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I have a friend that has had her grandchildren in her home since the end of July, their mother dropped them off there. Their mother has made no effort to call, visit or provide support for her children. The last time my friend heard about her daughter, she living in a trailor with no power, she was smoking crack, and the children's father was incarcerated for domestic violence against her.

My friend is tired of giving her daughter chance after chance and seeing how this is affecting her grandchildren. She just wants to file for custody and be done with her daughter. Her situation falls within the Florida State Statute for the definition of abandonment, she is just unsure of how to file for custody without having to call in an intake of abandonment to Dept. of Children and Families. Any advice?

My brother broke up his 80 gal tank, sold most of his live rock and fish, but what he couldn't or didn't sell, he set up two 10 gal tanks with. He kept the coral for his own tank and some of the other fish, he set me up with the remaining live rock, a huge green spiny star fish and the rude yellow damsel, affectionately named Outkast. Had a problem with this brownish red slime growing on the bottom of the tank, bought some yellow slime killer, expensive! That wasn't what got rid of that problem though, I accidentally moved a rock, which opened up the water flow to the bottom of the tank and it hasn't been able to settle back since. Now, the purple algae is starting to grow on other rocks along with some greens and bright reds. We put about 10 little crabs, for the cleaning crew. Now I want to start adding some mushrooms, but I'm afraid the damsel or crabs may eat them. If not mushrooms, how about anemones?

I love children, I have an 8 year old boy and all my friends children refer to me as their Aunt. I love them all like they were my own. I have one friend, with a 7 year old son, she moved into my home in July while her son was at his fathers for the Summer to "get on her feet" but the plan was, she was suppose to save her money up to have her own place set up by the time he came home from his fathers. Well, it's now Oct and she is no where near ready to move out. She was way more finicially messed up than she let anyone know. Then her custody of her child was almost taken away because of a stupid move on her part, which got back to her sons father. She was dating a guy, of whom I did not know, she introduced him to me after my other roommate found him standing naked in our kitchen the previous morning. Luckily, my son was staying the night at grandmas or I would have been more furious. So she introduced us and asked if he could stay over that night, I said fine (against my gut feeling), lets just say he "slept walked" into me and my boyfriends bedroom and we woke up to him sleeping at the foot of our bed naked at 5am. Point blank, he was drunk walking, not sleep walking as she claimed. News of that event got back to her sons father and even he was irate. I was hoping all the events that followed would be a wake up call to her, seeing as she almost lost her son as the result of her partying behaviors. Eventually, her son came home, and I was happy to see him back with his momma. Until, I started personally observing their "routine" or lack of one. I know that no two moms parenting styles are the same, but I have my son on the same regiment every day. I thought her son should be on a similar regiment, example, homework needs to be done as soon as we get home then they can play until dinner is done. I sit down with them everyday to do homework. It's just she does things so much differently than I do! There is something about her son that just disturbes me. I don't know how to explain it but everything out of his mouth is an excuse, just like her excuse making habits, or a lie, which he tells way too many lies for a kid his age! He doesn't remember anything we, his mother included, tell him, be it to do something or a lecture about something like lying. He spaces out a lot, and there have been situations with him asking to touch other kids. Luckily, I had already talked to my son about bad touch/good touch and he came and told me about her son wanting to play "naked hide and seek". I've tried setting a positive example for my friend on how to interact with her son more, to be more active. I've tried being patient with her son, I've tried being stern, I've tried being passive, I've tried everything short of just bending him over my knee which seems to be what his momma should have done long ago. He's not my child and I do not want to punish him, yet, he shouldn't get away with things like changing his daily behavior report from a yellow(warnings in school) to a green(good day)! Her idea of punishment is putting him in "push up position" for 5 minutes. Me, I would have talked to him, i DID talk to him, but a spanking would have resulted too, alas, he is not my child to spank. Should I not care? Do I even have a right to be this disturbed over his behaviors? I don't know what to say or think anymore. There is just something about being exposed to their private life that is rubbing me the wrong way, maybe when/if she ever grows up enough to move out I will get over it. Even then it makes me sad to know that nothing will change. I feel like I'm being overly judgemental and down right mean when I step up to discipline him. Am I witnessing a form of neglect or emotional abuse? I don't know anymore!

