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I got my cat from a shelter about six months ago. He was retrieved from a nursing home when we was fed solely on scraps and low-quality food. Needless to say, he was overweight and unhealthy. I bought him a high quality dry food (Innova; grain-free and similar to the diet a cat would eat in the wild), which he turned his nose at and only ate very little of if it was his last resort. I started buying a high quality wet food to give with his dry food, which he scarfs up immediately after I put it down for him. I switched to a different higher quality dry food and he seems to like this a bit more, but I have to throw out about half the bowl I put out daily because he doesn't finish it/only eats when he is really, really hungry. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to put him on a wet food only diet because it isn't good for his teeth, but he just doesn't seem to like the dry food and he definitely isn't eating the amount of food he should be eating daily. Has anyone else had this experience? Did you end up finding a dry food that you cat was willing to eat?

I adopted a cat about a month ago from a shelter. He was overweight at that point, having come from a nursing home where he was fed scraps and low quality cat food. I resolved to get him healthy again and have been feeding him Innova Evo dry food. During the first few weeks, he ate all the food he was given (1/4 a cup two times a day). Now, he eats about 1/4 a cup (if that) per day. He also drinks very little water. He is a very active and playful cat and has not been vomiting/I haven't noticed anything strange in the litter box. I also took him to the vet the day after I adopted him and they claimed that everything was fine. I'm very worried about his eating/drinking habits. Anyone have any ideas?

Four days ago, I adopted a 2 year old cat from a local shelter. I brought him home and immediately fell in love with him. He sat in my lap for the whole night and, after he got up, I noticed tons of tiny black specks on both me and the couch. I started searching the web, fearing he had fleas and the stupid, irresponsible shelter didn't bother to tell me. I saw a single flea crawl across his face and knew I was in for a long month. The next morning, I saw tons of little white specks (presumably eggs) on his blanket. I threw the blanket away, vacuumed the room, and took him to the vet, where they applied Frontline. I kept him in one room (which was heartbreaking.. he meowed and meowed) the whole time. The next day, I went out and bought some Zep flea spray and doused the entire house thoroughly, concentrating on the one room he was mostly. I have been vacuuming three times a day and things appear to be okay. My cat has very few flea feces in his fur when I brush him and nothing is really falling off of him anymore, except the occasional dead adult flea. I have only seen about five fleas in all, three of which were dead, so I think,

I am twenty-one years old. I have always maintained a good GPA, have done most everything my parents have asked of me, and was a very good, well-mannered kid. I announced that my boyfriend of two years and I have found an apartment that we'd like to rent while we finish our senior years at our universities. We have jobs and support ourselves, so there is no issue of mooching off of my parents or anything. My mother was happy for me and thought it was an appropriate decision considering my age. My father, however, took it very badly. He basically told me I was an idiot for leaving and a co-dependent slut for living with my boyfriend out of wedlock. He and my mother did the exact thing at my age, but he tried to rationalize it differently. I can't get over this. He told me that I had disappointed him, been incredibly selfish, and brought shame to my entire family. I don't see it that way. My boyfriend (one of three I've had in my entire life) and I have separate rooms and are living together for convenience/because we are best friends and can deal with one another. I was excited, but now I am just miserable and feel so guilty. My life has changed substantially and my relationship with my father is ruined, I believe. I am so sad and hurt; has anyone been in this situation? Does it get any better? Any perspectives from parents?

Also, please don't talk to me about Christianity.

My boyfriend and I have decided to move out of our parents' houses. We're 20 and 21 and we're moving to the major city in our state, where we are closer to our universities. I have no idea how my parents will take this news.. especially because they aren't expecting it and my boyfriend and I will be moving right after the new year. My parents have grown quite conservative in their old ages, but lived together before they were married, as well (though they were slightly older/23), yet they are still overly protective of me and treat me like a child. They will also be concerned about my life in a very dangerous city (Baltimore, MD) and others' opinions of my choice. I have thought and planned this for a long time, but was too reluctant to potentially hurt my parents with this news.. so that, of course, was an immature mistake. My needing to tell my parents this couldn't have come at a worse time now; my elderly, very conservative grandparents are coming to town. My boyfriend and I discussed possibly asking my family out to dinner and explaining the situation over drinks and a meal, getting them away from everything/everyone. Does this seem appropriate?

