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I am doing this question for an economic class....just wondering....I think it can be because there are many examples, however curious to see what anyone else would say

This guy and I had been friends for about 1 year before we started dating. So we started dating and things were going good for a little bit. He is wonderful too me....but there is just one problem. He never has initiated anything physical. We have been dating about three months and only have had sex twice (we have fooled around...which has been good). The problem is when he gets hard, he cannot maintain it enough for intercourse and he is ashamed about it....but when we sleep together he does not try anything...he never initiates anything...even when before we had sex....I was always the one starting the stuff. I am not a nymphomaniac, but it is getting annoying because he does not initiate even making out or fooling around. Any thoughts about this? Part of me thinks he is just not attracted enough to me, but he says that he has dreams about me that are arousing....it is just doing the actual act. I am not sure what to do...but after dating for three months...I feel like I am married already. I like him, the sex and other physical stuff was good when we had it, but this is getting ridiculous. He says there is nothing physically wrong with him, so I do not know what to think......

Does anyone else think that if men were to have the abiity to get pregnant, and would have to deal with the majority of the responsibility of childbirth and child-rearing, would there be this debate on abortion? Personally, I think there would be no debate at all.

I usually do about 45-60 minutes of cardio (treadmill/eliptical/stairmaster) and than about 15 minutes of weights.

I know I can do the bike, I am thinking of the rowing machine and maybe the eliptical. I broke my toe about two weeks ago, it feels okay, still a little swollen, and the doc said I could do the rowing machine (but he did not sound too crazy about the eliptical). Any additional recommendations for a good cardio workout?

Just curious. I often here about the End of Days, noting the end of the world, or Christ's second coming for the final judgement. But I am curious about what other non-believers of Christianity believe. No profane answers, please. Just trying to get other's opinions.

I have always wondered about the concept of a chosen people. I am not religous. I was raised Catholic, but I do not practice and I tend to question religions that claim "superiority" over another or claim that there is a "chosen people". What does this mean and how does it make sense to Christians and Jewish people that their God would have a "chosen people"? If God is all loving and all accepting, would He do this? That is like a parent saying to one chid that they are the favorite, if that is the case, why would the other child have any incentive to do anyting good? Opinions, please. And if you have any information (links, book titles) that can be suggested, I would appreciate it.

I have always wondered what your thoughts were about the Israeli/Palestinian conflict? Do you support a side, if so which side and why? Just curious. Please no ignorant or profane answers.

Just want to see what people think. I am 31 years old, single, very independent, etc. I feel somewhat lonely because I want a romantic relationship. The guy I was dating a month ago, when I told him I wanted to call it what it was-a relationship-immediately was like, "no because if I give you this the next thing you will want is to get married". I never mentioned wanting to be married. Actually, never mentioned anything NEAR marriage.

When I say to my parents that I want to have a relationship, they immediately jump to "why do you want to be married".

When I say to my married friends I want to have a relationship, they immediately think I want to be married.

The funny thing is, I have never mentioned wanting to be married, I am kind of ambivalent about it, and I do not think people should just say I want to get married for the hell of it. Yet everyone acts like I am desperate to be married. I live alone, can't imagine sharing my space with someone permanently now, I like the fact that I do not have to worry about anyone else on a daily basis. Anyway, does anyone else understand where I am coming from? Do you get the same impression....as a single women if you say you want a relationship people immediately think you want to be married? Even though you have not really said anything about being married and what that entails. Any thoughts, comments are appreciated.

I am a single woman in my thirties. Right now I pay less than 15% of my income in rent every month--good place, nice neighborhood, no problems. I am able to save a pretty good amount of money (about 10%) of my salary every month (including what is going into my Roth IRA). Everyone stresses buying something, but with house prices the way they are and all the maintenance that goes into a house (especially with me being by myself) I am wondering if buying is really a good idea. Should I continue to rent and just tuck the rest into my IRA or should I try to buy something ASAP. Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Based on many questions here, I am getting this feeling that a lot more is expected of him as President-Elect than what was/is expected of President Bush. I mean it seems as though the Republicans want him to fix the economy and find Bin Laden (just two things that have been up here) all before being inaugurated? Where was the Republican expectation and criticism when Bush was "misunderestimating" things? What is going on here?

because he is black, let me know what you think. This pastor is seriously against Obama....seriously. And (GASP) he is black.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YzW7_c6XvU&feature...

