I have come to discover spouses cheat a lot so what is the point of getting married?

And that's one of the many reasons that one must be cautious about marriage, know thoroughly the character of the person before marrying. "I don't believe in long engagements" is right up there with "I know what I'm doing" for famous last words right before a disaster. 

Pick carefully and with maturity, chances are good that your spouse to be will not be a cheater, if you pick the right person.

If that's your experience, then sure, 

it's not for you. There is absolutely 

no point in YOU to get married. 

I don't see why you need to ask 

total strangers for any reason to 

change your mind.

Please don't ALWAYS believe what you hear/read. Obviously a lot of people do split up, which is very sad. People often marry before they have really old enough to make long term commitments. 

We fall madly in love, don’t we, thinking (feeling rather) that it will last forever and is enough for a serious relationship. However, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long. Eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course). If couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. If a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship will probably peter out eventually - or worse. Quite often we fall in love because we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us. Thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful. This is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sexually involved. Sex can be emotionally bonding, which is disastrous if the other things are not there: strong friendship, similar values and standards, common interests, etc.

Many women are not too “mature” until late 20s and a lot of men don’t even start to grow up until their mid thirties (I was one). Actually Judge Judy said recently their forties!

Good Luck!

its so u have someone to give your heart to