She really is a sweet dog. I blame the breed mainly, Veeshla, her name is RoseMary. Hyper, hyper, Hungarian hunting dogs.

I have my 8 year old beagle, Hazelnut, who has her faults too(digging and howling) but for the most part she is pretty laid back because, like my son, I was/am consistent with her. He was never consistent with Rosemary and I have been lucky enough to get her to listen, somewhat, to me. When I come home, I greet Hazel. Rosemary freaks out whenever I give Hazel attention though. I can be sitting on the couch, petting Hazel, then Rosemary will literally run into the room and push Hazel out of the way to get my attention. It took about a year to break Rosemary out of the habit of getting in the bed with us, he use to sleep with her, but I do not allow dogs into my bed, that is MY bed. She jumps in the bed when we are not home though and the couches. I don't want them on the couches either but that is a habit even Hazel is guilty of, but only when we are not home because they know I don't want them up there.

What should I do or what am I doing wrong?

I filed for a class II eviction after 6 months of no rent from my tenants. Class II allows me to sue for any/all back rent and damages to the property. I was finally awarded all monies in a final judgment. What I'm confused about now is...how do I actually get the money I was awarded? This is in Florida.

My sisters step-son, 18, is being accused of rape, he was arrested and everything. The girl that is screaming rape says she lost her virginity to him, they have had sex three times and the last time they did it it was at a party where people were drinking, more than likely both of them were drunk too. Three weeks after this party, she cries rape. Things don't make sense, they had sex three times, she was on top all three times, yet she was a virgin? He never noticed blood either, she claimed to have bled later after their first time. Other events have also unfolded in those three weeks. He dumped this girl to date her friend. The girl tried calling him numerous times, the few days before she filed charges.

I know this is something my step-nephew wouldn't do. Just seeing him, I know he's telling the truth. If this girl is claiming rape because she's scorned, I'm going to be all the more furious because she's abusing the judicial system to get revenge. There are real women out there who have been raped but because of women like this crying wolf, their stories are being overlooked.

What advice do you all have to fight these charges?

Here's the situation. My father passed away 2 years ago, he told us he had a bank account in the Phillipines with $5000 in it. We couldn't find any documentation, we don't know the name of the bank or anything. How do we find it?

i sold my crap car to this guy back in the beginning of April, he was suppose to come back for his car, 95 Convertable Mustang, btw, that weekend but never did. i don't have his number or name anymore. Sold my old car to get it out of the yard, just to replace it with another car! i would like to sell it or claim it but don't know how to go about it. any advise? i am broke as a joke though so can't afford some routes.

I am doing a paper in my humanities class on the Albigensian Crusades, in particular. I would like to know exactly how many crusades there were in the twelfth and thirteenth centries though. Any tips?

I am writing a research paper with subject of "coming of age" and "loss of innocence" in literary themes. I have my opinions on the subject but since I was in here tooling around I found that I was curious as to what others opinions on the matter would be. I love getting peoples opinions and feedback because we all have our own individual thoughts and opinions. Open my mind to yours?

We all have wants. We all have needs. For example, do I want or need to finish my education? I was brought up to put my needs before my wants. As I grow, I am beginning to wonder if fullfilling our wants, within reason, is nessisary to ensure happiness. If we are happy then we can fullfill our needs with more ease. Right?

I understand priorities in life. I also understand the potential dangers of letting frivilous desires or wants overpower our priorities.

I WANT to know people's opinions on desire, temptation, responsiblity, and survival.

