Sarah

We have been good friends for the three years we have been at University together, and she has told me that when we met she wanted to date me, but I was with someone, now the tables are turned.

Now she is with someone and she says she doesn't want to date me, but when she gets drunk she tells me about how she considered breaking up with her gf when she found out I liked her, and how she likes having someone like her and then she tried to kiss me, but swears she doesn't remember sober!

If I try to talk about it with her she shuts me out and then later tries to pretend like nothing ever happened.

She comes to me with her problems and cries om my shoulder.

She broke down all my defenses and told me I have to let people in, and that she loves me, and held me while I cried, but hasn't seemed at all concerned about me even though she knows I just found out my mom has cancer.

I just want to be mad at her, but she is my roommate, so I always see her, and once I see her, it is so hard for me to stay mad.

I can't talk to her, she doesn't want to talk, and it hurts me too badly.

I don't understand what she wants from me! Does anyone else?!

We have been good friends for the three years we have been at University together, and she has told me that when we met she wanted to date me, but I was with someone, now the tables are turned.

Now she is with someone and she says she doesn't want to date me, but when she gets drunk she tells me about how she considered breaking up with her gf when she found out I liked her, and how she likes having someone like her and then she tried to kiss me, but swears she doesn't remember sober!

If I try to talk about it with her she shuts me out and then later tries to pretend like nothing ever happened.

She comes to me with her problems and cries om my shoulder.

She broke down all my defenses and told me I have to let people in, and that she loves me, and held me while I cried, but hasn't seemed at all concerned about me even though she knows I just found out my mom has cancer.

I just want to be mad at her, but she is my roommate, so I always see her, and once I see her, it is so hard for me to stay mad.

I can't talk to her, she doesn't want to talk, and it hurts me too badly.

I don't understand what she wants from me! Does anyone else?!

We have been good friends for the three years we have been at University together, and she told me that she wanted to date me when we met, but I was with someone, now the tables are turned.

Now she is with someone and she says she doesn't want to date me, but when she gets drunk she tells me about how she likes having someone like her and tries to kiss me, but swears she doesn't remember sober!

If I try to talk about it with her she shuts me out and then later tries to pretend like nothing ever happened.

She comes to me with her problems and cries om my shoulder.

She broke down all my defenses and told me I have to let people in, and that she loves me, and held me while I cried, but hasn't seemed at all concerned about me even though she knows I just found out my mom has cancer.

I just want to be mad at her, but she is my roommate, so I always see her, and once I see her, it is so hard for me to stay mad.

I can't talk to her, she doesn't want to talk, and it hurts me too badly.

I don't understand what she wants from me! Does anyone else?!

We have been good friends for the three years we have been at University together, and she told me that she wanted to date me when we met, but I was with someone, now the tables are turned.

Now she is with someone and she says she doesn't want to date me, but when she gets drunk she tells me about how she likes having someone like her and tries to kiss me, but swears she doesn't remember sober!

If I try to talk about it with her she shuts me out and then later tries to pretend like nothing ever happened.

She comes to me with her problems and cries om my shoulder.

She broke down all my defenses and told me I have to let people in, and that she loves me, and held me while I cried, but hasn't seemed at all concerned about me even though she knows I just found out my mom has cancer.

I just want to be mad at her, but she is my roommate, so I always see her, and once I see her, it is so hard for me to stay mad.

I can't talk to her, she doesn't want to talk, and it hurts me too badly.

I don't understand what she wants from me! Does anyone else?!

So, I have this MAJOR crush on my roommate, and she knows about it. Two nights ago she got piss @ss drunk and told me this whole thing about how she wanted to ask me out when we first met, but I was dating someone. Then she said that she had known I liked her for a while and she encouraged it because she liked having someone want her, and finally that she had thought seriously about breaking up with her gf to be with me when she found out I liked her. (Obviously, I lost that one)

This lead to me crying and her hugging me, and then her so in my face I honestly thought she was going to kiss me. Instead she told me about how much she would drive me crazy if we were in a relationship together, and how I didn't really want to be with her, ect.

But what she said wasn't true, all the things she said I wouldn't like, I know about her, and I like. She asked me why I wanted to be with her, and I wouldn't answer her, because I feel like I shouldn't try to convince her to be with me, but now that conversation is haunting me. I feel like she got to make her case, but I didn't get to make mine.

So, my question is, should I take the high road and just accept what she said and keep my distance/ hold my tongue, or do I have any right to tell her why I like her and tell her that she was wrong about what she said?

I have a friend, and she and I have been really close for about a year now. And I have had a crush on her for like 9 months out of that year. I haven't said anything to her but it is driving me crazy, and I am afraid I am gonna say or do something whether I mean to or not.

But there are several problems: not the least of which is that I have been in a relationship with someone else for a year and a half, and she has been in a relationship for like 7 months. And all four of us are living together.

I don't want to be selfish or hurt any of the people involved, but what is my alternative, to bite my tongue forever? Plus, for both of us, the relationships we are in now are our first serious ones, so neither of us have ever dealt with a real relationship or real breakup before.

Can anyone offer some advice?

