Jennafer

I am an adult serving in the military. I am afraid to ask this question, because I fear I may end up being discharged under medical regulations. My daughter has been diagnosed with severe autism. I am about 90% sure I am also autistic. I want to go through the evaluations and diagnosis process so that we can participate in a research program to find the genetic markers for autism. However if this will affect my military service eligibility, I do not want to put my family in that situation.

My question is, does anyone know the regulations regarding active duty military servicemen and autism? This is not something I was aware of on enlisting. I have always just thought I was "awkward" and lacked social intelligence. I thought my affinity for mechanical workings was a talent, not a sign of an underlying condition. Even my hearing hearing and "set routines" was just "the way I am" until recently. This is not a case of "fraudulent enlistment". I just don't want to sacrifice all of the help I need for a study that someone else can participate in.

I think a diagnosis would provide closure to me for a lot of things, but it is not worth jeopardizing my career.

Alright, I have been reading a lot of the questions and answerd on here, most of them are depressing so I wdecided I should ask my own. (First to you guys who say you don't like independent women, you are missing out on a lot!)

I work with my best friend, I Like him Probably more than I should And I am almost positive that he does too, It would be great if you could confirm his for me... We men a year and some months ago, Started out as friends, The poor guy got to listen to me complain about my boyfriend at the time, my family problems, how much I hated my job (I am an aircraft hydraulics and pneumatics mechanic) Etc. and he actually listened to everything I said. I always thought that when we were going out to mivies, or to eat we were just going out as friends, and somewhere in the mess, I started to fall for him (Oh no! :) ) I Deployed (Oh yeah, Im in the military too) And when I came home He would text me back and forth literally all day, We hung out a few more times, I went back to his apartment and we watched the lord of the rings... Cuddled on the couch EtC. I really like him, we are going to see a movie tommorow, And I really wanted to know (MY actual question... holy crap) How should I go about letting him know I want to be more than friends. I mean something that is not cliche and annoying :)

K Thanks