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Let me preface this with all of the people in this situation are over 30. My boyfriend and I have been in a strong relationship for over five years - not perfect, but stable. About a year ago, a close work friend of my bf died unexpectedly, leaving behind a wife and two kids. A few weeks after the man died, his wife called my bf asking for help with some work on her house since she had decided to move out of state. I knew she called and that my bf helped her out. I do NOT have any suspicions about the help he gave, and she knows he and I are a couple, although I have never met her. Later he helped her pack heavy stuff, and I knew about that, too. He told me she started crying when she was packing, and he hugged her.

After she moved she sent my bf a laptop computer and thanked him for his help. He told her he wouldn't accept it, but she insisted, saying her dead husband would have appreciated what my bf had done for her and the kids. Fine. We got a laptop, but, since then she has gone crazy! She sends my bf gifts almost every week, calls as many as 25 times a day, tells my bf she loves him, he's her savior, and on and on. Since she is over a thousand miles away, I don't feel jealous or worried - in fact I feel sad for her, but she's getting more and more weird.

My bf blocked her number, but then she started calling him at work (she knows the place because of her husband). It became so constant that he unblocked his cell so she wouldn't fill up his work voicemail. (Literally) My bf has told her multiple times while I was present to stop calling, he loves me, he doesn't want to have anything to do with her, and even said she was crazy and needed help. It doesn't matter. She continues to send gifts, offer my bf (not us) vacations, and even money to start a business. Once she sent him ONE ticket to a Dallas Cowboys game in Dallas - we live in CA, and I suspect she had the ticket to the seat next to him. My bf sold the ticket and gave me the money, and he told her this. He has even handed me his cell phone to respond to some of the texts she has sent. I don't have any worries about my bf being lured away, but she seems like she is becoming less stable and more persistent.

Most recently she told my bf she wouldn't be jealous of me. (???) I also want to add that being downright cruel to her hasn't changed anything. She just comes back. She doesn't have any family except her kids, and like I said, I really do feel bad for her, but what would you do? My bf said we should just let her keep sending us stuff and ignoring her calls, and eventually she'll go away, but her husband died almost a year ago, and she's still a wacko.

Is it better to be on the ballpark side around Pier 42 or on the other side of McCovey Cove along China Basin Park?

Someone just attempted to serve me papers, and I can't figure out why that would be happening. I got a speeding ticket in March, but paid that. I just moved to California, and I don't even know anyone, so I don't think it's related to someone else. My dogs aren't licensed and I was cited for that, but could that really be it? Is there a place to search what this is about?

. . . did you stay or leave? If you stayed, did it work out? Did you ever learn to really trust that person again?

Can I trade people in the town I don't want for some that I do without having to move someone in or evict someone else? It seems there are some people who just hang around, and I'd like to get rid of them and replace them with others.

My battery is dead and I can't find the hood latch! Ha.

Do you know where it is?

If you could have one FRIVOLOUS question answered, what would it be? It can't be anything meaningful or necessarily life changing -- just something you'd like to know.

For example, I always wondered which famous people would I have been really good friends with if we had met. I've also wondered if I have a hidden talent or something like that, which could have made me famous, but I just don't know it because it never occurred to me to try. Also, who has had a crush on me, and I never knew? Nothing earth-shattering or profound, but it would be fun to know!

PS -- sorry about the location of this question -- it was the only place I could find a category for polls or surveys.

If you could have one frivolous question answered, what would it be? It can't be anything meaningful or necessarily life changing -- just something you'd like to know.

For example, I always wondered which famous people would I have been really good friends with if we had met. I've also wondered if I have a hidden talent or something like that, but I just don't know it because it never occurred to me to try. Also, who has had a crush on me, and I never knew? Nothing earth-shattering or profound, but it would be fun to know!

President Obama has made some significant public gaffes when dealing with foreign countries -- one example is when he bowed to the king of Saudi Arabia. Why isn't Joe Biden guiding him? He has been involved in the political arena much longer, and should know political etiquitte. Instead, Obama makes these stupid mistakes that just make him look inexperienced and foolish.

I have horrible night sweats. I literally wake up in the middle of the night soaked. I am NOT (pre)menopausal, and I have met with my doctor regarding thyroid, blood pressure, etc., and I'm healthy. I have read about different hormone creams as being a possible solution, but I don't want to use anything that might impact the effectiveness of my birth control (which has been ruled out as a cause for the night sweats). Plus, from what my doctor has discovered, it is NOT hormone related, so a hormone cream probably wouldn't be an effective remedy anyhow. I have tried lowering the temperature in my bedroom, sleeping with windows open, cold showers before bed, limiting alcohol and spicy food -- just about everything that has been suggested, without any relief. Do you have any other ideas, an herbal remedy or have you found something else that works well for you?

I have horrible night sweats. I literally wake up in the middle of the night soaked. I am not (pre)menopausal, and I have met with my doctor regarding thyroid, blood pressure, etc. I have read about different hormone creams as being a possible solution, but I don't want to use anything that might impact the effectiveness of my birth control (which has been ruled out as a cause for the night sweats). I have tried lowering the temperature in my bedroom, sleeping with windows open, cold showers before bed, limiting alcohol and spicy food -- just about everything that has been suggested, without any relief. Do you have any other ideas, or have you found something that works well for you?

I have the music player with a song added, and if I push the play button the music begins with no problem. However, I would like the music to start on its own when anyone opens my page without having to start the music themselves. Can someone explain how to do this? What am I not doing right?

I admit -- I am the last one to join the MySpace bandwagon! How do I add music and/or a slide show to my page? My page looks so plain! Any ideas would help -- thanks!

I know age is a state of mind, but I am looking for a number. It seems when I was a lot younger I perceived ceratin ages as being "old," but once I reached them I realized they weren't. I was just woondering what olther people considered old.

Unfortunately I can't think of many of the lyrics, but basically the chorus says something about, "all the things you said, and all the lies you told." Then it says, " I'm broken." It is a heavier rock song, but has a slow tempo. It sounds sort of like Puddle of Mudd or someone like that. Only men sing it, and I think it is pretty new. It is NOT the song with Seether and Evanessence or the Pantera song. I've tried lyrics finders and stuff like that without luck. Any ideas? Thanks for your help.

What was your experience, good or bad? And, what site did you use?

Would you choose a housekeeper, a cook, a personal assistant or shopper, a groundskeeper, a chaffeur or something else?