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How do I become worthy of my crush?

He's 26 and I'm nearly 22 but he has a great job and I'm just a pathetic student with no direction in life

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    Just bring him down to your level!  Whenever I want to make someone feel less worthy I just poop on them!

  • Janet
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    People don't fall in love because of worthiness.

    They fall in love when their subconscious sees something in your subtle subconscious cues that remind them of what their own subconscious expects.  Usually it is buried pain, and the expectation that the other person will bring our pain to the surface.  And the harder we "fall" for someone, the more it is about our buried pain.  The stronger the crush is, the worse the relationship turns out to be.  

    Assuming we aren't just crushing BECAUSE we read the other person as non-responsive. In which case it is neediness seeking to BE loved rather than TO love .. accompanied with insecurity so strong that we cannot pick someone who MIGHT respond back, because we are afraid we are so unworthy that we will only end up getting dumped.

    And for men, they fall in love right away .. or they don't.  And if they do, they try to make you their gf right away.

    BUT an emotionally-HEALTHY man will date you steadily for at least a year before he decides if you and he get along well-enough to make a commitment.

    But unless he already WAS looking for a wife don't expect him to want to commit to you just because he fell in love with you.

    Men are not women.

    And if we are not content with ourselves and our life BEFORE we meet someone, we will NOT remain happy with them once the honeymoon phase dies out.

    And crushes happen when we are not happy, and we hope someone else can "fix" us and our life, so we glom onto some stranger, create a fantasy about them, and thing this will fix us.

    Really, it takes a few years of living with someone to start to KNOW what they are like in a close relationship.  There will always be some unpleasant surprises, no matter how excited the dating stage was, no matter how long we dated them (experts recommend at LEAST 2 years of steady, in-person dating before we marry or even move in together).

    Your expectations are totally unrealistic and will lead to heartbreak.

  • 2 weeks ago

    Hey ! Don’t talk down on yourself. You are not a pathetic student !  It is very common not to know which direction to go while you are studying . In time it usually becomes more clear. You can talk to teachers or do a little research on what jobs are available in the kind of Selected subjects you have chosen. Try to keep, on Focussing on your study and do as well as you can. If he is the right person for you it will happen. Crushes don’t always end up becoming serious relationships, but sometimes they do. So, don’t worry too much but keep on focussing and keep on dreaming. https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/teenagers/as...

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