I have a friend who came out about the same time I did. We are both in relationships atm, but our girlfriends are just like us (her gf is just like me and my gf is just like her.) We were close last year, then life got in the way of our friendship. this year, we are all 4 rooming together. (complicated, I know) Anyway, I have felt like I had a crush on her for quite some time now, but despite our living together, we never saw much of each other.

And then earlier this week we had a heart to heart. She confided a few things in me (unrelated things) and so for the past few days we have been sort of clingy to each other. But it is like a wall that was between us came down. we are suddenly a lot closer. she pretends to be butch, but in reality she is like a small dog that pretends to be big and scary, and she is protective of me. I am an only child and what she confided in me she said she had only ever told her older brother.

So now I am wondering what this feeling of wanting to be close to her is. Do I want to date her, or do I feel a sibling connection to her?

I'm sorry this is so muddled, but this is why i am so confused!

I have a friend who came out about the same time I did. We are both in relationships atm, but our girlfriends are just like us (her gf is just like me and my gf is just like her.) We were close last year, then life got in the way of our friendship. this year, we are all 4 rooming together. (complicated, I know) Anyway, I have felt like I had a crush on her for quite some time now, but despite our living together, we never saw much of each other.

And then earlier this week we had a heart to heart. She confided a few things in me (unrelated things) and so for the past few days we have been sort of clingy to each other. But it is like a wall that was between us came down. we are suddenly a lot closer. she pretends to be butch, but in reality she is like a small dog that pretends to be big and scary, and she is protective of me. I am an only child and what she confided in me she said she had only ever told her older brother.

So now I am wondering what this feeling of wanting to be close to her is. Do I want to date her, or do I feel a sibling connection to her?

I'm sorry this is so muddled, but this is why i am so confused!

This week, I took advantage of the Hurricane and Veteran’s Day to take the week off from University and go home. I have been spending my time doing a lot of catching up with old friends and even people I never hung out with much before.

Before I came to college I was a very introverted person and was never really good at talking to people. I always had an overwhelming feeling of being trapped at home and being unable to connect with the people around me. I was therefore the first of my friends to go out of town for college, and only one other friend has followed my lead. Since I have left for college, I have had a lot of growing experiences. I joined the Gay-Straight Alliance and made a lot of friends quickly. My social life blossomed for the first time in my life. The friend who followed me out of town, she and I began dating. I found a nitch and learned to feel comfortable with myself.

I got into town Monday evening and by Friday evening I have gathered a very clear view of what I would have been like if I had never moved away. I don’t like the picture I see. Since I have been here, I have had one friend try to commit suicide and another take advantage of the situation to try to get me to sleep with him, despite the fact that he knows I have a girlfriend. I am now conducting my own form of “suicide watch” on my friend for the prescribed 72 hours (by not letting her out of my sight except maybe to pee) and although I am fairly certain she has learned her lesson and will not do it again, (she wrecked her car and it has cost her about $300 just to get it back) I am still scared of what is going to happen after this weekend when I go home again.

So I am now joined at the hip with her and not speaking to my jerk of a “friend” who tried to take advantage of my being upset. So tonight she and I went out to Applebee’s with a foul mouthed boy we went to high school with and the boy I had been best friends with up until high school, when he decided his sex life was more important than our friendship. I learned tonight that his boyfriend had abused him.

I realized I had nothing to talk about with them. I used my new, college gained social skills to joke and talk for a while, but I knew almost nothing about the content of the discussions and I didn’t really appreciate their humor. I understand that people grow apart, but I never thought I would be glad for it.

I am 19 years old and not yet "out" but to a couple of my friends, and although I know that none of the rest of them would have a negative reaction (even my mom would be fine with it, I think) I just feel like it is no ones business. I have plenty of openly gay friends who are all so glad to be out, but I just do not understand why? What are the benefits of telling everyone who you are dating?

Okay, fun story! So I have recently come out to 2 people that I am in a lesbian relationship (just for the record I am not sure if I am a lesbian or I just like this one girl, and also, I am not a kid I am 19) So today I was at a conference with one of my classes and there is a Muslim girl in the class. She’s cool, I have talked to her a few times and she has told me about her religion (of which I know embarrassingly little) and when we went to eat she said that she had to leave to eat because she could not remove her vail with men in the room. She asked for someone to come eat with her, and seeing as how I am antisocial and hate crowds, I jumped at the chance for a quieter room. We started eating and talking and I asked her the guidelines of her vail. She responds that women can only show their faces to women and men of their family, not other men. Then she throws in as an after thought "or lesbians, anyone who could be attracted to you."

I didn't know what to do, I didn’t want to attack her religion, but I was like a) I can close my eyes tight and go running from the room, or I can b) pretend like nothing ever happened. I picked b and we had a lovely chat. Now, I am with someone and I am not attracted to her, but I still feel like I did something wrong, like a lie of omission. But it is like a catch 22, I could rat myself out, or I could lie, and I still don't know what I am, so I didn't feel I could tell her. But now I feel awful that I lied and undermined her faith! Should I apologize or should I let it go or what?

