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I've met a guy who has a sagittarius sun, sagittarius venus, taurus moon & scorpio mars. He said he and his family/friends believe he's more scorpio than anything else. He definitely acts like scorpio or taurus and only Saggi traits I see are his optimistic friendly honest attitude. We both said we look for a friend first in a partner, that we want a best friend. So we've known each other for 3 months now through work. I instigated the attraction as one day it was like a light came on and I suddenly went from co worker in my eyes to major lust. I have a Saggi mars which I've heard conjunct a his venus hence the lust factor & my chasing him first. I'm guessing his taurus moon came into play as I chased him and he rejected my advances for 2 months finally out of the blue suggesting we stay at a hotel for the night which we did and had sex. We said no matter what happens we will always be friends. He told me the other night I am one of the best friends he's made in a long time who doesn't think he's plain odd as he is a bit of an alternative guy but I'm attracted to it. He seems to be up for catching up again but he moves so slowly. It drives me crazy. I'm guessing that's his taurus moon at play. I've read what traits a Saggi venus looks for in a woman and same for mans moon in taurus but he's so changeable it's hard to know whether having Saggi traits would turn his moon taurus off or vice versa. I'm a pisces sun with Aries venus and Aquarius moon. Appreciate any advice on whether there's any hope for a future with this complex "friend" I have. Ps..we've both admitted there's a strong connection going on like we answer each others sentences, have similar views and beliefs etc

I'm in a dilemma, I drew the tattoo I wanted to get in my inner forearm as a symbol for my belief that my beautiful son Luke is now at peace but a part of me is telling me to get or incorporate somehow the tree of life into the tattoo, Luke was always going to get a Tree of Life tattoo but to me, the Tree of Life is Life & my son struggled with living until the day he died from an overdose. I had drawn a blue butterfly flying through the stars & sky at peace and free at last. Appreciate any genuine advice from the Yahoo Answers Community.

My friend has started work with a company who has a relatively new Manager (promoted a year ago). Some things don't sit right with me though. She said her boss recently offered to give them all a half day off on consecutive days whilst she sits in their chair & does their job for them so she can get to know a bit of what they do each day & give them time off because they work so hard. She occasionally says 20 mins before finish time, you can all go home now whilst she stays back to do the work & close up. She rewards them now & again with lunches on the business, sweet treats etc. I have always been suspicious of someone who is overly nice, almost too good to be true & that's what I think this woman is. My friend is in awe of her. I'm suspicious, what advice can I offer my friend here?

I lost my 19 year old son 8 weeks ago to a suspected drug overdose (coroner still investigating). I have returned to work fulltime as a Manager of a busy office. I have a handful of challenging personalities in this office & in the 4 weeks I have been back at work, I have dealt with 4 emotional outbursts from these individuals. I don't want my employer to think I'm unable to cope so have tried to deal with it myself but today I went to work & broke down in tears within 10 minutes of walking in the office not wanting to deal with this stuff today. I left half way through the day with bad chest pains having gone to the Dr who did an ECG and said it was normal along with everything else & it is anxiety from my personal situation. He dealt with this accordingly on a medical level but I don't know how to deal with this 'creche' I manage at work. Seriously, I manage a bunch of females & one guy at the office who each present with their own idiosyncracies but the temper tantrums in the last 4 weeks have challenged me. I am considering throwing in the towel & asking to be demoted but I have only had my management job for 12 months having been promoted, I don't want to let my bosses down, yes it's out of my control what happened with my son passing but still, I feel I should be able to get it together. Is it me being not cut out for management or is it my situation & these staff are just crazy or self-absorbed that they can't cut me some slack for like 3 months until I get back into my job! Thanks ever so much for reading.

