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My daughter in law and my son were in a hospital after giving birth to a new baby boy, her Mother was babysitting our 20 months old Granddaughter, My daughter's in law Mother did not let me to see my Granddaughter, because she said it was too much stressed, and she was very tired. I offered to help.. How that can be? I do not want to tell my son, that I was prohibited to see my Granddaughter, I do not want him to feel like he needs to defend his wife and her family. However I do not want to take this kind of offense either. What can I do?

Yes, I am very good Mother in Law- never comment, never criticize, always available to babysit.

Do you see any logic in it?

My Granddaughter is smaller than other kids her age, she is 20 months, I am looking for best booster car seat. Any advice? I have Subaru 2009, so it should fit my car.

I appreciate any information you can provide.

Thank you

my granddaughter 16 months old has a toddlers fracture, she is in long cast, what can I do to help and/or buy something for bathing or playing, any practical suggestion will be very much appreciated.

here are the situation:

His wife's Father just died not on his Birthday but before, I asked to see my son before his Birthday in a convenient time for him, I offered to go out, to come to us, or to meet at his house, the answer was no, because he is emotionally drained.

His wife was very kind on the day of his birthday to give him a little surprise and brought him to the house of his friend for a celebration. I know about it not from my son and his wife.I felt very bad about not being able to see him, when other people could. I asked my son about it, and he said that his birthday has nothing to with me and he has a right to do what he wants on his birthday.

I am not allowed to see my son and my Granddaughter because of the grieving, I asked very nicely to allow us to see our Granddaughter, and asked when we would be able to see her, there was no answer except the advice to wait.

He called me uncaring and selfish.

My son just had his 34th birthday, his Family has a difficult time now, because of a death of his wife's Father.

Is it wrong of me wanting to acknowledge his birthday, ask him whether we can meet with him for a short time to give him a gift, not on the specific day, but on any day around his Birthday. and also is it wrong to ask whether we can see our little Granddaughter on any terms and for any short or long period of time? I only ask, not demand.

I am called selfish, insensitive,not caring and disrespectful for offering my help with cooking, shopping cleaning and babysitting, because I have a selfish desire to see my Granddaughter. I am quoting exact words.

I appreciate serious answers, and no insults.

I am a new Grandma, and I am Mother in Law, my Daughter in Law is usually cold, distant and often rude. I am more than willing to compromise for the fear to be shut out. I keep my mouth shut, no comments or suggestions, and never say no if I am asked to babysit.

Men, why are you such suckers? Why wouldn't you stand up to your totally unreasonable wives?

Young women, why are you so selfish and insecure?

Your young children will not be little ones forever, it is only 12-14 years of power, and then you will be in our shoes, powerless and catering to the wishes of selfish young woman?

I know that not everyone is the same, but mine has all the education possible, but she is cold like ice.

Answers from the young families are welcome! Serious answers only, no mean reamrks.

When you write the e-mail to your friend, do you first greet him/her? Do you sign your e-mail? Do you answer your e-mails the same day? I mean personal e-mails. ( I assume everyone answer business e-mails)

Does anyone know whether Mothers in Law club/Support Group exists online?

Continuing with this, want to thank everyone. Yes, I approached my son, he wants me to communicate with my DIL directly, if I need to. Men are very vulnerable, they really want to please, and my son is no exception. He is an excellent husband and a very good Father, yes, I wrote and called and initiated relationships all these years, yes, I always do everything she wants, no, I never come on the whim. Yes, I am very very careful, I have only one son, whose loyalty is on her side completely. I really do not want any courts or anything official, I have the only son. Thank you all for taking time and answering me. People who I do not know took time to write to me, but my daughter in law never has neither wish nor time to communicate.

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My daughter in law has always been cold, harsh and distant, now she has a daughter, who I naturally want to see, I offer help as an excuse. I never criticize, never comment, never suggest and never stop by, I congratulate with every Bday and anniversary, I mail my gift by mail, because when I ask whether we can meet, there is no answer. I try to call once a month, I usually leave a message and the answer could be in a week. we are never invited, she never calls, and I would go on like this, but it has been 12 years and now we have a new interest- granddaughter. Daughters in law are welcomed, answer away!!!

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