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I raised my stepdaughter for 8 years. I helped her apply to college. Helped her pick a major. Took her back and forth to college for two years. Four months ago she took out the gratuity money on a cruise she and grandma didn t pay for. I told my husband he asked for the money back she hasn t talked to me since. She invited her father to graduation but not my daughter or me. Random family members from 15 yrs ago got invites but not me. I know it was a slight. I am fine about that but but now when I see her I physicall you want to her harm. I asked for my house to be a sanctuary for me. He refuses. I have two young children feeling like I can t get through.

I was considering converting to Islam for the sake of my husband and to give my family a chance at being one faith. For me that was so beautiful. I started reading the Koran and I was so floored by how there was so much need for Allah to be validated by praise every paragraph. I felt like if God actually wrote the text then he would not need to call himself beneficent merciful loving kind every time I turned around. Instead a man that was trying prove that he was validated by a God would include many of these things. I am not saying the old testament and new testament are without its faults I am aware of them and I even believe that there is a possibility it is not complete. I just feel like that there is no proof of miracle or prophecy. No text variants before the death of Mohammad (there were memorization chains.) I grew up a Jehovah's Witness and I am an education major so I really wanted to get my facts straight before a converted. Now here is my problem if someone gave me the Koran to read and had no scientific knowledge or background knowledge I might be really inclined to run and jump at the opportunity. Especially since I never believed that God was equal in standing with his son and holy spirit. But the same paganism that the Muslim condemn the christian's for they do also. They have sects dedicated to spiritualistic practices. They still follow a man because he is the best example and then when you read hadith and you find that some of his judgment is seriously flawed everyone just brushes it under the rug. Then I just want to know other then Mohammad who said he was the best example. Mohammad said that God said that he was the best example on earth. I am not saying the bible is not flawed 1500 years and 40 authors lend you to some error but 23 years and divine intervention should have gave us a little bit better example to follow. Plus if he was a politician in our day he would never have been allowed to run for office.

Well here is my question why do we think he received divine intervention if there is nothing new in the Koran?

I am aware of the Embryological details and I talked to some who spoke arabic and it started out as a frozen clot . . . frozen clot is not a zygote. A chewed substance is a vague description and nowhere near as accurate as the bibles description of the water cycle.

The fact the iron was infused into the earth was impressive but but there were iron meteorites that were found occasionally where that could have been common knowledge.

I just as a Christian reading just found nothing new from the Old Testament.

I also found Allah very scary like the Old Testament God. I just don't get that warm fuzzy feeling from him like the God Paul, Matthew, John, and James. I also feel less assured of any reward from my Creator and the way that the people are so scared to change almost feel like a father to scared to let his children grow up. Either way please if anyone can help what makes it new. Lastly do not say it is pure unabridged word of God either because there was paper before 680 yet no one thought to write down what the prophet said until after he died which is weird. If he was a prophet ... no one wrote down his prophesy and if he became literate he did not write down his prophesy.

How does anyone really know if they wrote down what he said or if it was a political instrument for both Jewish control, Christian control, woman control, and Citizen control?

I know it sounds like I am anti I really am not I just need things to make sense. If it does not make sense I ask questions.

But if someone never read the bible I could understand that they might feel as if this is inspired but how many people after reading the bible from cover to cover convert honestly?

If we are talking about the spread of the religion I am sure that you all can probably find other religions that spread quickly if there were economic advantages.

Well just looking for information on it? Saw youtube a couple of clips a couple of images then nothing else just disappeared. Is there in information or verification on the Yemeni Quran supposedly the oldest dated Quran?

Ok growing up Christian I already know there are things wrong with the bible. I accept them as mankind's flaws. I am ok with the fact that they were inspired at times and self serving at others. Ok looking to possibly change religious ideology. My problem is this I understand religion as a guidance system. Working in accord with its principals will bring blessings. I also understand that some things you have to leave up to faith.

Now looking within the confines of how I was raised the only religious faction that appears to close is Islam. The problem that I have is that they principally always tell me that God has no equals which I believe implicitly. Then Mohammad is a prophet and his messenger. Which I can accept to a certain point. Then they say that the prophet is the perfect/best example of a man on earth. Now the problem I have is that this a very convenient self serving statement. Now if you told me Mohammad was a man with the whims of vanity and other standards that prophets of old were held to I could accept without any problems my issue comes with the fact that God told Mohammad to tell everyone that he was the best example. Now this ideology has sprouted a science of writing down everything that the prophet once did from dying his beard to shifting during salat. I don't think this is what God intended. So here is my issue is there anyone who ever converted and felt that this is just the closest thing organized religion has to the truth with its flaws (scientifically, historically, and all.) How did your reconcile yourself to do this? Ok how do you reconcile traditional interpretation of the law with modern interpretation of the law. The Quran is the perfect book to to understand it you need the sunnah and hadith. This is truly not to be confrontational or disrespectful. I really would love to love Islam I just have too many questions that are not reconcilable by the answers that I am receiving. They don't appeal to my common sense. Or maybe I don't have common sense and Satan is blocking me. I suffer in confusion.