My 21 year old boyfriend and I (20 years old myself) are planning on moving out to a very, very reasonably priced apartment in the major city in our state. We have been dating for two years (after previously dating and getting back together) and have a very strong relationship, but we have considered that living together may not work out and, thus, are only signing a 6 month lease. We're employed, autonomous, and responsible and living in the city will be infinitely more convenient in terms of commuting to our respective universities, rather than commuting from the suburbs. The only problem: my parents are old-fashioned and will probably think that I'm too young to move out from their home (they're incredible parents and willing to do everything for me) and they will not approve of me living, out of wedlock, with my boyfriend. Additionally, they fear the city. I am arranging a meeting to discuss all of this because I feel that would be the mature thing to do, but I'm not entirely sure how I should go about doing so, because it will be so shocking to them. Should my boyfriend be present for the meeting or would that be inappropriate?

Also, please, please, please don't pawn any Christian ideals off on me or give your opinions about living with a boyfriend. I will flag your answer. I just want opinions from those who have been in similar situations. Thanks.

My current boyfriend was my first love; my dream guy. We met seven years ago, in high school and dated for a little while before parting ways and later getting back together in college. I am and have always been in love with him (and vice versa) and very, very attracted to him (he is gorgeous, cute, charming, and, obnoxiously, lusted after by many people). We've always had a very exciting, adventurous, and passionate sex life in the past two consecutive years that we've been together. But, just lately, I'm finding that I'm not into sex very much anymore. We have sex nearly every day and, lately, I'm finding that I'm not into it as much. There are even certain little things that he does that repulse me while we have sex. I realized that this was an issue last night, when we came home and started foreplay, only for him to realize that I was completely dry. This, of course, made him feel awful.. and I felt even worse. Has anyone else ever had this problem in a serious relationship?

I have been with my current boyfriend for two years. He has a somewhat close friend (they speak on the phone often and go to dinner every few months), with whom he was involved with a year or two before we got together. She is twice his age and, while she is likeable, she has no redeeming qualities, really. Even if she did, however, I would still have the very hard time that I have being cordial to her.. I think it may be jealousy. My boyfriend admitted that this woman had initially wanted to have casual sex with him, but he refused. I had my childish suspicions about the two when I first started dating my boyfriend, but those feelings have pretty much gone away as I've learned what sort of person my boyfriend is (one worthy of my trust.. and one that is with me every night). The problem is, he is upset that I'm not friendly towards his woman. He refuses (and understandably) to shun this woman because it upsets me. I would really like to be kind to her,

The past few days, my boyfriend hasn't seemed himself. He is not the sort of person to take out his anger or sadness or frustration on me (though he has been unintentionally hurting my feelings).. he just likes to keep it bottled up, because he doesn't feel as though it's a big deal, but I can't help but to worry about him. He assures me he's fine, but alludes to the fact that he isn't "fine" sometimes. He slept twelve hours last night but looked walked around looking exhausted and zombie-like all day while claiming that he was "so tired". He initiated sex today and I could, ahem, tell he was interested in having with sex with me, yet, before we started, he suddenly stopped and just layed his head on my chest. Could this be a bought of depression? If so, how can I help him?

My fiance/boyfriend of two years (whom I am very close to and have been through some tough times with him by side) informed me that his best friend's mother killed herself today. His best friend is a childhood friend so his mother, apparently, was also like a mother figure to my boyfriend. He rarely gets as upset as he was and he could barely get a word out when he spoke to me about it. He told me he loved me and then said that he wanted to be alone to deal with this. He is so upset and I'm kind of at a loss as to how to help him (when he's always been there for me). He's so close to me that he's like my own skin.. if that sounds lame enough.. so this is something that's been on my mind all day. I'm not sure how I can be there for him right now.. or if I should even be trying to. Can anyone shed light on the situation?

my boyfriend and i have quite a history; four years of horrible communicating, his leaving me for many other girls, dating on and off [mostly off], and heartache. i can't pretend not to resent him for this, despite the fact that we finally got back together/got it right after a series of events and his being away from me for a while made him realize that he'd loved me very much. he's grown up and he's proven this to me after a very good year in a strong, mature, faithful, purposeful relationship. he has apologized to me over and over again and has done so many wonderful things to "make it up to me". he tells me i need to live in the present and forget everything he'd done in the past because he cannot change anything, even if he feels tremendous remorse.

