually transmitted infection. It is not contagious.

You're not very likely to get a penis infection from a woman's vaginal imbalance.

BV isn't gonorrhea or syphilis. It's not the same thing. It's not an STD.

That being said, one way that things can become imbalanced in the vagina, is sex. Don't forget you have your own germs. Having sex smooshes lots of germs around. Germs from you, and germs from her.  Even though BV is not contagious, you* can inadvertently contribute to your special lady getting a vaginal infection.

BV used to be nicknamed honeymooners' syndrome, because an uninformed newly married couple having a ton of sex for the first time (like on a honeymoon) can cause BV.

A great way to avoid BV is simply by having good hygiene. Ideally both people go to the bathroom after sex. Both people pee. Both people take a shower, or clean up in some way.  If pressed for time, wet wipes are highly recommended.

All vaginas have a smell. Some are less pleasant than others. Some smell more, and some less. Having a smell does not necessarily mean BV.

When it comes to infections that are sexually transmittable, anyone can get them. It only takes coming into contact with an infected person one time. That means that a virgin can get an STD the first time they have sex, if the other person is a carrier of an infection.

STDs don't mean that someone is a slüt. Someone having or not having an infection doesn't tell you anything about that person's character, personality, choices, decision making, or how good/bad they are.

How can that be? Well, if a child is raped by an adult who has a disease...then the child could get it. Would you think that a six year old is a bad person because an adult did something to them that they didn't understand? What about a faithful married person whose spouse cheats on them, and brings home a disease without even knowing it? Or a health professional that gets a disease at work from non sexual contact with a patient? Real life is messy.

Ask yourself what if you were the one people say these things about? If that stigma were on you, how would you feel about it?

Some diseases can be cured while others cannot. Imagine if you had one that you couldn't be cured from. What are some of the ways you might take care of yourself? Think about whether or not you would tell anyone.

Challenge the way you think about things. Only you have the power to change your mind. You also have the power to influence others. With your words. And with your actions.

I encourage you to do your own research. Educate yourself, and those around you.

It may not always be obvious, but you can change the lives of those around you in ways that don't always reveal themselves to you. for example, in the way you treat your girlfriend. In the way you do or don't stand up for her. For yourself.

It's a common human behavior to repeat certain phrases we've heard, that we think are the things to be said about certain topics. Even if they aren't true. Sort of like a parrot, or a mocking jay. We mimic sounds, words, behaviors. That we do this can be a fundamental part of learning, adapting, or assimilating. Then there are times it is just plain stupid. Part of growing up is figuring out when is a good time to mimic, and when is a better time to think for ourselves. This does not always go well, lol.

You're already doing the first step. Asking questions, and seeking information. Stay curious!

A mild to moderate "fishy" odor is normal; not indicative of BV.

Moreover, a lack of odor is no indication of being disease-free.

The biggest factor in crotch odors is really just how recently a person's showered...

If avoiding STIs was a simple as a sniff test, they wouldn't be a thing.

It's not an STD it's a bacterial infection. It can be caused by many things, like dirty dicks. Make sure you wash first and she needs treatment.

Get treated. You could have it too

My daughter has a latex sensitivity and her regular outbreaks of BV were actually a reaction to latex in condoms.

Once her Dr identified this and her partner switched to non latex condoms, problem was solved.

maybe you should ask your doctor about it