It's not a need. lol

My grandfather passed away almost 5 years ago. My father passed away just over a year ago. My brother and I have started my dad's probate but my Uncle, who is in charge of our grandfathers estate, has fallen off the face of the planet. We need grandpa's stuff to complete our stuff. Our Uncle hasn't returned any of our phone calls since our dad passed and his attorney has been trying to reach him since this last October to sign estate papers. We live in Florida, he lives in Ohio. A trip up there is just finacially out of the question for now. What should we or could we do?

I am a full time college student. I haven't had a "real" job since I took care of my dying father last year. I've been doing tattoos here and there for cash. My son's father is constantly belittleing me, telling me to get a job, I'm worthless, I got a whole list of them! He mainly does this when I bring up child support, which he hasn't paid me since he moved out almost 2 months ago. Doesn't he realize that my job is the most important? It doesn't pay in cash, like his does, but the payment I receive is priceless. I don't want to pay someone else to do my job. Money has been tight and I'm freaking out a little about rent and past due bills. I am going to child support enforcement Thursday to report him, but he's not working right now himself! Will they not grant me child support? Will it be a sickly low amount? He was making 2000 a month, now he's about to take a lower paying job, just so he won't have to pay me the amount he would have to with current job. What do I do?!

I have been single for the last 3 years. The last guy I was officially with was my son's father. We were together for almost 7 years, he just recently told me he was never in love with me. I thought I was with him but now I question myself. The first guy I dated after him ended up dying on my couch, OD. He reminded me that I WAS still desirable. Now I have met a great man, very sweet, goes out of his way to help me with little things, great in bed. I want him or at least think I do. Something is holding me back. I don't know if it's my past or maybe he's just not "the one". He has been so patient with me through this too. What should I do?!

Ok, I have been seeing this guy off and on again since November of 07. Since then I've broken it off with him three times. The first time because I wasn't wanting a serious relationship from the start and he started pressuring me into one, so I broke it off and he called saying he was fine with that so I went back to him. The second time, we have an open relationship with two rules, use condoms and no showering or bathing with them. He admitted to not using condoms like a week after the act had taken place. He lied about it too. I caught him in the lie and broke it off with him. We started talking again, then I caught him in another lie from that last encounter with the other girl. So I broke it off.....again. The sex is amazing, which is why I keep going back but I NEED honesty. I can't commit to him because I've caught him in too many lies. Am I a ***** for breaking it off with him over that?

People tell me I'm pretty, beautiful, or I have a great personality all the time. I think they are just saying it to be polite. I just ended a 7 year year relationship and he's already with a younger, prettier, and skinnier girl. That doesn't help my feelings of self worth. I feel pretty sometimes but I haven't been hit on in a very long time and that doesn't help either. I know it's bad to measure yourself with external validation, but it helps sometimes! Should I seek professional help for this problem? What can THEY do? Or is this just something I have to wait out myself? Totally lost here.

We have not been "together" for about 3 years now, yet we have been living together, again, since March of this year. This is our third time living together. I still have feelings for him and want it to work out but only if the feelings I have for him are returned. He brought a girl home the other night and I freaked out on him because we have, or at least I thought, an aggreement. Out of respect for each other we wouldn't bring member of the opposite sex over for sleepovers, in our bed, unless we were in a committed relationship with them. I get jealous everytime he starts to get close to a girl. I think mainly because he's showing her more affection, effort, and respect than he's shown me in the 8 years I've known him. I want to move away but I can't take his son away from him, he's a great dad. Am i being selfish in my jealousy? Is it unrealistic of me to freak out everytime he brings a girl home? Why can't I let go?

My sister in law and I were curious. We heard that only 15% of people in America have PHD's. Does anyone know what percentage of women have PHD's?

I don't want to rush her to the vet for nothing is she's not. She is a 5 year old Beagle, who was getting round with age to begin with. It's just that recently like the last few weeks she's gotten rounder than usual. Her nips have always been big to begin with so I can't use that as a sign.