*Kristen

Okay, so i've been with my fiance for around 2 years now. Lately we've been having a lot of problems. We fight about just stupid, pointless stuff and neither of us stop until the other one gives up..so the fights go on and on. And when i say over stupid things, i mean over STUPID things. Either way, i do love him very much and don't want to be with anyone else. I started talking to this guy (nothing more than a friend, honestly) but he got a little flirty and asked me to send him a picture of myself, so stupidly i did (NOT a naked one or anything, but it was a sexy pose kind of one, i don't know how to explain it. But i was not naked.) And afterwards i just felt SO terrible. I have a really bad conscious so i told him what i did, of course he was so mad at me. He was hurt too, which made things just so much worse. I told him the truth, and that i did it because i was so sick of always fighting and i felt very lonely..like i wasn't ever getting any attention from him unless it was negative. He's done some bad things in the past but neither one of us has ever cheated and i NEVER would. I can't explain why i sent the picture really except for how i already tried to, but i no longer talk to that guy friend. I don't know how to fix things with my fiance, i love him so much. Before it was just him that made some bad mistakes and now it's me too, and it seems like neither one of us are able to let the past go! I'm determined to make it work though, any advice? :(

Please, no rude comments either. I am not a whore, i made a mistake..everyone does. I just don't know how to fix what we've both done wrong.

My fiance & I have been trying to plan our wedding/reception/honeymoon for quite some time now but we are just having the hardest time! It's coming to the point where we get so frustrated and just don't even want to talk about it and we'll go for weeks, even months without planning a single thing! We are well off, and by well off i mean we both work full time jobs, we have our own home, cars etc..We pay all of our bills and occasionally go out for some "us" time. We are not rich by any means, and both of our families are full of hard working people as well. No one can just dish out a couple thousand dollars for our wedding.

Our idea lately has been to go get our marriage license instead of having a big wedding, have a nice big reception afterwards..and all the money we saved to use towards an amazing honeymoon instead! Are there any other couples out there who have done something like this? Would this be a bad idea? I don't exactly have a problem with it, i just know that you only get married once (hopefully) and it's supposed to be a special day and i don't want to regret not having an actual huge ceremony 10 years down the road. Plus, i really want to be all dolled up in a beautiful white wedding dress :(

I've tried everything i can when it comes to trying to save money, but life is life & it's hard to set back hundreds of dollars when you have bills every month! And it seems as though everywhere i look, a wedding and reception would cost us like 4000$ ! (I'm in Lancaster, PA.) Plus another 3000$ to go on our honeymoon, it's just not realistic for us!

And ideas or suggestions? Maybe even ways to save as much money as possible during a wedding & reception? I know the reception is always what costs so much because i have to feed every stinking person! Lol.

I know it's long so thanks for any advice!

I am 19 & my fiance is 21 years old, which i know will give people reasons to say rude things right away. I'm graduated, engaged, have a full time job, have my own place and pay all of my bills. My fiance also has a full time job. For the last couple of months i just have not been able to stop thinking about having a baby and i have no idea why! I'm currently on birth control and have been for about 4 years. My fiance has been wanting us to start trying to badly, about 95% of me also wants to but there's just a little tiny SOMETHING holding me back and i can't explain it! I just ended my pink pills and should be getting my period in about 2 days, i'm almost positive that i'm not going to start my new pack this month and just see where it takes me, but i'm just worried. My fiance & I are very stable where we're at, i just worry about little things. (Mainly money.) It seems that no matter how well we are financially, i always want more! So maybe the worrying isn't exactly necessary and just me. I'm not sure, all i know is lately all i can think about is becoming pregnant and bringing a beautiful baby into this world and feeling that kind of love! I'm not much of a party person, so the thought of me not going out to get drunk at 21 doesn't really bother me..but for some reason i'm nervous that once i am 21 those feelings will change. I read a variety of different things, some people say you should plan everything before you try conceiving, others say you should start trying and see where it takes you..so i feel like my biggest problem is really just worrying what others will have to say.

