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How long do you wait before talking after a break up?

I've was in a serious relationship with my BF he's 24 and I'm 27, living together, meet each others friend's & family, dating for about a year and recently broke up.

He kind of stopped making the effort in our relationship, (communicating and talking to each other) because he felt that us living together was sufficient quality time. We work opposite schedules and when he does have a day off, he says he's so stressed out from work he just wants to go relax with the guys. So i asked him to move out, in a very calm manner, not as a break up but that he was getting too comfortable, i felt like i was just taking care of him like his mom. He took it really harsh like I "dumped him."

We parted ways on very calm and since terms, he told me he needed time to work on himself but he told me that we're going to keep seeing each other we just have to make time. One of our mutual friend told me he was very upset and told his buddies that i was obsessive and he was unhappy in the relationship and that's why it didn't work out. But when I confronted him about what he said, he deny it and continued to say, we'll see each other soon. He hasn't called or talked to me in 2 weeks, He's posting activities on his FaceBook like he's staying busy. I'm kind of torn and confused on why he said he wants to continue seeing me but hasn't made the effort and doesn't seem to really care (posting FB activities and being active, which he usually never does).

I wanted to know:

How long is a reasonable time to wait before talking to my ex without invading his space?

Why he hasn't called or text since he said we were going to continue seeing each other?

Purposely posting a lot of activities on his Face Book which he usually never does?

Or is the relationship really over since he bad mouthed me to his friends about how Obsessive I am but i don't understand why he would tell me he wants to continue seeing me?

Or is he immature and hurt and is using this silent treatment as payback?

Please help. Thank you

I've was in a serious relationship with my BF he's 24 and I'm 27, living together, meet each others friend's & family, dating for about a year and recently broke up.

He kind of stopped making the effort in our relationship, (communicating and talking to each other) because he felt that us living together was sufficient quality time. We work opposite schedules and when he does have a day off, he says he's so stressed out from work he just wants to go relax with the guys. So i asked him to move out, in a very calm manner, not as a break up but that he was getting too comfortable, i felt like i was just taking care of him like his mom. He took it really harsh like I "dumped him."

We parted ways on very calm and since terms, he told me he needed time to work on himself but he told me that we're going to keep seeing each other we just have to make time. One of our mutual friend told me he was very upset and told his buddies that i was obsessive and he was unhappy in the relationship and that's why it didn't work out. But when I confronted him about what he said, he deny it and continued to say, we'll see each other soon. He hasn't called or talked to me in 2 weeks, He's posting activities on his FaceBook like he's staying busy. I'm kind of torn and confused on why he said he wants to continue seeing me but hasn't made the effort and doesn't seem to really care (posting FB activities and being active, which he usually never does).

I wanted to know:

How long is a reasonable time to wait before talking to my ex without invading his space?

Why he hasn't called or text since he said we were going to continue seeing each other?

Purposely posting a lot of activities on his Face Book which he usually never does?

Or is the relationship really over since he bad mouthed me to his friends about how Obsessive I am but i don't understand why he would tell me he wants to continue seeing me?

Or is he immature and hurt and is using this silent treatment as payback?

Please help, especially from a Man's perspective. Thank you.

I'm relatively new at reading tarot cards and did a reading regarding what’s going to happen to me and my ex-boyfriend in the near future. I got the just of the interpretation but it’s rather confusing. If someone can help me interpret what the cards mean I would really appreciate it. I used the Celtic cross and noticed I had a lot of cards which involved actually people.

1: The present issue: Moon

2: Obstacles: Page of Wands

3: Conscious: The Emperor

4: Unconscious: Reversed Queen of Wands

5: The Past: 8 of Pentacles

6: Immediate future: Knight of Cups

7: Approach: Reversed 8 of Pentacles

8: External Influences: Reversed Hangman

9: Hopes & Fears: Reversed Page of Cups

10: Outcome: 10 of Wands:

I know the 10 of wands means work and struggles. Does that mean that our relationship is really over?

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If any guys have seen or dealt with a similar situation i could use some help. Thanks

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I know it's kind of corny but does anyone have any unique and fun ideas. I'm planning to play him a song on my guitar that's all I have so far.

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Since then we went back to our lives but we've talked, texted and e-mailed each other every day. We adore each other however we live literally all the way across the states. Even though I can't see him, just hearing his voice and reading his e-mails and text messages makes me so happy like he's right there with me. He's came down and visit me for a week and we had blast like we've known each other all our lives. I'm going to go visit him next month. We both have very busy work schedules and had both come out of relationships which involved us getting hurt.

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Does him not giving you the title change the relationship? How long should you date someone before this question should be brought up?

Thanks.

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Can you guys explain why you use this line?

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The relationship I have with my BF for 5 months is really odd.

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Is this just a phase? or am I stuck with this personality for the long run? He has been a gentleman in the beginning but hardly ever anymore. The longer I’ve been with him the more he’s like this. Need some honest input.

I'm running out of ideas to impress my BF. Short of the sex which I already give him, what do guys really like? What would make you happy if your GF did something special for you.

Yes please go into details =)

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I appericate if the guys answering this question can give the detailed blunt honest truth.

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I couldn't remember the whole dream other then it was late at night and I was trying to get somewhere by walking under a tree. That tree had a large spider web that I didn't see so I walked right into and and it clung on to me but I brushed it off. I then saw a very large black widow spider. It then jumped to me trying to find my boyfriend however I couldn't find him.

Can someone please tell me what that dream means. Thanks.

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What do "guys" like when a girl does something ________ for them. Please give me some in dept details because I’m all out of ideas. And yes I do give him mind blowing sex :)

By the way… He's also horrible at returning the favor. He said that he's not the romantic type of guy and he doesn’t like to plan stuff out. Does that mean he doesn't really care about me? Or he’s just lazy?

What has a girl done for you that's made you say that you had just had the best mind blown sex???