I'm in Australia. Just FYI re employment laws. Anyway, regardless, yesterday I swore at a staff member when we had a relatively heated discussion over her poor & very rude attitude toward me. She became aggressive pointing & accusational at me, crying etc. I was trying to express myself & cussed using the 'f' word a couple of times in sentences. I didn't call her any names or anything like that but when I was expressing myself that I don't have to tolerate that, it is 'f'n' unacceptable etc. I did apologise & she accepted my apology & advised me she needed to be brought into line admitting she had been behaving very badly toward me in front of other staff as well as alone. I'm a fairly new female manager. We have known each other as colleagues before my promotion for about 2 years & we consider each other friends to some degree also. My Manager knows about her behaviour as it has happened before but she left for holidays yesterday & I didn't have time in our conversation to explain what happened with me cussing at my employee. I want to confess to my Manager upon her return but my friends & family all say I shouldn't bother & leave it be having learned from my mistakes given my employee accepted my apology & fobbed it all off acknowledging her behaviour was completely inappropriate over the last week. I am an honest person & don't want this on my conscience. I also don't want it to become known to top management behind my back without me having been honest in the first place but I know my job could be on the line. I don't know what to do & would appreciate any advice. Thankyou.

I lost my son to a suspected heroin overdose just over 2 weeks ago. I have been off work since the day I was asked by the hospital to come in. My employer is very supportive, I have another week off work with pay. I have a 4 year old & a fiance. My 4 year old was my 19 year old's half brother who he adored. I am having trouble getting motivated, getting out of bed let alone my pyjama's. It's so not healthy for my 4 year old to see this. My moods are erratic, I'm angry, crying, it's so hard to control. I have so many regrets that I wasn't a good mum to my 19 year old when he was growing up as I was so immature & had no idea how to raise a child so he was raised by my parents until he was 7 when I stabilised my life & met my now fiance & grew up virtually overnight. But my fiance & my 19 year old never quite saw eye to eye. My fiance is strugglling immensely with having cut my 19 year old out of his life in the last few weeks refusing for him to come home to visit us. This is because he owed him alot of money, would steal from him, damage property which is why he had to move out & would overdose or self harm in the house with our 4 year old present. We had to think of our 4 year old's safety but I keep wondering if only he stayed home, maybe he would still be alive today as when he left home & lived with a much older woman (who was my age), she had mental health issues as he did (my son was a diagnosed borderline personality disorder sufferer) as well as both having prescription drug addictions which lead to illicit drugs. Since my son was 14 & we found out he had been sexually abused by both his biological father & grandfather & he went to the police who charged them both but his father committed suicide before the hearing, we had him in so many private mental health facilities as well as public, every single one in our state that was available to him, we tried. Drug abuse recovery centres, everything. I feel though we have failed him on so many levels. I know I can't have him back & I have learned from his death, learned in that if our 4 year old ever grows to have mental health or drug addiction issues (pray to God he never does), I will never go through the hospital system as they just dope them up with prescription medication which are legal highs anyway. My son tried to commit suicide a number of occasions over the years, twice seriously which he ended up last year in ICU on life support however the heroin overdose 2 weeks ago, we suspect due to the girl who was with him, that it was accidental but I'll never know. I feel that if it was suicide, I could deal with it easier than thinking my baby died when he didn't want to this time, that it was an accident. I am sorry for writing all over the place, my son lived such a traumatic life. If there is ever such thing as reincarnation, I pray to God that he be reborn to a loving family & have a good healthy life. Thank you for reading.

What does it mean when you confide in your boss about one of their managers & their very unethical unprofessional behaviour that's been going on behind their back & your boss acknowledges all you say, is warm throughout conversation to you delivering the unfortunate information, shaking his head & ends up swearing say I won't have my staff f'ing with peoples heads, creating smoking mirrors etc. I have never heard the term smoking mirrors before but my boss was oh so angry about what I disclosed to him but seemed so warm & appreciative to me about what I had told him. I'm a new Manager to his team, I have kept these things a bit secret for a while but ended up having to disclose to him but advised him I may be the whistleblower, have my head on the chopping block for coming to him & so be it, he assured me absolutely not, my job is safe. Just don't understand the smoking mirrors comment. Is he saying he's angry that one of his managers have created a smoking mirror as this manager has been manipulating & using a number of her colleagues. Thanks.

