Adorable Mrs

I'm just curious coz there are people claims that they do get along well with their stepkids although they may be deceiving themselves. It is because I have come across a friend of mine who always end up faulty and does not treated fair judgment from her hubby.

Mainly there are so many divorces cases and extra-marital affairs occurences in this modern century.

i actually don't wish the 1st wife is still so innocent and is not aware at all about husband's marriage with another. Sometimes, I would like to turn up and tell her that "you are my big sis and hubby is being fair to both families". But deep down in my heart, I just can't bring myself do so coz she might not able to accept the blow because she is uneducated, not skillful neither not knowledgeable, stubborn and too dependant on hubby.

However, when I discuss this matter to my hubby, he would always replied to me that he will handles tactfully. I would not interfering his acting but I do warned him that if anything happened on him, I would brought my children and pay the last respect in front of the 1st wife and other of his family member.

Pls advise what other methods could resolve in a win win situation?

Mu husband is a nice man and a caring father to his children. However, what I dislike most is he has to pamper the eldest daughter (from the 1st wife) who is 18 years old now. Well, pretty stubborn chic and also playful type. Because of her, I have a few fights with my husband coz I explained to him that over pampers children will bring harm and undiscipline. Furthermore, she will turns bad and only dependant on father if she cannot copes herself. Of course, I do not have a good relations with his 1st family children and actually need not bother them whether they will turn good or bad in future. I just can't stand the way my husband is spoiling the young teenager.

I've my own children but I will definately not overboard to spoil my little one.

I do not understand why there are people could not be understanding over issues of loving with married man or becoming 2nd wife is to be blame or despise by social? If you think divorce is a good solution for those pitiful wives to start afresh, then you are totally wrong and selfish coz encouraging people into divorce is a great sin (unless being abused or violent by husband).

My husband has two wives and I'm the second and do not feel ashamed coz he is responsible in taking care both families. I'm not a home wrecker coz I would never encourage him for divorce or deserting the 1st family.

To those legally wives - do you think your marriage would be everlasting and guarantee your husband will be faithful to you? This world is too full of excitements and irresible. If your husband has a mistress or 2nd wife, who do you think should be blame? Mistress?? No.. is yourself coz you create the chance for them to have relationship. Therefore, pls do not prejudice on mistresses.

I'm his 2nd wives and really sympathy with my husband coz he needs to take care of his dependant family members especially his 1st wife. She is unable to run the business coz she doesn't know where and how to start. So in order to survive with the living, I assist my hubby's business and I did managed well & is expanding the network businesses. Every single matters irregard of internal or extenal matters, I'm to find a solution without troubling my hubby. Even when he has some troubles or problems which need some discussions, I always find a way out for him and that makes him has an impressive & full of respect in me and our marriage.

Sometimes, I sat down and discuss with my hubby, whether any other way that can make her (the 1st wife) to be more independant coz every single minor things will need him to attend. He just sighs and said nothing can be done and said that it is his fortunate to have me in his life. I wish that she could stand on her own feet one day..

My hubby did not cheat me at all as he is very honestly told me that he's married with kids. I'm very happy he is honesty to me (at that time we were just friend).. we gradually become lover and later stage we married because we love each very much and vow to take care each other. Slowly we had children and that is the happiest moments for us.

However, deep down from my heart, i actually sympathy the 1st wife for not knowing that her hubby has another family. Anyway, I was not bother by this issue as my hubby is taking care of me and our children.