Does the fact that i want a baby at my age make me crazy? Are there any other younger couples who want to / have conceived? Any comments or suggestions? No rude comments please.

How far along in your pregnancy were you when you found out your were pregnant / finally got a positive HPT ?

My last period was a little off (which is unusual because i'm on the pill), i haven't been feeling well at all and have been having so many pregnancy symptoms but i got a negative result last month when i tested & i'm due to get my period in about 4 days! I tend to be a little paranoid so in the back of my head i'm worried that i am pregnant but my body isn't deciding to let me know just yet, meanwhile i'm still taking my birth control pills!

Just looking for some conversation / past experiences. No need for rude comments :)

Okay, i have been on birth control for about 3 years now, causing my period to always be extremely normal (lasting 3-4 days). My last menstrual cycle, however, was not normal at all. It came on the right day but was extremely heavy for about 3 hours then just completely stopped all together. My mind started going crazy so a few days later i decided to take a pregnancy test, it came back negative. For about the past 2 months (maybe a little less) i have been having ALL the pregnancy symptoms you could ever think of besides tender breasts, (nausea, vomiting, headaches, lightheaded, extremely fatigued, etc) so about a week ago i decided to go to the doctors because i just could not put my mind at ease. I basically wasted my time, because she told me without a missed period or a positive pregnancy test she had no reason to believe i was pregnant and she sent me home. I should be expecting my next period to be around the 29th or 30th of this month..so i'm waiting to see what happens there.

I'm very worried that i AM indeed pregnant but my body isn't quite reacting to it yet, the reason i'm worried is because i am still taking my birth control every day and i know that cannot be good on an early pregnancy, but i didn't want to go off my pill just because i was having suspicion, then that would've just messed up my next period..possibly made me sick/given me more symptoms to make me think i was pregnant etc..it's a never ending cycle lol.

Have any of you been unaware of your pregnancy so you were still using your birth control? How far along were you and how did you find out? Did it cause any problems for your pregnancy or child? I realize you guys aren't doctors..i'm just asking for a little advice, maybe from people with experience with this?

I know this is long so thanks so much!

How old were you when you got pregnant / had your first child? How was your experience? (The actual pregnancy leading up to this day.) Did it put a strain on your relationship with your childs father or your family at all? Is there anything else you'd like to say about the entire experience of becoming and being a parent?

I'm engaged to a wonderful man that i've been with for quite some time now, i was originally 17 when we got together. We now have our own home, own cars and full time jobs so we have a steady income from both of us coming in. He has a 5 year old son from a previous relationship (which trust me, has it's own drama) And to be quite honest his ex is a bi***.

Anyway, my fiance & i have been talking for a while now about starting a family and for some reason lately i just can NOT stop thinking about getting pregnant! He's been wanting me to stop taking my birth control for months now so we can start trying, but something is just holding me back.

This may sound selfish, but i am so worried about the future. I don't like feeling trapped & i'm nervous to feel that way once i have a baby. I realize that marriage is a huge step also, but for some reason i'm more worried about a baby commitment, rather than a marriage one. I'm 20 years old, and i'm worried i'll be missing out on so much if i have a baby, despite how badly i want one! There are some days when i'm just so ready to start trying, then they next day i wonder, "what the heck was i thinking?" Mainly because i'm worried about what other people will have to say and i'm worried that in a few years i'll wish i had waited longer to start trying.

My fiance is a WONDERFUL father and i love his son like he was my own, but i sometimes feel that the reason my fiance wants to have a baby with me so badly is to replace the one he doesn't see that often. (like i said, his ex isn't so great and only lets my fiance see his son whenever it suits her.) He says my thoughts are way off, that he's in love with me and wants a planned child & life with me since he had his son when he was still a teenager. (15)

These are the things that worry me about having a baby, not financially, physical reasons or anything like that. I know i'm still considered young, so i'm not really sure what to do or think? Is this type of feeling normal or am i just completely selfish?

I'm not exactly looking for answers, just honest opinions! No judgements please.

