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My ex husband's step son has molested another child, his cousin actually. The accused boy has admitted to the abuse and is currently living a quarter mile down the street from my ex and his wife. Though I've been told Child Services was involved, the accused boy has since been pulled out of school to home school and has undergone no counseling whatsoever. It has basically been a slap on the wrist.

I would like to ask my ex to keep my two children away from his step son. My kids are boy-11 and girl-9. I KNOW I have the right to ask him to not be around the accused boy at their home, but do I also have the right to ask him to keep the kids away from him in public as well? I live in Indiana and have full custody of my children if this matters.

My ex and I have been divorced for 9 years and get along very well, so I don't want to cause problems, however I don't want my children anywhere near this boy. Should I involve CPS on my kids behalf or just ask that they are removed 100% from all contact? Thanks for any help!!

I live in Indiana... I'm pretty sure that Venus can be seen in the Western sky in the evening, then disappears until a few hours before sunrise reappearing in the Eastern sky. Correct me if I'm wrong... Here lately, in the morning when I go outside, there's a very bright object in the Western sky... from what I've seen this past month, it seems to be mirroring what Venus does... it first appears in the Eastern sky then in the morning, I see it in the West. I know without a good picture it may be hard to get an accurate answer. It looks a lot like a star but it's way too big... Does anyone know what it might be? Thanks!!

Hi... I'm on a low carb diet... I've been eating under 20 carbs a day for the past two weeks. Today was my step-daughter's birthday so I had a few things I shouldn't have had.

Now I'm worried because I know that kicked me out of ketosis and I'm wondering what I should do for the rest of the day? Should I skip dinner now? I'm not sure if I eat low carb again if my body will just store whatever I eat as fat until I'm back in ketosis?

I'm very new to the carb diet but so far I've loved it and I've been doing great. My goal was only to lose 20 lbs and I've already dropped 8. I know some of that is water, but it still feels good to see it coming off.

One more question... even though I've lost 8lbs... none of my clothes seem that much looser. When should I really notice a difference? Thanks!

I need advise and didn't know where else to post....

Anyway, here's a brief history for all to read.... married 6+ years to the hubby, he has two from a previous marriage and I have two from a previous marriage. We get along GREAT with my ex... hubby's ex... NOT so great (that's a HUGE understatement)

Anyway bottom line is this... the step kids can NOT seem to stop telling lies about me and my kids... and BM and her psycho mother lie too and cause as much trouble and BS as possible!!

I'm to the point where I've asked my hubby to stop his EOW visits. I think we should take the kids out in public and return them home the same day... this is to PROTECT my children who have been lied about from the start. I've had CPS called on me twice, once it involved my daughter... NOTHING came of it... but the step kids are old enough by now and enough is enough. Skids are 9 and 12.

Is seeing the kids for day visits and taking them home something that would be okay for us to do? I mean, I know we can do whatever we want... my hubby doesn't even HAVE to see the kids so I know it's not against the law or anything... but the lies have gone far enough and I wanted to just get unbias advise from others... We've been dealing with lies and crap for our entire marriage and I can't deal with his kids lying anymore, and I refuse to leave MY home so they can come over... that's just not gonna happen. I didn't involve a lot of detail... it'd take too long... just any opinions on the subject would be great!! Thanks!!

Hi... my husband and I currently have three homeless cats who hang out around our house... the mom we think was kicked out of a home because she's super lovable and the other two are from a litter the mom had last year. The two kittens are both SUPER feral... one finally trusts us to let us pet her and she's a little shy around us sometimes but not too bad. We ended up trapping Mom and the girl kitten and having them fixed... the other cat is the one we have an issue with now.

We thought she was a boy, but alas she is now a pregnant female. She runs at the sight of us and in no way, shape or form trusts people!!! We finally trapped her the other day because I don't want a litter of 5 more feral kittens at my house!!!

My question is this.... we have her in a huge crate in a secluded room of the house. She has toys, food and litter so she's fine. BUT she hisses at us every time we feed her or change the litter or even go near her cage. She's VERY unfriendly but like I said, I wanted to rehome the kittens and have her fixed as opposed to having the kittens around my house roaming free.

Does anyone know of anything we can do so this cat will begin to trust us? OR should I find a shelter that will work with her and rehome the kittens when she has them? Any normal shelter would just kill her because she's so mean and feral... but I have heard of shelters that work with only feral animals?? Does anyone know of any in Indiana I could contact?? I just need advise and don't know what to do... want to do what's best... just not sure what that is right now!! Thanks!!

We took in a stray cat in March because we knew she was pregnant and we didn't want the kittens to die nor did we want them growing up feral and un-catchable around our house. So, at the end of March she had the kittens. By 'took in" I mean we meant to let her safely have the kittens in a warm place.... we would like to have her fixed and either find her a home or let her back out. She isn't our cat, but I felt bad for her because she's been around for a year and no one will claim her.

