~lyss~

it's a very very complicated situation, so i will try to summarize:

I dated this guy for somewhere 1 1/2 years (depending what you count). My ex's parent's don't like me/broke us up in March of this past year. We 'got back together' in May, but without the approval of his parents, so we were essentially just good friends who wanted to be more until late July. In the middle of a conversation via Facebook, he told me he didn't think it was working out. I then didn't hear from him for 2 and a half weeks, at which point I received a Facebook message saying he was breaking up with me. I was furious and hurt and said some not so nice things, which I later apologized for. He did, too, but he has yet to apologize.

Anyway, we are really good friends with the same group and I want things to be normal again. Unless I say something to him, he has not spoken to me in person since before we broke up. 2 weeks ago I told him I honestly just want to be friends and I don't want it to be awkward between us, and he agreed, but he is still ignoring me. I'm honestly really sick of trying to be mature here and I want to know how to make this right. I want to have a mature and serious conversation with him but I don't want to be the overly emotional psycho ex, so what do you guys think?

Thank you so so much! xoxo

Kay. well, i've liked A for around 10 months. all the while, he flirted with me, and we became close friends. He never talked to my best friend near as much as to me, and didnt really flirt with her at all. now i find out he likes her, and i'm totally crushed. plus, she accidentally told him i liked him so now i feel really awkward around him, even though he said it would be fine, etc. The worst thing is, she didnt like him allll that much, and said she wouldn't be at all disappointed if he had liked me. so how do i get over him?!? and why did he pretend to like me?? i feel so used, but i know he's a good guy. please help. (btw, we're sophomores in HS.)

thanks x

Okay then. So one of my really good friends happens to be male. I happen to really, really like him and have for ages. Okay, not ages. but since October or November. You see, i think he might like me, but we are at the point in our friendship that I can't tell what he means as friendship and what he means as flirting. So, if he likes you, you ask, why didn't he ask you out yet? Well, this girl that we both know, who used to like him, asked him in January at our winter dance if he had a girlfriend. He replied that there was a girl he liked, but he isn't ready to have a girlfriend. (so she backed off.) We have been friends since August and it could, maybe, possibly have been me but I'm scared to risk our friendship. I value him as a friend so much and it would be awkward for ages if he doesn't return the feeling.[If you want more details, like 'what does he do?' that are too long to add into here, feel free to email me or whatever.]

thanks a ton everybody :]

Okay, my face is bad. just..bad. I don't get what i'm doing wrong!

i..

-wash my face morning and night

-exfoliate 3-4 times a week

-eat healthy food

-exercise a lot

So there's really 2 things i'm not the best at- i pick at my face too much, but i'm getting better. also i don't drink quite enough water.

Is that it?? what else can i do to get clear skin??

ps- i barely wear makeup so i don't think it's that.

thanks!

So. Me and this guy have been close friends for about 9 months. I've liked him since november. One of my best friends suddenly decides she likes him too! What to do?? see, i talk to him more/know him better, but she's gorgeous. I don't know what to do. I think he likes me, but i'm not sure, and if he does then she'll be crushed, but either way one of us will be hurt. What would you guys do? Thanks a bunch xx

Okay. i went to a different middle school than most people in my freshman class and so i started out not knowing anyone, but now i have really good friends. but, in pretty much all my classes, i'm surrounded by popular guys. and i really don't like it. they're mean and perverted and don't talk to me. so should i like try to talk to them or something? i don't know what to do. i am..not popular, but friendly with the 'semi-populars' so thats where i am :P. thankss!

okay. my best friend in this world has been cutting herself for over a year and a half. she told me on december 7, 2008. it was really hard for me to deal with because i kept praying and praying and trying to help, but nothing happened so i lost faith and fell into depression. i'm picking myself up now, and i know i need to be there for her no matter what but i can't help doubting it will ever change because she refuses to tell anyone. it's dragging me down but i refuse to let go, because i'm all she has. the saddest part is she's only 13 and has already experienced so many awful things. what do i do?

thank you.

OHHkay i'm sorry in advance, if this is long.

