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Okay, Here's the thing. My boyfriend likes tan legs but I don't want to tan because skin cancer runs in my family and I like my skin tone the way it is. He's asked me many times to tan and has even offered to pay for it. Well, last night I mentioned that I wanted to exercise to lose a little weight and get a tiny bit of filler injected into my top lip. I want to do these things for me and no one else. He told me no, I couldn't because he likes my body and thinks lip filler is crazy and not attractive and that he wouldn't be attracted to me any more if I did either. And that paying money to change yourself is dumb and I should just try to be happy the way I am. I mentioned the tanning to him and he basically said that I can do what he thinks is attractive but not what would make me feel attractive. So what should I do about him being so dumb and trying to control what I do and don't do to my own body to make myself happy. Should I go ahead and lose weight and get the filler and just let him deal with it. I want to be happy and don't want to be controlled. Just wanted others thoughts on this matter. Thank you.

My suspicions were right and the truth is out now. My boyfriend was feeling ignored and sought the affections of someone else. We've decided to work through this and stay together. So what can I do about the pain and lost trust. I have faith that he wont cheat again, we've talked about honesty and how we'll be open with each other about our feelings. But there will always be that question in the back of my mind. How do I deal with that without it causing trouble between us in the future? How do I deal with the pain and try to move on with our lives together? Has any one been through this? Do you have any suggestions on what to do or not do? This is a touch subject for a lot of folks because I now know first hand how painful it is. This tore my heart out and made me feel like less of a person, so how do we move on from this and learn to be comfortable again. We've talked long and hard about us and what we need and we want to make it work. He's taken full responsibility and wants to make it right with me again. I've accepted that but won't be blind to it in the future, I'm not an idiot. But if anyone has any words or has been here before any encouragement or advice would be so great. Thanks, y'all always come through when I need you the most.

My job is having a healthy weight loss competition and I'm way behind everyone else because I have way more work to do then everyone else. I've been doing it the healthy way but if any tips aren't in the magazines but work please let me know. I'm not gonna die for the money but I really really could use it bad. The winner gets $500.

I've decided to make a life change this year and one big part of it is getting into a healthier body. I've never really worked out before and have a question about the muscle pain I'm having do to exercises.

I understand about why their sore but what I need to know is how long do they stay sore while continuing to work out. I'm not over doing it or any thing the stiffness and soreness are normal but I just needed some information like how long until it gets easier and how can I work out the stiffness in the morning and what kind of good stretches should I do before and after a workout?

This is my first time actually making a resolution for a new year. I've never really been mature enough to mean it and stick with it. This year I'm gonna spend time on me. By getting rid of negative influences in my life. I've spend most of '08 taking care of others and it really stressed me out and made me forget about myself. So this year I'm gonna love me with all my heart. Eat right, get out and experience the world, loss this weight that's been holding me down and making me hate myself. I resolve to cater to myself, not in a selfish way, just in a way to were I put my feelings and good will before any one else's. I'm gonna work hard and learn to love myself again. Have fun and enjoy the life I've been given. That's what we're supposed to do, Right? So what are you're resolutions for this brand new year, let's share and maybe get ideas on how to make '09 one of the best years of our lives. Happy New Year every one. Make it a fun one!

When I'm feeling less then hot or just want to give myself a pick-me-up, there are certain things I do that remind me of the sexy, pretty boy, man eater that I am. Whether they have to do with sex, relaxing in a hot tub, stripping to my favorite song, or putting on my sexy cloths and going out to flirt. But I want to know what my fellow gay brothers and sisters do to make themselves feel sexy? Let's share our feeling sexy secrets and maybe help others to feel like sexy beasts too.

