Ash_082

My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years. The first 2 years of our relationship were perfect...until I found out he was still talking to an ex that I told him I didnt like (SHE cheated on him and treated him like sh** and he would always be mad when they were done talking). I knew he talked to her until I notice that he was always mad after talking to her so I told him, its me or her. I thought he chose me, but he was still talking to her behind my back. Once I found out, I didnt know what to do because it wasn't that big of a deal- just the fact he lied to me for 2 years about it! Since then I demanded he change his number and I know for sure he is not talking to her anymore. Just when things were going great, about 6 months ago I came across (through snooping, so I know it was wrong but I had to find out he wasn't talking to her) a vhs tape of ANOTHER ex (his high school gf). I will not say what was on the 2 tapes, but it is not something you would show your family or friends. I was so mad at this point that he had those tapes hidden and that he still had them. They were from 7 years ago, so why did he still have them? I threw them out and told him about it. He flipped out and almost broke up with me (he was more mad I snooped but never gave a real answer) but we didnt. There are also other things like flirting with other co-workers through emails ( I know he isnt cheating because his co-workers live all across the US..all business is done online.. plus he is with me all the time he isn't at work). SO....I know he wouldn't cheat on me, but he has lied so many times about so many things I dont know what to think anymore. It is too hard to trust him now. During my snooping, ( I dont learn my lesson) I just found an engagment ring, so the question is coming. That makes me happy that he wants to marry me, but I'm nervous. Should I still be with him if he lies? In my experience though, all guys lie about things!

My boyfriend and I have been dating over 2 years now. I am 21 and he is 26. He has been with (meaning dated/slept with) 5 other women besides me. I lost my V to him, back when I was 18. Before him I dated, but nothing was ever serious. Now we are talking about marriage in a year or two, but I just want to make sure its a good idea. Dont get me wrong, our relationship is perfect (with a few normal couple problems along the way) and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. I just dont want to end up 10 years from now, insecure or regretful that I only was "with" him while he was with many others. What would your advice be to me? Thanks

Ok so this might be long/confusing but here goes...I am 20 years old, in college, working part time, going to school full time (and taking max credits). I still live at home because there is no need for me to spend more money/get a bigger loan just to live there when my school is 20 min away..so that brings me to the problem...I live at home with my parents and younger siblings. Lately, my dad has been under alot of stress and was depressed. He missed alot of work, whcih meant less money coming in, and he just acts like his life is so bad (when it isnt). My younger siblings fight all the time, and dont respect me (when im trying to do work etc). My mom is the only one that is ok but she is always bugging me for more money..saying I "cost too much". I only work part time, but i pay for my car insurance, gas, and other expenses such as books for school, the only thing i dont pay for is my cell phone..which is part of a cheaper plan anyway...I love my family but sometimes I wish I was...

My bf flipped out on me the other day saying I Instant Message him too much at work. He works online, so he needs to be on AIM during the day to talk to the people in his company. When we first starting dating, he told me to IM him all the time. Almost 2 years later, he tells me I need to "find something better to do when he is at his f***ing job". OK so I get he doesnt want to be bothered by his gf maybe ONCE every couple hours, if im even home. But this PO'd me off. I found out he was talking to friends of his (male AND female) as well as a few female secretaries (their companys do work together sometimes, but these girls arent in the same position as him or have to do with business really). So of course I am furious as to why he gets mad at me for being online when he is. Do you tihnk something could be wrong? He has been flipping out on me lately for little things..

I am 20, my boyfriend is 25. Weve been together for 2 years. He is very lucky at his age, for the job he has. He is in the marketing area and has a position in the top 3 of the company. I am very proud of him because he has worked so hard, but Ive noticed lately that some of thewomen who he "works" with (never met them but does work through the phone/email etc..) will not leave him alone. They also go on his myspace and send him flirty comments. They are mostly older ( older than him like late 20's to 30's). He never flirts back as I have seen the messages, but I am SO tired of these women winking at him and calling him cute names. Half of them are receptionists or other jobs that dont relate to his. He says its just for work and to make a deal (which I believe on his end) but why do these women leave him emails and comments like that when they KNOW he has a GF? I would never do that to a man who was in a relationship. Just wondering...

