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This is just an idea that crossed my mind today.

I'm a person without a lot of self confidence, so I'm not optimistic about my own ability to accomplish certain things.

It's easier to succeed in something if you really think that you can do it.

I think that people with low self confidence see that, so when trying to go about doing a certain task they try to boost their own self confidence.

I'm wondering if that kind of action may actually do more harm then good, because when the low-confidence person tries to boost their own confidence, they over do it, setting their own expectations way too high.

Chances are the area in which they are trying to achieve something is one where they haven't had too much experience, something that required some mental initiative to even attempt, it only follows then that the person won't do amazingly well and probably achieve way below their optimistic expectations.

This in turn makes the person's build up optimism collapse, causing the person mocks himself for even thinking he/she could ever manage the given tasks to the level of his/her previous optimism.

Basically, the person will see the attempt as a gigantic failure and end up with even less self-confidence then they had to begin with.

Maybe the advice low self-confidence people need is not: "Believe in yourself, you are amazing." but instead "Start by focusing on accomplishing small things, and work your way up."

Just my thoughts, what do you people think?

Serious question.

Why is there is so much emphasis on remaining "loyal" to one person? You go through life single, but once your in a relationship, your partner suddenly needs to be your only light in life.

I have heard people say that someone who cheats does not love their partner, and while cheating may be an indicator of not loving your partner, I don't see how the action itself means that you don't love someone.

You could say that it shows you don't love him/her because the act of cheating itself hurts him/her, but WHY does it hurt him/her? You can't just say "Because it shows you don't love him/her" because that would be circular reasoning.

You don't need to have sex with someone to love them, I love my family without needing sex.

I'm not saying that everyone should go cheat, I just think that evil of cheating is exaggerated.

Why/how would you classify cheating as wrong? (assuming you do)

Note:

Please don't give me dumb answer like "Your such a slut!". I am asking a serious question, so respond seriously.

I mean, I know your joking and all, but people say that SOOOOOOO much that it's not funny to me any more.

For example, there are a couple of female gamers with a youtube channel I have noticed and 80% percent of all comments will be stuff like "Get back into the kitchen *****".

That's not funny, that's just sexist.

I'm beginning to wonder if some of these people actually ARE just kidding, of if they actually believe that ****.

Do you think sexism is still an issue?

What do you think of feminists?