but, lately, i sometimes find myself getting angry at him for no reason. i begin to think about all of the girls he's had sex with and i feel horrible and resentful. i know i'm the most important person in his life.. there's no

my boyfriend, although in his early twenties, has never had a serious relationship before. i'm his first serious girlfriend.. and we've been close for five years/had flings on and off.. but we've been dating officially for nine months. lately, he's been very stressed about school and getting into a conservatory. he's very obviously affected.. but he wont open up and tell me about it. he says that he loves me more than anything and that if i get upset or cry about it, he'll be just as upset... but, at the same time, maintains this idea that his problems are his, not mine. he said he's shutting everyone out and not just me. i argued that i shouldn't be shut out. his response was, "you should be if i don't want you in".

this disturbed me a whole lot. he's never been this stressed before.. since i've known him. and he's always at least kind of shared his problems with me. the only time he was completely open about everything that bothered him was when he was on painkillers.

my boyfriend, although in his early twenties, has never had a serious relationship before. i'm his first serious girlfriend.. and we've been close for five years/had flings on and off.. but we've been dating officially for nine months. lately, he's been very stressed about school and getting into a conservatory. he's very obviously affected.. but he wont open up and tell me about it. he says that he loves me more than anything and that if i get upset or cry about it, he'll be just as upset... but, at the same time, maintains this idea that his problems are his, not mine. he said he's shutting everyone out and not just me. i argued that i shouldn't be shut out. his response was, "you should be if i don't want you in".

this disturbed me a whole lot. he's never been this stressed before.. since i've known him. and he's always at least kind of shared his problems with me. the only time he was completely open about everything that bothered him was when he was on painkillers.

I'm having a pretty hard time getting over the fact that my boyfriend has slept with many, many, many women in the past. He's my ex-boyfriend from way back/high school and we've been friends for a good seven years.. so this knowledge is nothing new to me. I just find that, lately, it's something that I've been thinking about a lot and I'm letting it get to me. He claims that he was a different person then; young and stupid. He also claims that the whole meaningless sex phase is over for him.. that it's gotten really old and that I'm the girl he wants to be with now. I trust him .. and we've been together for 7 months in a meaningful relationship that he claims he doesn't plan on leaving at this point. I just can't get over the past, though. He was considered a womanizer and hated by so many women. I'm even constantly being introduced to ex-lovers that he's remained friends with. One woman in particular is about fifteen years older than him.. which I found to be repulsive.

I've been dying my own hair for years, first of all. My hair is a medium shade of red naturally.. and I've let it grow out for the first time in months. I've decided that I wanted to dye my hair a more intense, almost orange, coppery red with the underneath/bangs being a medium shade of blonde. I'm not entirely sure how to go about this, though. Should I dye my hair the red shade all over first and then add the blonde over that after I shampoo my hair.. or should I do each separately?

Oh, and I'm not looking to go to a salon. I don't have the money and I have a lot of experience dying my own hair and it always comes out looking even and fine.. so please don't suggest that.

Thanks in advance!

I feel like this question may be a little silly but..

my boyfriend had his wisdom teeth removed and was on and off Oxycodone [I think that was the one, at least] for a weekend. He tried to take the pills only when the pain became totally unbearable.. because he didn't like the idea of taking pills. Anyway, he became super needy that weekend.. not wanting me to leave and constantly calling/texting when I had to go out to work. He also felt the need to tell me that he loved me and that I was wonderful every few minutes. Basically, he wasn't acting like himself. The night that he had his surgery, we stayed up all night, talking. He told me about tons of things [like the fact that he was in love with me and other types of things he didn't generally just say right out]. Did I just get a glimpse into his vulnerable, repressed, super needy side.. or were his feelings just clouded/affected by the painkillers he was on?

I have just been hired at Macy's East. The woman in HR who hired me gave a barrage of paperwork including information on the dresscode.. which is all-black, apparently. It isn't particularly clear about whether or not employees can wear colored tops with a black jacket or sweater. It appears that this is acceptable, but I'm not positive. I was just wondering if there were any Macy's employees around that could help me with this question. Thank you.

I've totally seen this question asked on here a few time but, generally, the answers involve meat... and my boyfriend and I are vegetarians. Does anyone have any simple/somewhat fast dinner ideas [possibly pasta dishes] to make.. as well as desert ideas? Thanks!

i would be extremely, extremely grateful to anyone who'd send me an invitation code to demonoid.com..

i have a problem trusting my boyfriend and accepting the fact that he loves me and cares about me. i'm always doubting him and saying things that might subtly suggest that i think he doesn't care about me. he told me today that it hurts his feelings. i don't know how to get over this. he says that he isn't going anywhere/that he loves me no matter what.. but i think it could push him away. how can i fully accept that he does, in fact, love me?