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basically my friend has to move out of his home by tomorrow, he recently found a dog (or she found him) turned out she was pregnant and he now has 5 puppies too, all of about 3 weeks old. he will be homeless for a few days until the new place is available, sleeping on the couch of an already crowded house - and so there is no where for the dogs to go during this time. he's exhausted everyone he knows, trying to find someone to take them in for a few days but no one can. we're all skint so can't afford expensive kennels.. we're almost certain anyone like rspca will just take them off him for good.. does anyone have any idea what we can do to keep our beloved dogs with us?? please help!

i'm looking to update my wardrobe for summer but i'm struggling to find any good clothes websites!

i live in the UK and usually buy my clothes from new look/ h&m/ matalan

i know about the obvious high-street sotres like dorothy perkins, jane norman etc..

and i think topshop and zara are too expensive.

i've been looking online and found boohoo and forever21 which i like

i like modcloth a lot but i just can't afford the shipping

can anyone help me find any similar shops? with items around the same price-range?

thank you very much in advance!

i've been suffering from severe depression/ psychosis for about 4 years..

i was in an abusive relationship for two years and left nealry three years ago now

i've been seeing all sorts of people.. doctors, psychaiatrists, psychologists, 'crisis teams'.. but things just keep getting worse.

i cut myself, bang my head against walls and i can't stop thinking about killing myself.. it's exhausting and i'm scared.

i don't want to die but i can't escape these thoughts..

i can't stop the pain.. and i can barely function anymore

i want relief.. respite.. and to be safe from myself.. i can't see any other option..

please help me.

what should i do?

reading the newspaper this morning i stumbled upon a letter written in by a local woman.

she stated:

'i am writing about a TV appeal for donations of £2 a month to save starving children in africa.

the appeal suggests that only £2 per month is the answer to the problem.

in my opinion it is not - contraception is; failing that compulsory sterilisation.

these measures would prevent bringing children into this world to live briefly before succumbing to starvation.

if they cannot feed a child, they should not be allowed to have one'

i have a lot of issues with this..

first, consider the rates of rape in developing countries. rape is used as a weapon in civil wars, and is part of life for many people in africa, and other poor countries..

secondly, consider WHY these countries are in poverty.

perhaps if our governments dropped the debts/stopped increasing the debts on famine stricken countries, these children would not live so briefly, and into such suffering.

and maybe £2 a month will go a long way to alleviate these problems whilst we get our act together and make a change for the benefit of EVERY human being.

rather than result to hitler-esque, out of sight-out of mind, short term solutions.

also.. is it not also worth questioning the amount of money it would cost to sterilise every woman in poverty? surely that money could be used in much more compassionate ways...

also it's worth pointing out that many poor people are also uneducated. the more educated a person is the more able they are to make informed and beneficial decisions.. perhaps this money should be used instead to educate the women to either not have children, or to be able to provide for them (teach them to grow crops etc.)

and besides..shouldn't every woman have the right to choose if she has a child or not?

i am so angered by this letter, i am keen to reply.. this woman can't be left unanswered to if her views could influence other people into apathy.. and uncaring.

if you can help at all i would be really grateful

is there anything i'm missing out from this?

what are your views?

how would you phrase this in response?

thank you very much in advance

i have psychosis.. my problems have been ongoing for a few years and i feel as though i have nothing left anymore.. no strength or energy left to fight it. i just want it all to end. everything hurts too much.

i'm seeing psychologists etc. i have support from my boyfriend and family. but i just don't want to do this anymore.. nothing seems to be working.. it only seems to be getting worse.

i'm trapped in my thoughts about death and insecurity and they're massively impacting the way i live..

has anyone out there had/ have psychosis.. or depression? does it ever go away or get better? what worked for you?

any advice would be really helpful right now.. thanks

has anyone ever reported someone for rape a while after it happened (in Britain) or know anyone who has?

i was just wondering what sort of questions they ask.

i don't have details of what time and date it took place, what i was wearing at the time etc..

i'm just a bit confused about the whole process.. like, what happens with statements/ interviews...

and i want to be prepared before i make such a huge step.. so i know what i'm in for.. and what type of things will be brought up..

any (mature) advice would be really appreciated..

thank you in advance.

i can remember a fair bit of the plot, just not the title.

it's about a man who is a piano/violin teacher.. can't remember which.. and he's writing an opera

becomes obsessed with it

he has a new house-mate, a male, who is a writer, and is really secretive

something f*cks up, and the opera guy ends up tying the writer guy to a chair in his basement with fairy-lights and duct-tape... beats him up..

and i can't remember the ending..