Up till now everything has been great, we have a little set up for her and the babies in our large upstairs bathroom. We currently have our own cat and a dog and we don't want the animals exposed to each other because our animals are all up to date on shots, fixed and flee free. So... we've kept "Mama' as we named her seperate with her babies. The kittens are doing great, using the litter box already and eating and drinking water. Mama sometimes nurses them but it doesn't seem as often that we see her with them.

Here this past week she's been acting almost like she's annoyed with the kittens, like when they try to nurse she makes this moaning noise and she'll get up and move away from them. And she's also been making that same moaning noise and meowing constantly while rubbing herself all over everything she can. I seperated her from the kittens several times because I thought she needed time alone, but she just acted mad when she was seperated from them. I don't know if she's ready to be back outside or not... she just doesn't act like she wants to be here anymore.... so I don't know what to do!!!!

Can someone tell me if I should just let Mama go or what she might want... we've tried everything but I don't know... She hogs all the food from the kittens, and acts like she wants nothing to do with them, so I'm lost as to what she might want... any help would be apprecaiated!!!

Okay, so there's this cat who we've been feeding for a little over a year now, she's a stray but we've always put food out for her and we opened our detached garage to her this winter. A few weeks ago I noticed that she was pregnant, so my husband and I took her into the garage and shut her in. We visited her several times daily and last night she had her kittens.

Here are my questions... First, is it okay to have the Mama cat and her kittens in a big cage to keep the kittens safe and warm? The garage was cold, so I moved Mama and the kittens into the house and they're in a cage, it's about 3ft wide by 4 ft long.... Will they be okay in there for a little while just until the kittens are strong enough and healthy enough to come out?

We already have a dog and cat, so I can't let them run in my house, the cage is in a room with the door closed, but I can't open the cage to the Mom because I don't want her tearing my stuff up if she gets mad... For the record, she's nursing and being just as lovable as always and in NO WAY has shown aggression towards me.

My second question is this... How warm should I keep the room for the kittens? I read that they have to stay warm because they get cold easily....

Any advise would SO be appreciated!! I'm going to find the kittens homes, and then my husband and I are taking the Mom to have her fixed. We can't keep her, but we both care for her and this is the second litter she's had this past year. We didn't know the first time she had kittens until they were older because we hadn't let her in the garage yet.... Anyway, this is long... but thanks for any help!!!!!

WTF? She's no Beyonce... and Mary J Blige is alive and well.... so WHY does everyone seem to dote on her like she's unique or something????

We need something different... sorry but that's just my opinion... I just don't get what's so special about her and she was flat and shouted too much..... oh well.

Okay, so my friend and I are on diets together, we're not teenagers either, I'm 30 and she's 29. Anyway, we've done great so far, but she told me the other day that she eats her meals and then throws up right away. We're already on a really strict calorie and fat intake... and she throws even that up. She's not binging... as in eating tons of food and throwing up, she just doesn't keep full meals in her stomach.

So, I guess I wanted to know if there was anything I could tell her that might help. We don't live in the same state, we just chat and txt a lot so I can't see her in person. I know throwing up can ruin teeth, throat, all that stuff... and people say that you just gain weight... but she's not... she's losing every day! So, I guess just any help would be appreciated. I want her to lose the weight she set out to lose, but not like this... I'm worried for her!

Okay, I know this is bad, so I don't need the preaching or yelling... I have serious body image issues and I don't need to hear crap from people who don't agree with me... I need help!

So a while ago I was SO overweight I stopped eating all but 300 calories a day.... I'm 4'11" and I was at 126 to start... Some may say that wasn't bad, but it IS when you're as short as I am... so anyway, I've gotten down to eating about 160 cal a day, and I seem to have plateaued at my current weight which is now 112. I'm by NO means small.. .you'd understand if you saw me... and I want to get down to 95... but at the same time, I want to be healthy.

Thing is that I'm really scared to eat now... I eat some fat free crackers or fat free chips and these hot dogs with 80 calories and 1g fat for two... and that's all I eat in a day. I think I might want to eat a little more healthy... but I'm SO scared to eat any more because I barely eat now, and I stopped losing...

I guess without yelling or preaching, I would like help.. and please don't tell me to eat 1200 calories a day because I can't right now... I just need to know how to increase my calories slowly without gaining... or is that possible... and BTW.. I feel GREAT physically, actually I feel better since I eat less... and I also don't have a gall bladder, and since that's been out I have trouble using the restroom #2. I'm never constipated, I just don't go... every 8-9 days I go... and fiber doesn't affect me, nor do stool softeners... That was why I thought I had gained so much weight because I was eating healthy and I gained... Anyway, any advise would be helpful.. thanks!