I'm in a bit of a dilemma & need advice from someone not involved. I work for a company that often transfers Upper level managers across their metro sites. I have recently secured a site manager role, not one as mentioned above so I'm permanently at my site. We are losing a fantastic upper level manager & gaining an upper level manager I have had difficulties with in the past. It was many years ago & I have the opportunity to work with an upper level manager at another site if I want to move but I don't want it to appear to my General Manager that I'm running from this other Manager, especially now I'm a site manager & not just a subordinate I was previously. I am on probation & am worried this other manager I have a bad history with will make my life difficult & not pass my probation through. Any ideas? Basically I want to grow up & put the past behind me but also don't want to be constantly looking over my shoulder.

I worked for a manager who believes we're closer than what I believe we are. It's a female as I am. She has helped me out in the past when I have been in a slump & I have been grateful & always been loyal & done the right thing by her until now. I now have a new manager who is very professional, I get along great with & who is recommending me for a promotion. My old manager has been heard badmouthing me to other managers saying that I'm not right for the promotion & that I have personal problems that will get in the way etc all the while asking me to transfer to her branch. My new manager is having issues with my old manager herself but it's all heresay to human resources, unless we can prove it in writing, what else can we do? I'm so hurt that she's trying to sabotage my chances of being promoted to something I have worked hard for because she is not my current manager who will reap the rewards of my hard work so is bad mouthing me while trying to get me to transfer to her site who is not performing. I am stumped as to what to do as I am awaiting the opportunity for my 2nd interview for this promotion & don't want to complain to top management without written proof. Any ideas Yahoo Community?

We have an evaporative ducted air con system and occasionally it is tripping the safety switch.

Provided I have it turned off, I can turn the power back on but if I press the air con power again, it will boot it off.

Previously, we've left it off for a while then it works ok and doesn't trip the safety switch.

My husband got an electrician out and the air con installers who did some maintenance saying that it's working just fine and no electrical faults but obviously, there is as why would it be doing it otherwise?

I'm freaking out that it's going to start an electrical fire and want a 2nd opinion but my husband is saying that the air con guys told him it's tripping because of moisture in the air and it's normal.

I don't think that's normal but would really appreciate any advice if anyone has heard of this happening before?

Hi, I've tried researching this but can't find anything that relates without me supposedly having to have other symptoms. Usually a day or two after drinking alcohol heavily, my upper left abdomen just under the rib becomes a bit tender, it's not really painful, just uncomfortable, sometimes it feels as though there is something moving around there. I thought maybe it was pancreatitis but supposedly, that is very painful and I was told I would know it if I had that due to the pain. I wondered if my spleen was enlarged but not getting all the other symptoms. Can anyone shed any light on what it could be? I don't get pain going through to my back, it's just this area under my breast/ribcage upper left but closer to middle than complete left. Thanks.

he took maoi's with Escitalopram, potassium tablets among others but these were the three his mum said concerned the emergency dr's. he's in an induced coma with clonus (muscle spasms, twitching) and his oxygen was 100% on ventilator but he wasnt breathing so they turned him on his back, suctioned him and did a bronchospocy but nothing major showed. the dr said he could end up with liver or kidney failure, that he is basically cooking from inside out and muscles wasting away. they have him in a caution contact area of ICU where the nurses have to gown and glove up unlike the others in icu. he has been in icu 2 days now. with those drugs he took, does anyone know if someone can recover fully?

I've had half a glass of beer already but tasted revolting as taking augmentin antibiotics to treat chest infection and prevent infection from wisdom tooth removal last week so no doubt everything is going to taste revolting but I'm thinking some champagne with 100% orange juice would be ok to try. My pharmacist said I can drink with augmentic antibiotics but they also told me I could drink when I took zantac once and it made me very nauseous so double checking with the yahoo answers community - anybody had experience drinking alcohol while taking augmentic antibiotics?

I have been in my job 8 years now & have looked forward to long service leave at 10 years (in Australia). I have a job offer that is $7000 more base salary per annum, less stress & working with a very close friend of mine. My current employer has been tremendous in supporting me through very hard times & I am feeling extremely guilty at the thought of resigning considering what they have done for me. I feel very loyal yet I know I need to look after myself. I have become a tad bored in my current job, it is further to drive, less autonomy than what I would have in the new job but I'm terrified of the change & scared that my old employer would never take me back if things didn't work out in the new job. Heartbroken, need to make a decision by tomorrow unfortunately.