First let me preface this with saying i have NO objections to porn and think it can be used for single men or with couples to turn up the heat..anyway...My bf of 2 years looks at porn when Im not there. Now, he tells me he doesnt look at it (I asked a long time ago, but stil denies the topic if it should come up) but I know (Ive seen emails and login names) he does. There is no need for him to lie to me, so why does he? Secondly, we have sex at least everyday and he tells me he physically cant do it more than once/sometimes twice a day, YET he can whack-of* as soon as I leave the house. I have a good body, I am always in the mood, he says I wear him out lol but sometimes he denies me then pleases himself..help me understand this?

My boyfriend ("finace" we talk about marriage all time, just waiting finacially to get engaged) has some habits, that I was wondering if they would change once we got married. First, his porn viewing habits. I do not mind that he looks at it, cause I am only with him 3-4 nights a week right now. But would he still look at it when we live together? Also, he is always on me about saving money (for our wedding and future) yet his bill from the porn is about 80 dollars a month! If we have kids someday, to pay that much for gross (hardcore) stuff is just crazy. Do guys really set their priorites straight once they become a husband? There are some other habits he has, but I just need some advice from married women..thanks.

I am getting my wisdom teeth out. The 2 upper ones are impacted, the bottom 2 are halfway through. My dentist said I would probably want general anesthic where I am unconcious and have oxygen through my nose..I DO NOT WANT THAT. I want a IV sedation, where I am still relaxed but concious. I called the office and they said one the day of my operation, I just need to tell him which one I want. For those of you who have had IV, what was it like?

I have recently started working at a new daycare for the summer, which could lead into the fall. Since I go to college, throughout the year I work at another daycare but this summer they couldnt offer me too many hours. Well anyway, I am having some trouble with a few new coworkers. First, this woman we will call A has been very degrading to me. The first day she made comments about me not "talking" and said I just sit there and dont interact with the kids. A few days after that she was talking about me to another girl (they were both looking and pointing). She also accused me of not changing diapers (when I do it more than anyone) and accused me of "babying" the 1 year olds. (sorry but when i 1yr old gets hurt, i like to comfort them). She keeps making smart a** comments here and there and its really pi**ing me off. Just because she is this old grandma who tries to be young and ghetto, yeah she thinks shes beyonce..she thinks she can boss me around. Im tired of dreading coming to work

When I was younger I needed to get teeth pulled and they put me to sleep. I had to be taken to the hospital because my heart was racing VERY fast. I believe they said it was too powerful for my body (but im not sure if that meant the anesthesia or they gave me too much). Well, I have to get out my wisdom teeth (2 on the bottom, both partially erupt, root not connected yet) so if thats what I would like, can it be done wtih just novicane? Thanks

I have to get my wisdom teeth out in August. I go for my consultation in July, but I was wondering if I gave some details maybe someone can answer my questions. My two bottom wisdom teeth are partially erupt. The roots havent "touched" the bone yet (if that makes sense). How would they take them out, most likely? Also, if I dont want to be put to sleep, do you think with my teeth, not being impacted, it would be ok? Thanks

I was looking in the paper and it said that a restaurant was hiring "Back waiters"...I really have never of that before..Does anyone know what it means? I tried googling but not much came up! Thanks

Ok so my friend is engaged and in the process of planning her wedding. She is working on the guest list and is having some disagreements with her fiance. Her fiance comes from a small town where everybody kinda knows everybody. He used to date this girl for 3-4 years in high school/college and they are still "friends" (I dont think they hang out or anything but still email every once in a while etc) almost 10 years later. Because of the fact they lived in a small town, a lot of his friends are her(the exs) friends as well, some even still really close to her. Is it wrong for my friend (the one who is getting married) to tell her fiance she does NOT want the "common" friends there (and some he isnt even that close to anymore)? She doesnt want them to mention her, or take pictures of them and show them to the ex.. etc..(I dont know her full reasoning though)He isnt going to invite the ex, obviously...but what should I tell her? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

My boyfriend travels for work maybe 4-5 times a year. We have talked about traveling/visiting to "closer" places (In the US) together, places we have never been. This includes Las Vegas, California, Boston etc..just cities I would LOVE to see with him. Well, his work has recently been "sending" him to ALL of those places- for a conference that is ONE day long, but they send him (as well as many female coworkers-never male) for a whole week so they can "enjoy" personal time. So instead of asking me to fly out with him, or coming home early so we can experience the places together another time..he just lives and parties it up, not even thinking about me. We planned to go all those cities/states within the next few years and it is just going to suck knowing hes already been-maybe even more than once. What do I say to him..if I should say anything?