My homeless sister who has no job or no place else to go asked to stay a while with me until she found a job. I love her and we've always been close so of course I said yes. But last night she stole money from my wallet and took all my prescription pills then blamed my boyfriend for it before admitting she did it. She also smoked crack in my house three times after I asked her not to. She also broke my back door and some nice dishes while screwed up on drugs and vodka. This morning I told her she had to leave due to her lack of respect for me and my home. It's very stressful not only on myself but my boyfriend having to both take care of her after she passes out. After I asked her to leave she made me feel like crap for making her leave with out a home but she's screwed so many others over no one else will take her in. I feel like a bad person for making her go but I know it's the right thing, but now I'm so worried about what she'll do or where she'll go. She's 31 but won't grow up. I can't stop crying thinking that I made the wrong choice making her leave. What would you have done and do you think I did the right the thing. Any advice would be great. I really need help with this one. I'm to stressed to eat or sleep from worry. Help!

Does any one else have to deal with boyfriends or girlfriends double standards? He can look at porn on-line all damn day and even make a dvd of all his favorite scenes, have so many porn mags he can't keep them from falling out of his closet and so many videos it's crazy but he sees me looking at pics of hot guys on-line and screams that it's an insult to him that I'd look at them. WTF? Why can he do it all the time but I can't for like 10 minutes without him freaking out and trying to make me feel bad. I don't feel bad but what the crap can I do to make him stop being so childish and allow me to do what he does when I want to. I'm not talking to guys online and it's not cheating to look at pics. How would you all deal with this double standard? Please, I'd love to know.

Ok, I'm having guy trouble and a lot of stupid crap happening at work. This all has me stressed out like a Nun in a whore house. My nerves are shot and I feel so freaking anxious. Does any of my strong gay brothers and sister have any tips on what I can do to relax, calm my nerves so I can deal with these problems better. Any thing will help. Make me laugh if that's all you can do. I need to de-stress. I'm too young and beautiful to feel so worn down, you know what I mean. What do you all do to unwind after a crazy day has you uptight and drinking from the vodka bottle?

Here on Yahoo answers I can help people left and right with no problem but when it comes to my own personal trouble I'm drawing a blank. I'm needing some encouraging words to give my sister to help her move out of an abusive relationship. Naturally I just want to go over there and kick her boyfriend *ss but that would only cause more problems for her. She used to be such a strong women who took care of me through so many tough times but she's been beaten down so much she's lost that strength. I just need some words that you all find empowering or a suggestion on what I can do to help her get on the path to better her life. It breaks my heart to see her so unhappy. If any one has gone through this before in an abusive relationship and came out the victor please let me know how you did and what we can do to help her get out as well. I really appreciate any help that can be given. You all have been so great so far. God bless and take care.

The so called Pastor Phelps and his family have a web site dedicated to their believes that God hates fags. Does God hate fags? Does God hate rapist and murders? The answer to all those is no, God hates the sin itself not the sinner. The Phelps family believe homosexuality is a sin. OK, We're all entitled to our own beliefs. America is about freedom in every sense. But the Phelps family also hate and judge. But aren't hating and judging sins within themselves. So God must hate the sin of hating and judging as well. Both sins that the Phelps family commit daily. Mr. Phelps and his wife claim to be preachers, but aren't preachers here to bring the sinners of the world God's love and salvation? I've never heard either one of them even mention these words in there interviews or "teachings".

And why pin point homosexuality? There are millions of sins committed every day like rape, theft, or murder. I guess murder isn't so bad to them since they picket American soldiers funerals with signs like "Thank God for dead soldiers". Which is a crying shame. What sin did these soldiers commit? Bravery and courage for there country? I know God loves me, a homosexual guy, and all other "sinners" in the world. If He didn't He wouldn't have blessed me with all I have today.

OK, Bishop James is done preaching for now but I want to know what you all feel about the Phelps family and what they do and "preach". What are your opinions on their harsh ways and beliefs? Let me know.

My sister,who has had a problem with prescribed drugs for years, said she bought a bottle of xanax online. I'm not sure if this is true because her doctor was asked to not give it to her anymore. Could she really order it online?

We've had great sex in the past but the last 8 months no matter what I do to turn him on he keeps giving me excuses. He swears he isn't cheating and still cuddles with me a lot but I need some loving. I'm tempted to get it else where. Guys are constantly coming on to me but I don't want to cheat if this can be fixed. I love my bf but he will not give me what I need. Why is he doing this and what can I do to help.