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We recently moved in together the beginning of August. The apartment was supposed to be in both of our names and the bills split but it's not the case as of now. She claimed to have a job/start making money as soon as we moved in but that didn't happen as well, which I knew Besides my main job, I have a side hustle as well but one weekend she rode with me and I enjoyed our time together but it's like since she had things she needed to do, affected me to make money for the household. I can understand it's hard for her to depend on someone when she mostly done it her adult life taking care of her and her kids, etc. and I'm the same way as well. I know she got things on her end that needs to be taken care of and I'm doing my best doing both but I just kind of feel something's not right. She'll throw back at me what I've said I'll do to help her and I will but a few things she said she'll do she hasn't kept her word. I know things may change at times but at least give me a heads up and let me make a decision. I feel like as of now and for a little while now, somethings gotta give, for the better whether this situation will make us stronger as a couple or we're better

My fiance' and I are getting married in a couple of months and are currently in marriage counseling. She has two kids, whom I live with and I have a daughter that stays with her mom some miles away (I travel to see her at least once a month, sometimes twice a month depending on finances). We both have/had bills before meeting each other. I pay child support for my daughter plus other things that she needs/wants and her kids' father doesn't help much financially. I try my best in helping my fiance' with her kids, herself, etc. when I possibly can but things have come up financially on my end. She started a second job working part-time and I'm interviewing for a second job as part-time as well, knowing that it may possibly affect my availability of seeing my daughter. My fiance''s wants a man to be take care of the household (in her words, pay all the bills), which is part of the reason why I'm applying for a second job as part-time. We currently split the bills but she says that she feels as if we're roommates. I feel that she's being unrealistic which I've told her but i do understand a man must take care of the household. She mostly puts her kids before me which I told her they come first but when we get married, it must change and vice versa with my daughter. Is there something that I'm missing between the lines or what am I not doing as a man that needs to be done?

We're going through a separation/divorce and even though I only communicate to her only to pick up our daughter and her activities, schooling, etc., she's still playing games. At times, I would call her cell and even the one she got our daughter but get no answer. She has me on child support but I still get my daughter things besides that. I don't talk to due to her as a person and what I would really do to her. I think the Guy may have an influence on her as well but I think it's mostly her. I'm just tired of her using our daughter against me or putting her in the middle.

I know I want to still keep visitation rights, phone calls, event notices, etc. involving my daughter but it needs to improve since her Mom sometimes don't answer and even though she got our daughter a cell phone, no one answers that one when I'm calling. There's another gut that's been staying there but according to my lawyer, I have to have physical proof. I feel like if it was the other way around, they would get at me whether my ex has physical proof or not. I'm just mainly concerned about my daughter but feeling that because of my ex's games, the court system or county law, etc., I should add other things due to my ex getting away with most of it as of now. I'd appreciate if someone can give some advice, thanks in regards.