My boyfriend is helping me sell my textbooks online. I have about 6 or 7 books, all bought new ( from 70-100 dollars each), that I have used this year or last. When listing them, he put them for $15 dollars each, when I never wrote in them or anything..they are in like new condition. Also, with shipping (which is like 7/8 dollars), the end "profit" to me isn't worth the time of shipping, going to the post office, dealing with emails etc.. Is that normal to get almost NOTHING back? OR should I do it myself and see what happens?

When it comes to sex my long term boyfriend is very simple, and he told me he likes it that way. Same 2 positions, very quiet, its just not hot! No lingerie (most the time, if it is its RARE), no toys, no new positions, none of the billions of things they make to make the experience more fun...nothing that would spice up our sex life. He has always told me he likes it plain and simple, when I need some type of stimulation. Well, its not that big of an issue but when I bring things up about new positions or toys he just isnt interested. This past week, I was on his ebay account (selling things) and came across his past items he has bought in like the past 4 years. Well, lets just say, he has bought PLENTY of items in the past, and the dates put it back to the time he was with some of his ex's. I know its not a big deal, but why would he buy things online from "sinful pleasures" then deny me or anything like that now?Why would a guy suddenly not be interested in that stuff?

Ok, basically when it comes to s-e-x my boyfriend of almost a year is very simple, and he told me he likes it that way. Same 2 positions, very quiet, its just not hot! No lingerie (most the time, if it is its RARE), no toys, no new positions, none of the billions of things they make to make the experience more fun...nothing that would spice up our sex life. He has always told me he likes it plain and simple, when I need some type of stimulation. Well, its not that big of an issue but when I bring things up about new positions or toys he just isnt interested. This past week, I was on his ebay account (selling things) and came across his past items he has bought in like the past 4 years. Well, lets just say, he has bought PLENTY of items in the past, and the dates put it back to the time he was with some of his ex's. I know its not a big deal, but why would he buy things online from "sinful pleasures" then deny me or anything like that now? ..more below

I have been spotting since 12/2/09 on the light/dark blue pills (its now 12/11/09 supposed to get my period this week), it is mostly brown/light red, and not enough to have to use a tampon or pad. But its been everyday since then. I have never missed a pill, or even taken one late. I have been on birth control pills (orthotricylen lo) for about 8 months now, and have only had spotting in the 2nd month of starting.My bf and I always use condoms as well, so I doubt that I am pregnant, plus along with my spotting I can actually see some of the lining after I wipe. Also, if it was "implantation bleeding", wouldnt it have only lasted a day or two? This has been going on for over a week. So my question is, what could this cause be? I called my doctor and she never got back (after 3 calls) and the only info the receptionist could give me is "it happens, its common". Also, say I dont get any more blood than spotting this week, does that still count as a period? Any similiar experiences? Thanks

(Sorry if this is graphic at all) I go on my green "placebo" pills this coming week, but since last saturday, Ive have been finding spots of brown and light red after I pee on the paper. This has happened to me once before, but that was in my 2nd month of starting it. I have been on it for about 8 months. I dont know why I could be spotting now..Ive been a little stressed, but no more than normal, also on sat. I didnt eat anything ALL day because I was moving and didnt have time(I found the first spotting that night), I also have been sick with a cold/flu for about 3 weeks. At the same time, if my spotting is a hormonal imbalance due to my bc, does that mean it isnt working?? I have been calling my gyno for about 2 days and I cant get a hold of her, so until I do, I was wondering what your thoughts are. Thanks

How do I become and feel healthier? I am a young, female, in college, who has a pretty busy schedule. I try to eat as best I can but I would like to know...what foods are most beneficial (like natural foods that have a large amount of more than one vitamin) for my health (esp. my immune system) and skin? The vitamins I am taking are too strong, so I would like to try and limit relying on vitamins.

Also, I have been too tired to exercise-when I used to do it at least 4 times a week for more than an hour. How can I get more energy, a healthy way? Is there anything else I should know or take to stay healthy?

Lastly, it seems like I am sick all the time with colds (plus I work with kids) etc.. how do I prevent them? ANY tips I will take!

Thanks!