i don't think it's a particularly famous movie, could be independent cinema..

the actor playing the opera guy is fairly small, long nose, dark hair.. and i think i've seen him in red carpet photos wearing a kilt..

the film is american though, from what i can remember..

any ideas?

my ex boyfriend raped me and abused me continually throughout our relationship.. i broke up with him two years ago..

today i saw him on the train.. i walked straight past him, sat on a chair facing him

i think he noticed me but didn't look in my direction

once.

then when we got off at the station i waited at the exit and watched him come out.. staring at him.. to sort of.. make him sweat..

he help his head down the whole time and didn't look up..

i'm just wondering if i handled this the right way..

there were SO many things i wanted to say and do to him.. but it was so public and i got so scared my legs were shaking..

i'm just curious.. what would you have done?

i broke up with my ex just over 2 years ago.

i am completely over him, and i now know how wrong the things he did to me were

during the relationship he used to hit me, abused me verbally, mentally, and raped me on several occasions. he's not a nice character, manipulative, scheming, aggressive.

i've seen counselors, i have a psychologist now.. he has ruined my life, for all i try and repair it.

i know my mental health would be better if it wasn't for him, i've lost a lot of friends over it, i failed my exams because of him.

and i see him walking around like he's done nothing wrong. he has no shame, and i get so p*ssed off.

i want to make him pay.

i'm from the uk, and i don't think going to the police would be of much help.. seeing as though it is my word against his. and i have very little evidence.

i've told a select few people about it. his parents have even been told. but it doesn't feel like enough.

it doesn't match the damage he caused me.

any ideas of what i should do..?

me and my boyfriend are looking to book a holiday somewhere.

we like to walk, we like museums, art, nature, quiet, and the water.

recently we've been to whitby, and the lake district a few times

can anyone recommend any decent places to visit in the uk, similar to whitby, but more rural..

or just anywhere you've been to that you liked

we're also considering going to either paris/berlin.. but they seem a bit too obvious, and i've been to paris a few times already.. i quite fancy somewhere more eastern-european, but not too cut-off.

any ideas would be a great help. thanks in advance!

i have a fringe (bangs) and i don't think i really suit my hair off my face too much

i usually use hairspray but in the wind when my hair blows it just looks weird..

anyone got any ideas how to wear hair, up or down, in the wind, without it getting too messed up, and still looking pretty.

i'm going out tomorrow tonight and it's STUPIDLY windy here

thanks :)

my boyfriend has been living with *flatmate* for a few months now.

we knew *flatmate before my boyfriend moved in with him. and *flatmate helped my boyfriend out by giving him the room when he was essentially homeless..

so i'm on good terms with *flatmate, and so is my boyfriend. i've always thought of him as a nice guy..

he's never done anything to make me think otherwise.

*flatmate's on/off girlfriend comes round regularly, and we get on with her great too.

however, my boyfriend was speaking with *flatmate recently, and discovered that a few years ago, he broke the ribs of his on/off girlfriend, putting her into hospital.

so my problem is that this has massively effected my view of *flatmate, especially as i was in an abusive relationship myself a few years ago.

i'm not supposed to know any of this.. but i don't know how to act around *flatmate anymore - my boyfriend is sort of dependent on him for a place to live at the minute..

and i also don't know weather or not to be disappointed in my boyfriend, for not really being bothered, in the sense that their friendship has remained the same, about what he had heard..

any ideas? what would you do?

i've been with my boyfriend for two years.. before him i was with a guy who raped and physically/ mentally abused me - and often made me feel like i wasn't good enough (e.g. not pretty enough - always looking at other women etc)

my current boyfriend has been amazing, he knows everything, and has always been supportive regarding my issues - especially concerning other women. he, himself, does not like porn and views it as disrespectful towards women - he was thinking about joining an anti-pornography group thing we read about, not so long ago.

so.. anyway.. i'll admit i'm a bit paranoid.. but rightly or wrongly, last night whilst my boyfriend went the shops with a friend, i checked his internet history.

no porn.. but i saw he'd viewed a video on youtube.. you know those montages of 'hot' celebrities.. like a series of revealing photographs of one particular woman.. who is undoubtedly better looking than me.

it doesn't seem possible for him to have clicked it accidentally..

i just don't know what to do. should i confront him about it, and if so, how?

how am i going to find out the truth?

because of my past.. i often doubt my feelings about things like this.. because i know they're massive issues to me.. it's difficult to tell if i'm over-reacting or not.. but i know it hurts, and i know he knows that.

any advice would be really appreciated.. i have no one to talk to about this.. be honest, just no 'he's a man, they look' please..

thanks in advance