Jaike Pendragon

I live in the USA but my favorite band is Sound Horizon, a Japanese band. I've never bought music CDs from overseas before, and to be honest it seems hard to navigate which places are safe or not to buy from and that makes me nervous. It would be REALLY great if someone knows a place within the USA that sells Japanese CDs that could get shipped to me, but if someone knows a good, reliable company within Japan that I could buy my CD from, that would be fine, too. Thank you!

My girlfriend's senior prom is this year, and I'm not allowed to go with her (because my parents are assholes.). She said she refuses to go without me, which I know is heartbreaking for her because she was really looking forward to it.

I want to do something that weekend to replace it, and let her wear her dress. I'm thinking of taking her dancing on my college's quad, but that doesn't seem like enough. How do I make it up to her?

I'm a lesbian, and my girlfriend and I have just passed our 1 year anniversary. While this is very exciting for us, it also makes me think about our future, now that we've passed such a big benchmark. I can see myself marrying her, and she and I have talked about it a little, confirming that it is something we want to do if we keep going the way we're going, and she could propose to me any time from a year to a year and a half from now. Even if I don't end up married to her, I'm eventually going to marry a woman.

My problem is that I don't know how to bring up the subject of my gayness to my two little cousins, 7 and 13. They are important to me, and I need to bring it up so they have time to get used to it, especially if I am to invite them to my wedding when it happens. Their parents and that entire side of my family knows about me, and my cousins are the only ones who do not. That entire side of my family has been super supportive of me (especially considering they are Catholic and live in Kansas! Who knew, right?), but I asked their dad to try to ease them into it, but he would prefer I do it.

The 13 year old is in middle school and has become aware of gays, and she and I have had brief talks about gay characters in media. She always accepts my recommendations for books, because we have similiar tastes in movies and books. (We watched Pitch Perfect together, and took note of the lesbian character, and she watches Doctor Who, asking me if Captain Jack was gay or not.) She sounds a little judgemental of the characters, since she's new to the idea, but still neutral. It makes me nervous because middle schools are toxic environments to positively talk about homosexuality, and I had hoped to get the word to her before she started attending, but she has. What I've been doing is trying to infuse gay-positive talk into those converstations, such as "There's a GAY Green LANTERN?", and I would reply with "Well, that's cool! I bet it doesn't make him any less of a tough crime-fighter!", or when she heard about the new Batgirl series, "Batgirl's a LESBIAN?" and I responded with "Wow, it's great that they're putting diverse characters in comics! It doesn't change anything about how cool she is! Right?" in hopes that it will positively influence the upcoming coming out. For her, it will probably be easier to find an outlet to bring up my gayness.

The 7 year old might be more challenging, because I have nothing in common with her to bring up gay positive thinking. The entire idea of coming out to them and completing my family tree terrifies me, which is irrational because I'm only informing them of my loving relationship, not trying to propaganda them into homosexuality. It's not as though I'm trying to make them gay too, I just need to tell them about me. But it still scares me.

How did you all come out to your cousins? And what do you recommend I do when the time comes to tell mine?

I am not trans myself, and there are some things that I wouldn't possibly know to keep in mind. I am gay, so I do know that discrimination and coming out are huge, but my experiences may not hold the same depth. My aim is to not invalidate or hurt anyone by missing something or not paying attention to something big, so I want to be sure to get this right and ask first. If you were reading a book about a trans main character, what would you like to read? What would you, personally, love to see included in a young adult novel about trans struggles?

I was driving the highways last weekend and I got pulled over by a cop because my licence plate light is out. He didn't charge me or anything, he just gave me a ticket that says to fix it. I wasn't even aware that I had one or even needed to have one, but I guess it's dead.

I don't know how to replace it, or where to get it replaced, and I'm going on another 3-hour weekend trip today, so I don't know what to do about driving at night. If I duct taped a light to my car to shine on my plate, would that work until I get it fixed?

And when I do have time, how do you fix that?

Thank you for all help you might give me.

I am gay, and my immediate family has reacted really badly to my coming out- my little sister always yells that it's immoral for me to have a same-sex relationship with someone I love, my dad straight-up hates me and gives demeaning antigay speech everytime I come home.

My extended family will be worse, because they are all from the south and they are deeply religious Catholics, on top of being rednecks. I once almost came out to my 8 year old cousin by saying that they were making a gay Green Lantern, and she got this wide eyed look like I'd said something evil and said "They're turning him... G-A-Y?!". I immediately regretted that because she went around to some of my aunts/ uncles and telling them that the Green Lantern was my favorite superhero because I'm gay. I haven't come out to them yet but I'm terrified. I am engaged to someone I am going to marry, and I hoped to come out to them before the wedding because I wanted to at least let it not be a shock that I'm marrying someone. We've already had someone in my family elope in the past year with a surprise wedding, and I didn't want to make it a tradition for us kids to get married without anyone knowing about it. They've been around my whole life and I want them to approve of me, but I'm afraid they won't, especially after my cousin's reaction to my almost-coming-out. I'm scared, and I don't know how to do it safely.

My grandma on my mom's side watches Ellen, and I think she has a friend who is a lesbian, so I'm not scared of her as much as everyone else. She's usually really nice since she doesn't really care about much.

My grandma on my dad's side will literally crucify me if I tell her. No doubts. She openly gives anti-gay speech, is a bible-beating Catholic, and literally doesn't even believe women should have rights. I'm secretly hoping she dies before I have to come out because I'm not kidding when I say that she'll call up people to do a picket protest at my wedding because she hates gays that much.

My grandpa on my mom's side is dead and the one on my dad's side has altzheimers so bad he doesn't even remember who his children are. So I don't have to worry about either of them.

My aunts and uncles are terrifying because I have no idea how they'll react on either side of my family.

I can tell that it hurts my partner's feelings that I haven't told the rest of the family yet, especially after we've become engaged, and I really need to get to it. I know that 80% of my family will be hateful, much less supportive, but I feel it must be done because I want to make a lifetime commitment to my partner, and I want my family to at least be aware.

Do you guys have any tips for coming out to people like this?

I'm writing an essay about why people 150 years from now would want a globe of our current planet. Can you think of any reasons? Anything would help. Thanks in advance.

Recently, I bought an adult-size Poliwhirl (from Pokemon) costume on impulse [I was slightly drunk and on ebay.], and now I don't know what to do with it. Should I wear it to costume day at my school on Halloween? I wanted to go wearing a different kind of costume, like a knight or robin hood or something. If I wear it, I know half the people at school will make fun of me behind my back. I asked my sister, she said it would be ridiculous. What do I do with it?

It's a long story, but shortened, I was talking to this guy who lives on the opposite side of the country from me (He left my town for college, but when he was still in highschool we were friends.) And we both had mutual interest in dating eachother. We've been talking intuitively for three months, and he is coming back to visit my town in two weeks from now. Three weeks ago told him I like him, and he said he likes me, too, but isn't looking for anything serious. So we went on texting and IMing, not acting any different...

...And then I get on facebook today and he's back together with his ex fiance. They're already saying "I love you" after a day. When he comes back in two weeks, should I still hang out with him like I promised? I'm really hurt, because I thought he liked me back, but I might have a chance to still be with him if I see him. Should I?

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