Other things I struggle with is headscarf when that seems to be traditional not according to Quran.

Then why do you have to have so much knowledge of so much ancient information to understand context that is fairly modern and God knew it was supposed to be the universally in tact document for us to use. Does anyone have these issues except me?

My final issue is I worship the God of Abraham, Issac, Jacob, and Jesus. I have never found any scientific flaws in the bible. There are blatant flaws of science in the Quran things that are attributed to poetry and misconceptions how do you get through knowlege of this when you believe your God created you and has knowledge of every aspect. Even as a science teacher, the embryology account is deeply flawed and it is possibly flawed by way of translation not but flawed nonetheless of what we know about modern day embroyological development.

So to make it short how do you know all these things but also just believe that is is the infallible word of our Creator who is knowledgeable of his creation.

I am also aware that there is good science in the Quran about sending down iron but because meteorites can be iron I attributed that to the astronomy studies that the ancients did or maybe I am ignorant. Help me if you can like I said if Islam is not it I think I am swearing off all organized religion. Also the polygyny thing bothers me too this is a book for all ages and it is perfect why did the men appear to have uncontrollable sexual urges but me as female just have to deal with my jealousy. I pray God opens my heart because I just don't get it. Polygamy in the old testament is not looked on favorably as per the relationship between tamar and her brother. All these children with different mothers do not have a way to bond properly therefore can develop unnatural feelings for each other. With the bible I can say well that story says that polygamy is not favorable while there are people in the religion believe that they receive more blessing with more then one wife. Confusion 101. Help. Please no fallacies hard core facts.

My best friend is a dilemma. Her husband asked his brother to be the best man in their traditional nonmilitary wedding. Her husband brother wants to wear his dress blues or not be in the wedding. I was reading and they said that the dress blues are not appropriate for a formal wedding but rather a dress uniform. Also it will clash with the black tuxes from the wedding. I understand the money may be the issue should my friend cave and let her brother in law in. Or is he being stubborn and her husband should choose a new best man before he absolutely ruins the wedding pictures. Mind you the husband has offered to pay for tux and he is still not receptive.

I am a 31 year old grad school graduate who is happily married with 2 of my own children as well as a live in step daughter. I have a daughter from a previous relationship. About 2 years ago I decided that carrying the financial burden on my own was to much. I petitioned the court for a paternity test so I could receive child support. I never proved paternity because they never could find him. I went on usa search found an address and found him. He called me saying that basically I was loose and he wasn't sure if my daughter was his. He asked the court for a DNA test. The DNA test proved that he was the father and he asked for counsel. He never returned to court for any of the subsequent court dates. He reported to the Bronx circuit court that he moved to staten island and left forwarding information.

Should I try to find the deadbeat. Or should I let everything slide. My daughter has a loving father who helps with her and actually is supportive and here. My only fear is that she has several siblings and I feel as if I have damaged her opportunity to get to know them by even asking for money. Am I wrong?

Who do you think will win? I personally like Sapharrary

As far as I know from the classes that I have taken. Domestic abuse is not arguing. It seems that most people feel as if it is. Why is that?

I had a arguement with my husband who is a hot head. Out of two years most of our time together has been happy. Whenever we have bad times the answer all my single girlfriends give me is get out of my marriage. I understand my husband can be unreasonable at times. He has even been known to break inadimate objects. Understand though he does everything in his power to be a gentle understanding individual with in the threshold of his nature. Why is it that marriage is not the end all be all it used to be? If a couple argues why is the tell all be all answer have to be divorce? What happened to the value of your vows? ". . . in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer, and till death due us part."

I remember people who stayed in the miserable relationships in the past because they valued their vows. I also remember people who stayed in okay relationships and understood this was a life long commitment. What happened?

I have been married for 2 yrs this July. In 2005 my husband proceeded to break my 42 inch tv by kicking a hole through it when I came home at 1:30 in the afternoon after a teacher luncheon. During a screaming match I had with him he pushed me. I responded by calling the police. He was arrested and served with paperwork for a protective order. Two days later I found I was pregnant, I allowed the protective order to be dropped and allowed him to move back home. Two months later I lost the baby and went out with a girlfriend I came home and he verbally abused me severely and I threw a pillow at him. In retaliation he called the police and I was arrested and served with assult and served with emergency protective order paperwork.

Everything in my house was fine until last week. I had another miscarrage and went to a cook out at girlfriends house. He was irrate and would not let me leave the house when he became verbally abusive. He broke the tv again. Help any hope.

My husband and I were involved in an altercation the police were called. I was arrested for throwing a pillow. Later on a judge in a court of law convicted me of throwing a pillow. I was sentenced to 2 years probabation and a domestic violence course. Do I have a criminal record?

My cousins mother died and we cannot find him. Please if you know where he is get it in contact with us. He was born in new york in 1952-1954