tough, but true...

How can you get a 11 yr old child to do more? She does not like to help out and do chores. I have tried a chore list, I have tried asking for help. I have tried taking things away, and not letting her have free time with friends. I have tried offering money for chores. My daughter hates helping out, and I have to constantly ride her butt to get things done. How can I get through to her? without being a nagging mom, or a "meaner" as she likes to call me? I just want her to do the things without having to be told. I dont even ask her to do much, just put her laundry away, keep her room clean, clean her bathroom, and help with dishes. When she does help she has such an attitude about it.. she makes me so frustrated, and my husband says its just a stage.. help!!!

Ok, I have been with my hubby for 11 years, married 8 years.. His exwife cheated on him, he left her, and then we met and hooked up... She was so mad that she blamed me for everything. They have an almost 15 yr old daughter together.. at first things were so bad, she didnt want me to answer the phone, or the door when she would bring her over, etc.. lots of drama..

anyway, we have lived in Florida for the past 5 years and they are in Pennsylvania. We use to go up to visit when we could, and also get her over the summer months.

I joined the army last year, and was medically discharged and on disability, which doesn't pay hardly anything.

Money situations are at their all time worse ever for us right now, including all utilities ready to be shut off..

ok the problem is the ex has been talking so much crap about her dad and me to my stepdaughter, the ex has a great job and makes much more than my husband but still gets 400 a month in child support.. when she comes down for the summer we still have to pay for summer camps and stuff while she still gets child support. This summer we were not able to afford for her to come down. the ex will not offer to help, will not let her fly by herself. She keeps calling her dad upset, crying, and saying she wants to come down and see us but her mom won't let her...

what would you do?

ok this year I took my 10 yr old to the drs for a sinus infection, the dr talked to me about these gardasils shots and how important it is for the girls to get the 3 series shots... she told me all about it, etc.. so i agreed, she got her first shot.. then about a month ago, she got her second shot.... the 3rd shot is due in nov of this year... ok the problem is that i heard on the news that girls were dying because of these shots... they havent confirmed it yet, but all the girls had these gardasil shots.. so I will talk to the dr about my concerns, but i was wondering if i should get the 3rd shot or if it will affect her if she has had 2 of the shots but not the 3rd? im wishing i never agreed to these shots to begin with.. but do i finish it through? I dont want anything to happen to her over a dumb shot.. help!!

My hubby and I have been together for 11 years.. we have a great sex life, but he just cannot seem to last anymore. He was fixed some time ago and claims that "it" is much more sensitive now. what can we do to help him last longer so that I can always go too, without having to break out my toy and stuff... any suggestions to help my minute man?!

p.s. he knows im posting this question, so im not being an evil wife.

I am not sure what to do anymore.. and wondering if there are more people out there going through this....

what do I do with her? my daughter is 10 years old, and is so miserable, she is always moody and bored. she never plays in her room or with her toys. she is always pouting and complaining. I have to constantly tell her to clean her room, take a shower, brush her teeth. She listens to her dad, but when it comes to me its like I am talking to the wall. I have tried grounding, taking things away, nothing works.. she is only happy if she has a friend over to play all the time. how can I get her to entertain herself and be happy? I try to get her involved in reading books this summer, she fights me on that, tried to get her to get creative and decorate her room, that didnt work. we cant afford to put her in summer school this summer or go places, so she is home with me all summer. any suggestions? I am frustrated and she is frustrated.... help

I have this friend, that needs advice. She has been with her bf for 10 years, and they have 3 kids together. recently things have gotten really bad, and he hits her. she can only talk when he says its ok to talk..

the problem is she doesnt have any family here, she doesn't drive and she doesn't work. she feels stuck.

what can she do?

My entire family is stuck being sick for awhile now, we are all stopped up with sinus pressure, bad coughs, throats sore and on fire, chest pain, overall feel like we were run over by a mack truck. we recently starting taking amoxicillan, but need some relief... what else can we do to get relief? and dont say goto dr's.. already did that. looking for home remedies or new ideas. thanks.

My daughter fell off a skateboard and did a face plant into the concrete... she chipped her front tooth in half diagnally, yes its her adult tooth... we took her to the hospital, they gave her antibiotics and I need to take her to the dentist on monday... does anyone know what they will do for this? and how much it will cost? just like everyone else we are seriously struggling, will dentist work with payments if you don't have the money up front?

just had arthroscopic wrist surgery 3 days ago, and my wrist is swollen majorly. any suggestions? its very tight and painful. ive been using ice and trying to elevate...

Everytime I am on myspace or even my email I get a message, that says something about microsoft visual c++ debug library and something about assertion failure.. then i have to push abort and it kicks me off.. if i dont push abort it locks up... anyone know what this is or how to fix it? thanks.

Has anyone had this type of surgery done on their wrist? I am scheduled next week for it to fix torn cartilage/inflammed tendons..