So i went to a really small middle school...and when i came to high school last fall i had 2 best friends and knew almost no one. over the past months i've become friends with a group of people and we're getting really close, but it seems my 2 best friends(i'll call them ann and mary) are following pretty reluctantly. alright well one of my new freinds invited me to her house before a bball game with 2 other friends, but neither ann or mary were invited. the thing is, they don't reallly TRY to talk to my new friends, and you can't blame someone for not inviting someone who doesn't talk to them. mary came to the game too, and she only came over to see if i knew where ann was then only joined us when ann left, but didn't talk. i never noticed her leave either.

so the question is, is she mad at me? what should i have done and what should i do?

again, i'm sorry. thanks a ton :)

Like if someone really doesn't like you, for no apparent reason, do you feel bad about yourself? If not how do/did you get over that?

thanks :)

it's brown, a couple inches longer than shoulder length, a little layered, and longish side bangs. also very fine and quite thin. heres a pic. idk how well you can see it but that gives you people an idea. i want to do something new, fresh, a liiittle risky...just change it up. any ideas? thanks so much! only nice answers, please...

link:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/35248771@N07/42242465...

okay so i'm 14 and this is my second period i'm on right now. im scared to use tamponss. yeahh its weird. but i want to cause it always feels really uncomfortable with a pad. i kind of tried putting it in but it felt weird. yeahh. anyway. help me? :)

thanks. x

okay so we'lll name best guy friend Gary and Crush we shall name Tom. Tom and his friends think gary is gay. now, tom is a sweet adorable wonderful guy except for this, and it pisses me off. Even if Gary was gay, it wouldn't matter and he'd still be the amazing friend he is. I really like Tom but i worrry those 2 won't get on good at all. what to do?

thanks x

Okay, so this guy i'm real good friends with asked me out. i have no idea what to do. my sister(dunno how she knew about any of this) was like 'lyss come here a sec!' and then i come over and she says 'just say yes kay?' and i'm, like, wtf? but i just say 'ohhkay...?' andd so i saidd 'sure' cause i couldnt just say NO like that. ughhhh. (he asked me to the musical with him) i talked to my friends about it and they said im leading him on(i know i am, im sorry!!) but what am i supposed to do about it now? should i just email him this weekend or something and then try not to see him to much at school?? We run after school as part of the off-season between XC and track so it isnt like i'll never see him. please help! what do i do??

~love lyssa

Alrighty people. how do YOU tell if a guy likes you or if he's just friendly?

what if he's outgoing, so you cant really tell if he shows special 'attention' to you? just asking to see what you guys think. thanks!!

i am 5'5 and 104 lbs. like a size 1 or 2 and A cup. i am almost 14 + not gotten my period. seems like that and the whole boob thing are a little behind. now i run xc and well i want to gain a bit of weight but i refuse to hurt my running. its not like i can just stop running. also, i have found im never hungry at lunch anymore and if i eat at lunch i feel sick when i run. (why is this??) i think some people think i'm anorexic but its really just not true. i don't know. what should i do?

my first HS dance. casual. i have no idea what to wear so im just wearing dark wash skinny flares, cure casual flats, and a pretty tight black t shirt with neon starrs. am i good? what should i do with my hair? leave it down??

thanks!!

i started out, my first 5k with 27:45. my next was 26:12, then 24:38, then 24:25, and today i ran a 23:18. i can feel myself getting stronger and stronger. idk how well i will do, we have about 7 races yet. what do you reccomend doing?? thank so much!!!

btw, i am in 9th grade and i am almost 14.

okay, so i started high school about 3 weeks ago. i come from a littlee school, 7 of us went to this highschool, and im really good friends with only 2 of them. so almost alll of the freshmen went to the BIG middle school, so they already have their groups of friends. how do you become actual really good friends with people??? cause it isnt like they're mean, they are either nice or dont pay attention to you. but, they dont seem to want to become friends because they already have themselves a group. i want to make new friends and all that. any ideas??

thanks so much!!

PS i run XC, but there is only one other freshman girl who didnt go to my school, so the whole join a sport thing doesnt work to well.

for my XC team, we have retro day to celebrate steve prefontaine(stop pre!) we're going really outta control dorkyness for the fun of it. what should i do with my hair? (note-we are running. to the ice cream place. not fast, and not very far(mile-ish), but running nevertheless. thanks!!

my friend...we used to be best friends but we fought....now she doesnt really care about me anymore n i dont know how i feel about her..and it just hurts that we made all these plans, friends forever....and i just want a good song to capture how i feel. you guys help??

thanks.