My 18 year old son has had mental health issues for many years namely due to horriffic sexual abuse he suffered at the hands of his bioligical father & grandfather. Since he chose to file charges with the police, his biological father committed suicide, his grandfather was called to trial but the prosecutors felt there was not enough 'evidence' to take it to trial & in the publics best interest to withdraw all charges from the grandfather so he got off scott free. I have had my son in multiple private hospitals seeking the best of psychiatric care for the last two years since he left school. He is addicted to drugs, pain medication, marijuana, you name it. He has attempted suicide a multitude of times & last night was the final straw in that he terrified my 3 year old son (his step brother), myself & his step father by indicating we were at harm & to lock ourselves in our bedroom throughout the night, that he cut himself up with a knife across his arms & legs & my fiance had to wrestle a large carving knife from him. We had police come to the house, he had a seizure in front of them & the ambulance arrived to take him to hospital but he walked out of there today as our mental health system in Western Australia is pathetic, they release mental health patients at the drop of a hat. We have told him many times previously that we cannot keep putting up with him living under our roof with his addictions that he doesn't seem to want to address & he is scaring his little 3 year old brother so he has to move out. I am heartbroken telling my own child he is not welcome in our home. He told me today we don't care about him, we don't love him, we only love his little brother, he is our only son & he is going to kill himself & we will have his blood on our hands. I have for years tried so many hospitals, psychs, taken so much time off work jeopardising my job trying to help him, I recently secured him a job & we thought things were going well but he took days off on drug induced illness. I can't help but feel guilty about our decision to have him look for crisis accommodation. I have tried to intervene & help him do this today but he told me to stay out of his life. I feel like I'm a terrible mother & have let my own flesh & blood down.

This morning I woke up feeling like I'd been punched in the throat, just below the adams apple, it's like someone is pressing on it but now it's gone into a pressure at the top of my chest, like someone is again pressing their finger tips on it. Could it be anxiety or something else?

Hello, I recently was tested positive for lupus anticoagulant but negative for the other part which confirms Lupus itself. Thus was told I'm at a much higher risk for blood clots & told to keep taking 100mg of aspirin per day. I have also over the last couple of years had a higher than normal ESR & recently C-Reactive Protein (both about 10-15 higher than they should be) but the Dr can't work out what is causing this. I have done some research of my own & wonder if obesity can cause the lupus anticoagulant to test positive as well as raising the esr & crp levels? Thanks.

We don't own much on our current property we live in but it's becoming too small with a growing family. The West Australian property market is dismal at the moment so it wouldn't be wise to put our home on the market just yet so we want to rent it out and buy another larger home to live in. We would be taking out another mortgage for this.

I'm confused with all the taxes involved.

Any help in basic english would be appreciated as I'm totally confused :-)

We don't own much on our current property we live in but it's becoming too small with a growing family. The West Australian property market is dismal at the moment so it wouldn't be wise to put our home on the market just yet so we want to rent it out and buy another larger home to live in. We would be taking out another mortgage for this.

I'm confused with all the taxes involved.

Any help in basic english would be appreciated as I'm totally confused :-)

Ok, last few nights, I've had some wacko dreams & hoped someone could shed some light on what they might mean given they've been virtually one after the other.

1. Dreamt I died & saw my funeral

2. Dreamt I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I cried naturally but my reaction was not panic as I would have thought I would have if diagnosed with such a thing.

3. My fiance who always goes on about being loyal had a one night stand at a luxury hotel with a work colleague who is married & older, I found out, confronted him & got beaten badly by him & a few of his friends & told his bosses (who are husband & wife who own the business what happened) & they fired him because of his actions ie affair in the workplace & violence of

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Totally weird, I've felt like I've dreamt the above in sequence in long story cessations & my partner has noticed I've been sleeping much more heavily & longer.

Any thoughts?