I have two dogs I'm currently fostering and I listed them on petfinder.com for re homing. I have received several emails regarding the animals, but several of the emails are exactly the same, with the # of kids they claim to have differing or the state. One person in Delaware claimed to have the same exact yard description as another email from CA. When I say exact I mean same exact wooden fence 8.87 ft tall with a garden....

ALSO... all these emails said they'd pay for shipping of my animals! That firstly would cost a lot, and if they wanted to spend that much money wouldn't they adopt within their own state or from a local shelter? One person from CA offered me 50.00 for my pet and said they'd pay for shipping then immediately asked for information as to where to send a check. I feel like something a tad fishy is going on, so I thought I'd ask here.....

Any advise would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you!

Just wondered why this is such an issue... black people from the IMPRESSION I get don't like to hear that him Mom was WHITE... yet white people don't like him because he's half black... or some don't anyway...

So... I'm wondering... why is it such an issue when he's not totally black NOR is he white... thoughts?

For the record, I voted for him already this morning and I think he's the best man for the job! I'm not racist in any way.. just wondering why people are so touchy on the subject!

Okay, I'll explain a little... there are these two kittens who were hanging around my house all summer; mostly because my neighbor had a outdoor cat, and they seemed to like him. So for a time, the mom cat, her 2 kittens and my neighbors cat all would hang around at my house on the front porch, back patio... you name it. After deciding that the kittens and Mom had no home or owner I started putting a little food out each day. At the time the Mom was nursing and was VERY thin!

Now the problem I have is this... my neighbors cat got hit by a car and the Mom has basically abandoned the kittens.. they are REALLY mean, won't let us near them and they hiss if we come near them. I don't understand why, but I thought to myself that I'd feed them anyway, didn't want them to starve. Keep in mind, I can NOT keep them. We have three dogs, and a cat, all fixed... and can't afford any more pets. Plus I don't believe in outdoor pets, so mine are all indoors. Anyway, the kittens are getting really mean and agressive, one charged me the other day hissing when I was setting food out. I don't think they'll get adopted if I take them to a shelter, and I can't keep them. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do with them? It's getting colder and I don't know what they'll do in the winter... Any help would be appreciated!! Thanks!!

Okay, this could be a really long question, but I'll try to make it short. Here's the bottom line...

1. No insurance, can't afford to go to the dr

2. No gall bladder, taken out after 2nd child 7 years ago.

3. My shomach hurts ALL the time now, no matter what I eat or don't eat.

4. CAN'T have a bowel movement... once a week if I'm lucky.

I've tried a LOT of exercise, diet, fiber... nothing. If I take laxatives they make me feel sick but they do work, at least I can have a bm, but they basically make my belly hurt all day anyway.

So, problem is I've been retaining a TON of weight, and I can't ever have a BM and my stomach hurts all the time... Any ideas as to what I could/should do?! Thanks. For the record, I eat healthy, stay active physically and don't have any other medical conditions that I know of.

I have been dieting very strict for a week now, only around 1000 calories a day and I try to keep the fat around 15g or less. I also work out on the treadmill for 60 min every day! So, it's been 7 days today, and I got on the scale hoping to at least see a pound gone, and it's the same. I know some might say I gained muscle but none of my clothes fit me any better. I'm still 15 lbs fatter than I want to be. What is wrong with me?

I am 4'11" and I currently weigh 122. So, I could stand to lose 15lbs easy. I used to work out and diet every day and I got down to 104 without changing anything other than my unhealthy habits. So... I'm trying to get back around that weight.

My question is, am I doing enough now to lose the weight? I'm currently eating very healthy, watching carbs, calories, eating lots of fruits and veggies and chicken and fish. I'm brisk walking on the treadmill for 60 min every day. I go about 3.5mph, but it's for an hour, so I'm trying not to kill myself right off. I'm 29 by the way, don't know if that matters, and female.

If I'm doing enough to be healthy and lose some weight I would like to know, or if I need to walk faster each day?? Also, if it's enough, how long should it be till I see results. I know it takes time, but any extra room in my jeans would be such a motivator!! Thanks for any help!!!!!

I understand that working out in the morning can help boost metabolism, but wouldn't I need to work out at night as well so my body doesn't store what I ate during the day? We eat between 6-7pm and go to bed between 10-11pm and we're not active after dinner. Shouldn't I work out after dinner too or would this not help me?

I need to lose around 15 pounds and keep it off. I know this requires a change in my lifestyle so I've recently started counting the calories and fat I eat each day and I started working out 5 days a week. I cut my normal calories some, and I'm also doing 25 minutes of Tai Bo and then another 20 min on the recumbant bike Cross Training level 4. I sweat my butt off today! Is this going to be enough to see results and keep the weight off if I continue to do these things daily?