Am I failing as a provider or am I not closely paying attention to what's really going on?

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We recently moved in together the beginning of August. The apartment was supposed to be in both of our names and the bills split but it's not the case as of now. She claimed to have a job/start making money as soon as we moved in but that didn't happen as well, which I knew Besides my main job, I have a side hustle as well but one weekend she rode with me and I enjoyed our time together but it's like since she had things she needed to do, affected me to make money for the household. I can understand it's hard for her to depend on someone when she mostly done it her adult life taking care of her and her kids, etc. and I'm the same way as well. I know she got things on her end that needs to be taken care of and I'm doing my best doing both but I just kind of feel something's not right. She'll throw back at me what I've said I'll do to help her and I will but a few things she said she'll do she hasn't kept her word. I know things may change at times but at least give me a heads up and let me make a decision. I feel like as of now and for a little while now, somethings gotta give, for the better whether this situation will make us stronger as a couple or we're better

ez2tock2 · Accepted Answer

The beginning is ALWAYS Amazing or Very Impressive, 
because you lack experience.

It takes about 3 months to BEGIN to know 
the person you are DATING.   
It takes about 6 months to FIND OUT IF you are really Compatible. 
For some couples, maybe a little more.  
Most find out or realize… THEY ARE NOT. 
Anything sooner than that, means you are 
INEXPERIENCED or IMMATURE.

Relationships give you experience on Right and Wrong ones.

No matter how much you Love someone or Want to be with them,  
if you are NOT COMPATIBLE, your relationship WON’T BE 
a happy one or last very long.

There will be lotsa Fights, Arguments, Insecurity and Jealousy. 
OR you’ll find out something you don’t like.

Keep in mind, that NOT every relationship you get into is for you OR 
will workout forever.

Learn from these mistakes for YOUR NEXT relationship. 
I estimate, it takes most people 4 to 7 relationships 
BEFORE YOU KNOW what you are looking for in a 
"til death do you part" mate. 
That has just been my experience.

If you force yourself to be comfortable or tolerate the way you two 
are with each other for FEAR of being alone or not ever finding 
anyone again. You are NOT GOING TO MAKE IT and all your Fears 
will happen anyway, after you have lost time, money and patience 
with your "Wrong Mate".

If you're in a Wrong Relationship… 
break up and keep dating to find someone better. 
If you're in a Bad Marriage, cut your losses and Divorce 
before your years disappear and all you have left are REGRETS. 
People always make MISTAKES of all KINDS, but that's how you learn 
RIGHT from WRONG, GOOD from BAD. It's called EXPERIENCE.

If you are a Youngster, you will IGNORE this and learn from 
Mistakes and HeartAches.

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Pam · Answer

What do you mean the apartment was SUPPOSED to be in both your names? Whose name is it in?? Hers or only yours? That makes a big difference legally. If it's only her name, she can ask you to leave and if it's in your name, you're the only one on the hook for the rent. Either way, it sounds like you guys didn't think this through and you should have BOTH been fully employed BEFORE you moved in together. Both of you had better sit down and hash out how and when bills will get paid before you both go under.

? · Answer

I'm thinking you totally ignored red flags.

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