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We are going to city hall to get married in a couple of months but want to have a big bar-be-que party for our family and friends this summer where everyone can be comfortable and our kids can have a great time. We want air conditioning and indoor bathroom facilities for our older family members. We also want to have our own food bought food in. We're located in the South suburbs of Chicago but anywhere from the south side to Chicago Heights works for us. Any suggestions?

Not bashful really. More on the reserved side. I want to have a really sweet wedding with about 100 guests. I have a pretty big family and several close friends. He wants to go to city hall. Who will see my dress? Besides, I hate when people wear big dresses to city hall. I want the photos and the centerpieces and the toasts and the whole shebang! He doesn't want to be the center of attention. I am a wedding planner so this is my opportunity to work my magic. What should I do?

OK. I know this may make me look a little simple but what the heck is that song about? Is it about a woman in labor? My ex said it's about the work it takes to be a woman and while he may be right, he's an idiot about most things. Does anyone know?

I have a new phone. I bought a new mini-SD card to put music in the phone. I did that with success and now I am attempting to use the music as various ring tones in my phone. It continually says that the file is too large to use as a ring tone. How do I fix this?

About a month ago, I had the worst headache of my life! It included nausea, intense pain and loss of vison. Two days ago, I had the same symptoms but numbness on my right side was added. What does it sound like to you? I have an eye appointment scheduled for tomorrow and a MRI on Monday. I'm not terribly worried, I figure if you're gonna worry, why pray? Genuine responses only.

I met a guy online and in his photo, he looked like a big guy but nothing dramatic. When I met him tonight, he was GINORMOUS if that is even a word. We have had wonderful conversation for the past week and I really thought it may be a good match. But I just can't take the extreme weight. Am I being shallow? After the date, he called and said he was making a cake!!!!

I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who lost his wife more than a year ago. We love each other very much but when he is missing her, he is very rude to me and dismisses me often. I understand his loss because 2 years ago I lost my boyfriend of 3 years. He also has the responsibility of his 2 small children. He refuses to seek counseling, but I am ready to let the relationship go. Should I?

My friend is having a difficult time since his wife passed away a little over a year ago. He has two children who are being affected by his inability to be attentive as well as a lack of supervision. We are seeking out schools that will accept his 3rd grade son as well as his autistic son. I am really concerned for the children's safety. Any suggestions? We live in Illinois.

There was a guy on Tyra a few weeks back. He said he makes alot of money on You Tube. How??? How can I?

We keep her litter box cleaned. She is a beautiful cat and very clean. By mistake I blocked her litter box door. She peed on the landing next to the kitchen and it smells horrible!!! What will kill the odor? Please Help???

I live in the Chicago Area. I am about to become licensed as an Esthetician. I would like to take this and build a career as a Make-up Artist. How do I become certified or licensed?

My wedding is planned for Valentine's Day '09.

My fiance's wife died over a year ago and I lost my boyfriend over a year ago as well. We met on EHarmony and it really has been a wonderful relationship.

Lately, I have found that he expects me to be everything to his 3 children and is pushing other family members away. I have a child of my own and a career as a wedding planner that allows me to work from home.

I understand that my life is going to change alot but I also realize that with 4 children, we need to build our support system, not eliminate it. He thinks that I am all we need. He expects me to always be with the children and doesn't want me to maintain my friendships or take my child to his father's, grandparents or friends homes. I am so disappointed because I wanted to get married to enhance my life and share with someone else. However, my life was wonderfully full even before we met. I love him and his kids very much and want to be together.

What would you do?

My boyfriend of 3 years passed away a little over a year ago. I met a man on who lost his wife of 11 years a little less than a year ago. We are very much in love, very practical in our reasoning and very committed to our families. Do you think it is too soon to consider marriage. The wedding will be on my birthday in February so by then, it will be 2 years for me and over a year for him and his kids. Please be kind. Also, this will be a second marriage for him and myself. Financially, we are both doing well and he is a minister with a sincere commitment to both family and his faith. We are really trying to do things the correct way.

My boyfriend is on travel and I want to chat with him.

I'm working on a business management project. I'm technical, not creative. I need a good "catchy" name.

We have never been intimate beyond kissing and napping together. I am 37 and he is 46. He seemed like a perfect gentleman initially.