Thank you "pondfish".

shooting a gun on a military base in middle East (like the one out there of Palin), would we "let it slide" the way people are doing so with Palin? I know some people will point the whole Obama and "terrorist ties" thing, but be honest with yourselves for a moment. I betcha the republicans would be in a tizzy! Especially an educated black man with an AK--- that is definitely something to fear. Just wondering.....I know I will get ignorant thoughts, but just putting it out there. And I do not want to hear "why are you bringing up race?". When the US gets over race, I will.

Okay, so I have had this dark cloud of credit card debt looming over me for about 10 years. I have it paid down sufficiently, but a big amount is still there. I now have money in my savings that would allow me to totally pay it off. Opinions? Should I take the money in my savings and pay the credit card debt off completely? I have very good job security where I work, so I am not soooo worried about being laid off.

I was involved with someone for a couple of months. Now, we spent a significant amount of time together, like whole weekends, week nights we were going to dinner and movies. When we kissed hello or goodbye, it was not your friendly kiss on the cheeks.He came over every weekend.When he did not come over, he would always tell me where he was and what he was doing and who he was with. He would call me when he was away with his family or friends saying "we should make plans to go to (whereever he was at the moment) together--we would have so much fun." He called me from his friends bachelor party saying "we would have a lot of fun if we came here together--". I was thinking about going out of town for New Years and he mentioned that he has a friend out of town and "we" could stay with his friend and spend New Year's together. I asked him where the relationship was leading and he said that we should not have to define it and that it was no big deal and why was i pressuring him. I hung with him for like two-three months and we had a good time---so i figured why not take it to the next level-like call ourselves a couple. Yes, we did get physical, but it was not all the time he came over and we did not get physical all the time we saw each other.

Judging by this information, did I misinterpret something? I mean, I don't think a man over the age of 35 should use we if he does intend to take the relationship somewhere. I do not think that it is too much to ask that you acknowledge that we are together, as a couple, especially if you are coming over all the time and you are using "we" constantly and making travel plans with the woman. Thoughts?

I am trying to figure this out. Because the term "Christian" gives me this picture of Jesus, in all of His glory, patient, kind and loving, giving charity to the poor, helping the sick, and bringing peace. So, how do people who define themselves as "Christian" say they are pro-war at the same time and are okay with it? Just wondering. It baffles me.

I mean seriously, just look at the record....cindy does drugs, but so does obama, obama has no experiance, but sarah doesnt either, obama supports infanticide, but mccain wants to send more of our boys to war, it would take the whole night to really name it all, but does anyone understand what I am getting at?

I am going to vote Democrat, but I am sincerely discouraged by the games in the politics of the United States right now. The rest of the world is kicking our butt and you know what, we are so caught up in pointing fingers at "those liberals" or "those conservatives" that we do not notice.

I am 31 years old and I would like to go on a tour of Greece within the coming year. I wanted to see if anyone was aware of tour companies that offer good tours. If you could give me any information, it would be greatly appreciated.

Anyone see this, and if so, how was it? I can imagine it was good because Janet is amazing, but does she play a good combination of old stuff and new stuff?

This girl and I were friends for about 6 yrs. In that time, we definitely had our problems, 2 x we did not speak for over 6 months. But we started talking again. Anyway, we made a mutual decision not to talk anymore, as I have always said....we are on two different levels (one is not better than the other, we are just different). My problem is this. We stopped talking in Jan. 08 and I found out from others that she is talking a lot of bs---like talking about my weight, talking about my paycheck, telling people very personal things that I shared with her while we were friends. I have not confronted her about it, but it is very annoying because I never thought she would have done this. And she is the kind of person that if it was done to her...she would flip out. She thinks that it is okay for her to betray confidences but it is not okay for other people. I so want to say something to her, but I know there is not point because she would not understand where I am coming from

This guy and I have a relationship where sometimes we might hook up when we hang out. The problem lies in this. For about the past 2-3 times where we have hung out, he will start something (hopefully I do not have to go into details), but he will not finish (like will not even be prepared to do the full deed). His explanation is that he is "too tired", "sometimes these things just happen," etc. My problem is this. If you start something, I expect you to follow through....and I will be irritated if you don't follow through and I am all hot and bothered and you just rollover and go to sleep. It has ended up with him snoring and me hot and bothered and looking at the ceiling, thinking to myself "I thought this was only supposed to happen to married people,". Am I being too selfish or expecting too much? I have explained that I am irritated, but he just claims he does not understand why....I feel like he is being a tease....my thing is...don't start what you cannot finish.