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I have a younger friend who I thought was my best friend. We were planning a canoe trip and he said he wanted to go to a strip club and maybe even find a girl to have a threesome. He also said he'd send me pictures of his girlfriend if I sent him pictures of mine, which I did. He then said he wasn't going on the trip because all he wanted to do was canoe and it was obvious I wanted to do more than that and that he had no intention of sending me pictures of his girlfriend. I feel so betrayed. I can't understand why someone would say they wanted those things and then turn around and make it sound like I was the bad guy. Should I try to salvage this friendship or should I write him off? ... P.S. He knows I'm bisexual but there was no discussion of our having sex together. Also, he is 19.

You know the flap of material the shoulder of a uniform shirt? It has a button. You can use it to wear rank insignia. What do you call that flap of material?

It's about an electrician who serves as the executioner for the state. When it is time to train his son to be the executioner, which is a job he has kept secret from everyone including his wife, the son asks "the question," which is, "Do you enjoy it?"

I used to have a copy but I've lost it. Do you know the author and what compilation it appears in? Thanks.

I'm trying to decide which to buy.

Whenever someone I know is pregnant (or wife/girlfriend is pregnant), I always try to have a casual and brief conversation about circumcision. While I am against circumcision, I'm not pushy with people. I just think that a lot of people make the decision to circumcise their boys without knowing enough about it. I respect their decision, but I want them to know that it's rarely medically necessary. My wife thinks I shouldn't bring it up with people. I think people don't talk about it enough. What do you guys think; should I bring it up with expectant parents. Obviously, I discuss it only with friends I feel close to.

Incidentally, I discussed it with my nephew some years ago; his wife just had a boy and they decided to not circumcise him. If I hadn't discussed it with him, I'm not sure he would have given it any thought.

Is it impolite to discuss it?

I've got Landslide by Fleetwood Mac and a song called Faded Photographs. The video is 30 minutes long and ends with segments with each of their children with their kids. For those segments, I used songs from the year each kid was born. But I'm getting flack from some siblings for that approach, but they haven't offered any alternatives. It's not that big of a deal to swap out songs, but I need suggestions. Any ideas? Each of the "kid segments" runs 2.5 to 4 minutes. There are six of them. Thanks.

And is there a rehab facility for that?

I want to earn another $10,000 per year. I could work a second job. Use eBay. Garage sales. Offer a service such as resume writing or photo editing. Deliver pizzas. I have a good job that has to come first. Anyone have any suggestions on a good way to add another $10,000 in income without having to feel like I have another full-time job? Thanks for your ideas.

My daughter's boyfriend is 16. When we were shopping together, he seemed to spend a lot of time looking at sexy guy underwear and has shown an interest in my (guy) underwear -- even trying on a thong and "borrowing" my sexiest underwear. He borrows a lot of clothes from me and has come over completely dressed in my clothes.

He also shows little interest in sex (which is a good thing from a father's perspective) or even heavy petting. It's not that I want him to grope my daughter, but it just seems odd.

He's a bit flamboyant at times. He has a gay aunt, so I don't think he's homophobic, although he sometimes says he is.

He's a good kid and I don't care if he's gay or not. I'm bi, but my daughter doesn't know it; I think he suspects it due to the thong and other sexy underwear. (I would never come onto him; that'd be wrong in so many ways.)

Do you think he just has an underwear fetish and feels safe with me, or do you think he could be gay?

In my 40s, it seems like my penis is not as long as it was in my 20s but is a lot thicker. It does not measure as long, not that I measure with any frequency. I'm just wondering if this is common or not. I measured a full 8 inches in my 20s. It's about 7 to 7.5 now depending on how aroused I am. FYI, I am not circumcised, but I weight about 50 pounds more than I did at 18, if that makes a difference. Thanks for your help.

As a follow up to an earlier question, I'm wondering if your penis has a bend in it, does it negatively impact your sex activity? Just curious.

I haven't seen that many uncut ones besides my own, which is pretty straight. I've seen a lot of unusual curves, including one that was nearly 90 degree downward bend, some that bend up like bananas and point straight up, and some that curve to one side or the other, but they were all cut. I'm wondering if there is a correlation between circumcision and penis bends. Please state whether yours bends, how it bends and whether you are cut or uncut. Thanks. Just curious.

Kalan Porter won the Canadian Idol awhile back. He's very cute and has a great voice. Why don't they promote him in the U.S.? He would be a teen idol overnight. Does anyone know if he's done any U.S. gigs or if there's any promotion here? What's up?

Am I the only one who thinks Rock of Love is a Crock of Crap? It is so demeaning. Would anybody care if the guy wasn't a rock star? Does anyone think you can find true love this way? Why do people, especially women, watch it? What appeals to you about it? I just don't get it -- enlighten me.

When I see or post a question that involves threesomes or bisexuality or homosexuality, someone always feels compelled to say that's gross, or you're weird and so forth. People who pose such questions seem very tolerant of others. So why do others feel compelled to even answer? Why are they so judgmental? Ten points for the best answer.

When erect, is the skin on the shaft tight, requiring lubrication for masturbation or do you still have loose skin on the shaft that you can use to masturbate with without lubrication?

Also, what is your age?

I ask the age because my theory is that more doctors lately are practicing "partial" circumcision, leaving some foreskin.

So, a secondary question is this: When not erect, do you have some foreskin partially covering the head?

1) Your daughter's boyfriend/son's girlfriend?

2) Your friend's son or daughter?

3) Your neighbor's son or daughter?

4) Your son or daughter's best friend?

5) A teacher?

Have any of them had a crush on you?

Please, no underage stories. I'm curious because this has happened to me numerous times. Once while searching online for someone to join my wife and I, I corresponded with a guy who turned out to be my wife's nephew (age 26). Awkward!!

One of my son's friends (a girl, age 18) confessed to me that she had a big crush on me. Awkward but fun.

And one of my friend's sons (age 18) came onto me. Fun but ended awkward.

All of these occurred when I was in my late 30s. I just never imagined that people 18-mid 20s would be interested in someone in their late 30s and wondered how many other people have experienced this.

Plus, my wife had a brief relationship with one of her teachers when she was 18.

Hi. I'm looking to rent a private cabin or cottage in Central or Southern Illinois, Kentucky, Southern Indiana, Missouri, maybe as far as Arkansas or Tennessee, preferably with a private lake or pool and without costing a ton of money. My main goal is to be able to skinny dip without causing a fuss. Any suggestions?