Okay, fun story! So I have recently come out to 2 people that I am in a lesbian relationship (just for the record I am not sure if I am a lesbian or I just like this one girl, and also, I am not a kid I am 19) So today I was at a conference with one of my classes and there is a Muslim girl in the class. She’s cool, I have talked to her a few times and she has told me about her religion (of which I know embarrassingly little) and when we went to eat she said that she had to leave to eat because she could not remove her vail with men in the room. She asked for someone to come eat with her, and seeing as how I am antisocial and hate crowds, I jumped at the chance for a quieter room. We started eating and talking and I asked her the guidelines of her vail. She responds that women can only show their faces to women and men of their family, not other men. Then she throws in as an after thought "or lesbians, anyone who could be attracted to you."

I didn't know what to do, I didn’t want to attack her religion, but I was like a) I can close my eyes tight and go running from the room, or I can b) pretend like nothing ever happened. I picked b and we had a lovely chat. Now, I am with someone and I am not attracted to her, but I still feel like I did something wrong, like a lie of omission. But it is like a catch 22, I could rat myself out, or I could lie, and I still don't know what I am, so I didn't feel I could tell her. But now I feel awful that I lied and undermined her faith! Should I apologize or should I let it go or what?

Okay, fun story! So I have recently come out to 2 people that I am in a lesbian relationship (just for the record I am not sure if I am a lesbian or I just like this one girl, and also, I am not a kid I am 19) So today I was at a conference with one of my classes and there is a Muslim girl in the class. She’s cool, I have talked to her a few times and she has told me about her religion (of which I know embarrassingly little) and when we went to eat she said that she had to leave to eat because she could not remove her vail with men in the room. She asked for someone to come eat with her, and seeing as how I am antisocial and hate crowds, I jumped at the chance for a quieter room. We started eating and talking and I asked her the guidelines of her vail. She responds that women can only show their faces to women and men of their family, not other men. Then she throws in as an after thought "or lesbians, anyone who could be attracted to you."

I didn't know what to do, I didn’t want to attack her religion, but I was like a) I can close my eyes tight and go running from the room, or I can b) pretend like nothing ever happened. I picked b and we had a lovely chat. Now, I am with someone and I am not attracted to her, but I still feel like I did something wrong, like a lie of omission. But it is like a catch 22, I could rat myself out, or I could lie, and I still don't know what I am, so I didn't feel I could tell her. But now I feel awful that I lied and undermined her faith! Should I apologize or should I let it go or what?

So, my best friend and I tried the whole dating friend for about the last month and a half, but I realized recently that she was really falling for me in a way that I was not for her. Worse than that, I felt like as she was morphing into my girlfriend, I was loosing my best friend. It scared me and made me sad because I didn't want to blow the great friendship I had on that. I sort of gave her the "lets be friends" ultimatum before I realized what was happening and before I could stop it. She says she is okay with it, albeit slightly disappointing, and I want to believe her, but I am not sure. Is there something I can do to make it up to her, or should I just believe what she says and let things take their course?

So, my best friend and I tried the whole dating friend for about the last month and a half, but I realized recently that she was really falling for me in a way that I was not for her. Worse than that, I felt like as she was morphing into my girlfriend, I was loosing my best friend. It scared me and made me sad because I didn't want to blow the great friendship I had on that. I sort of gave her the "lets be friends" ultimatum before I realized what was happening and before I could stop it. She says she is okay with it, albeit slightly disappointing, and I want to believe her, but I am not sure. Is there something I can do to make it up to her, or should I just believe what she says and let things take their course?

Okay, sorry, I know I am a looser, but I have to ask.

There is this guy at school that I recently started hitting it off with. We are talking more and more and he acted like he was interested. (the other day he passed me a note asking for my cell number. I felt like such a dweeb, I couldn’t remember it and had to tell him I didn’t know it.) But last night he showed up to prom with a date from his old school. He didn’t initiate any kind of contact all night except to say ‘hi’ to me and our friends, so I didn’t bother him, even when we ended up at the same restaurant afterwards. I really don’t want to have to ask him on Monday who she is, but I was sort of wondering how I should feel. Should I go on flirting with him, or back off?

Again- I am sorry, I know this is stupid, just for the record, I am 18, but I have never had a boyfriend before, so I don’t know how to react or feel.

Does anyone know the term for something that is both a comedy and a tragedy?

I am 18 years old and I have been having my period fairly regularly (in 5 week intervals) for about the past 5 years. About 3 weeks ago, I had it after only 3 weeks. I found this a bit annoying, but did not worry about it. Then, Tuesday, I started it again after only 2 weeks. I have never had them so close before, and it is making me feel so tired and weak. It took practically all my energy yesterday just to go up my stairs. Has anyone else ever experienced this and is it something to worry about or is it just a fact of life I have thus far not had to deal with?

I don't ever wear makeup except for the occasional lipstick, and I know that when I wear costume makeup or kids makeup I break out, but I was thinking about purchasing a light foundation just to even out my skin tone a little. Does anyone know a a good brand that offers something for sensitive skin? If I just walked down the makeup isle at the drug store I would have no idea what I was looking for!

Just wondering.