What's your experience as an alternative mother ?(tatt,goth,punk,etc.)?

I don't consider myself alternative. But I guess to "main stream" people I am. I have dyed hair wear combat boots of sorts and wear band t- shirts.l, more often than not, one tattoo an ears priced. During my first pregnancy I was treated very horribly and lied too about what was going on by doctors and nurses. I lost the baby in a extremely traumatic way. The entire time start to finish almost dying. I get nasty looks from other moms and started at while I wait. I get the how old are you I'm 24 but people tend to think I'm 16 or 18. Get scoffs like I'm lying. It's been hard for me, I don't know what it is if its my ways of dressing or how old I look. I'm nice and friendly even with their  nastiness I don't what it is. Sorry for the poor grammar wording I wrote this in a rush at work