I know it's long so thanks for reading :)

I'm a little confused and i know i can sometimes be WAY too paranoid, i tend to overthink things. My last normal period was February 2nd, 2011. I have a very normal 28 day cycle, and i've been on birth control for about 3 years which keeps my period extremely regular, it lasts about 4 days every month. I was due to get my period on March 2nd, and it ended up that i literally only had my period for ONE day, it was extremely heavy for a couple of hours then it just ended. I thought it was just an irregular period, even though it's not very normal for me. I was having some pretty bad cramps and feeling a little sick to my stomach, about 2 days later i decided to take a pregnancy test, just in case, and it turned out negative. So after i thought about it a few days later i was completely convinced that i had a miscarriage, (my mind going a little crazy, once again.) My mother works for a doctors office and when i talked to her about it she said she thinks it was extremely unlikely and i sort of just let that idea go.

It's now March 14th and 2 days ago i woke up with TERRIBLE stomach cramps, i mean terrible! I had no idea what was going on, i took some medicine and the pain became okay and i was dealing with being uncomfortable. Yesterday i started feeling a little sick, now today i again feel a little sick to my stomach and i am now extremely dizzy every time i blink, move my head and especially when i get up! I'm not really sure what's going on, and since my mind wanders i thought that maybe i AM pregnant and my body just didn't react to the pregnancy test yet, or maybe i really did have a miscarriage and i'm having some side affects now?

I'm really not sure what to think, could it just be my mind overreacting? i know this is long so any advice or experience is greatly appreciated!

My fiance & I are starting to plan our wedding, but for some reason we are having the most difficult time deciding where the heck to honeymoon! We're planning on having a small & intimate wedding, mainly because we want to go on the nicest honeymoon we can afford! Neither of us have ever really been anywhere exciting, other than our local beaches. We're young and up for really anything romantic and fun.

Any suggestions?

I've been on birth control for 3 years and never really worried about getting pregnant because i take the pills in a routinely matter. I got my period around the same time that i usually do, but it seemed to only have lasted literally one day. Now that i think about it, i'm worried that i may have miscarried. The one day i had my period it was EXTREMELY heavy, when i took the my tampon out a few hours later it was completely full, so i put a new one in, after i took that one out it was completely empty, absolutely nothing on it. I had no more bleeding after that. Thinking back to that day i remember i was having extremely painful cramps in my lower abdomin, to the point where i really felt sick to my stomach, which is not very normal for me. my periods usually last 3-4 days so i'm not really sure what's going on. Did i have a miscarriage or was it just an abnormal period and i'm overreacting?

I've been on birth control for 3 years and never really worried about getting pregnant because i take the pills in a routinely matter. I got my period around the same time that i usually do, but it seemed to only have lasted literally one day. Now that i think about it, i'm worried that i may have miscarried. The one day i had my period it was EXTREMELY heavy, when i took the my tampon out a few hours later it was completely full, so i put a new one in, after i took that one out it was completely empty, absolutely nothing on it. I had no more bleeding after that. Thinking back to that day i remember i was having extremely painful cramps in my lower abdomin, to the point where i really felt sick to my stomach, which is not very normal for me. my periods usually last 3-4 days so i'm not really sure what's going on. Did i have a miscarriage or was it just an abnormal period and i'm overreacting?

This is a simple hypothetical question, just wanting to start a discussion.

I am 19 years old & engaged to a wonderful guy. Some people may see it as too young, but i see it as i got lucky early-on. We have our own place together and both work good full time jobs, bringing in an income of about $3000 a month. My fiance has been talking constantly about wanting to start our family and he wants us to start trying to get pregnant. I've been on birth control for about 3 years so i never had unsafe sex.

To be quite honest, i would love nothing more than to be a mommy! I absolutely adore children and i've just been having this strange want to have a baby, but sometimes i honestly feel dumb for feeling this way, mainly because i can't help but wonder what the heck people will think, i mean i am only 19? But i don't really think age should define a parent. Obviously i want to wait until we are officially married, but is there anything wrong with just practicing? I was always one who wanted to start my family when i was in a young, healthy stage. I do not want to be the parent that is 30 years apart in age from my child, no offense to those who are because there is nothing wrong with that at all, it's just not how i wanted it to be for me!

I don't mean to say this in a rude, cocky way, but i sometimes feel that my fiance and I are doing better off than some people in their 30's that decide to have children, ( and by better off i mean we are stable) which i am completely blessed because of this! Trust me, we have some rough spots, but all in all we are doing very good.

Just looking for some opinions/experience, please no rude comments!

My fiance has a 4 year old son to his ex girlfriend, who is a b*tch to be quite honest. She is constantly starting problems, saying rude things and will sometimes even threaten that he will not see his son anymore. When she says these annoying things i can't help but get angry, and i sometimes want to get very defensive. I even sometimes get angry with him because he just ignores her, he says absolutely nothing back to her because he thinks if he fights back, she will refuse to let his son come over.

In the PAST, my fiance had a little bit of a reputation. He got into trouble a lot, mostly minor stuff but he did get arrested one time for getting into a physical fight, the charges were dropped.

We have discussed multiple times about him taking her to court to get LEGAL joint custody so that she can't just decide when she lets their son see his father. He pays child support every week, but he is convinced that because of his past he will not get any legal rights, and he's actually afraid that if he does take her to court, and they deny him, that she will seriously keep his son away.

I'm not really sure what to do here. Any opinons or suggestions?

I have my lip pierced but i'm feeling like the stud i have in it now is a little too big, but i'm a little confused on what to do? Should i just go out and buy a completely smaller stud or do i just need a smaller ball?

Thanks!

I have been with my fiance for about 2 years, and we love each other dearly. He truely is an amazing man. When we first met, he was very upfront about already having a son from a previous relationship who was 3 years old at that time. He was 15 years old when he had his son and he said him and his sons mother were never very "serious" (he tells me he did not love her the way he loves me.) but they tried to work things out for their childs sake. Needless to say, things did not work. They split years ago and she is also moved on with someone else just like he has with me. He is an excellent father, we get frequent visitation and he does absolutely anything that he possibly can with his son. I also get along with him very well, he almost spends more time around me than his father, hehe. I care for him as if he was my own child, although it can be hard at times because, well he isn't my own.

My fiance and i are planning our wedding to be in about a year and a half. We are starting to look for houses to buy and really settle down and he has been talking nonstop about how he wants us to start our family, which obviously i want too. BUT - sometimes i can't help but feel extremely sad about this. I feel as though i should be starting my family with someone who hasn't already started theirs, almost like we should be brand new parents together. I know this may sound selfish. I also feel as though if/when i do decide to get pregnant that he will not be as excited or nervous as i will be. I'm worried he will be comparing my pregnancy to her pregnancy or he'll compare our experience in the hospital to their experience and i do not want that at all. It breaks my heart thinking that i could not give my future husband his first child, yet he will be giving me mine.

Also, and i may be a bit dramatic, but i'm worried that his family will not be as excited for my child as they were for hers. That was his parents first grandchild, my child will be my parents first grandchild. Mainly, i just really want a loving family. I do not want any comparisons and i want him to be as excited as i will be.

I have talked to him about this quite often, and he tells me that he will be thrilled when i agree to have a baby with him, because apparently he's been wanting to have one with me for awhile. He says he will not compare us and this will be different because this child will be planned and we are actually planning to start this family, it won't be unexpected like his son (no matter how much he loves him, obviously it's a HUGE life changer for a teenage boy to have a child.)

Anyone have any experience in this? I'm not necessarily looking for answers, maybe just some advice and opinions. And please, no rude remarks.

First, i would like to say that i do not want any rude answers, i am an adult & i am simply just curious. My fiance & i have been sexually active for over a year now, and it seems that every time we have intercourse, the second our bodies separate i have this large amount of white/milky looking discharge literally come right out of my vagina. I realize it's most likely a combination of semen, but i'm not entirely sure? This also worries me, because if it is just gravity and it's his semen coming back out of me, does this mean in the future i have less of a chance of conceiving because my body does not accept his sperm? He is the only sex partner i've ever had so i can't really compare this to any past experiences. Any informative opinions are appreciated!