Rae

Hi :)

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, he is 32 and I am 26. We do not live together or have a physical relationship (due to religious beliefs).

At this stage though I am truly distressed in this relationship, as we have been together a long time and are no longer children, and he still isn't proposing. We both have stable jobs, are educated, he owns his own home and I share with a flatmate; though he is in some debt (he is a pilot and spent a large sum of money upgrading his licence hoping to extend his job opportunities.)

He has mentioned financial issues as a reason why he does not want to get married yet, only I cannot understand that as he earns a good income, has his own home, and only has financial issues because he upgraded his licence without getting more job opportunities. And now he wants to do ANOTHER upgrade, again hoping to increase his job opportunities. Which means again there are additional financial issues and reasons why we cannot get married.

How do we survive this stage of "limbo". I love him, I really do. But I also feel I am deserving of someone who loves me and wants a future with me. I believe my dreams of being someone's wife, and not just their girlfriend are valid. I want children. I am frustrated and feel genuine pain that there are people getting married six months into a relationship, and it feels like my boyfriend only has plans for himself and his future, and none for us. He once mentioned wanting to perhaps get engaged in six months if the money is in place. But that just feels like a non-committal plan based on a lot of "IFS"

So basically it boils down to: do you think I should continue to wait, or cut my losses now.

And second, what can I do to help the relationship survive this? My frustration and pain are obviously causing strain on an already painful issue.

Please help me. I sincerely appreciate it.

If your boyfriend said "he thinks he would like to be married to you one day, but admittedly has no plans for a future together, or when that future might be" would you stay with him after being together for over 2.5 years already? I am 26, he is 33, so not children anymore. And we don't live together or sleep together for religious reasons

I have been writing exams, and today was my final exam.

When I was done I sent my boyfriend a message saying "I'm done :)"

He replied "How was it"...

I assumed that given the fact that I sent a smiley face that it was obvious, so I replied "Terrible"

He then said "I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe you were under prepared"

So I said "Just joking, it went well"

He replied "Piss off"

My boyfriend has never spoken to me like this, ever. I immediately phoned him, and he was hard and cold and I ended up crying. Was me making SUCH a stupid joke deserving of him telling me to piss off? I have been in this relationship for over two years.

Why would someone who says he loves you say such things?

What do I do now?

I know it sounds like maybe I'm taking it seriously, but like I said, he has never spoken to me like that ever. We are both conservative, and we don't use language like that?

My mother has had depression for a few years now. I started wanted to right "battling depression" but she isn't really battling depression. She just does nothing. She doesn't even get out of the bed. She has been in rehab for medication addiction, and has been hospitalized after an overdose that left her in a coma for over a month.

My family and I don't know what to do anymore? It is difficult to have compassion when she is behaving this selfishly. We have had to start a rotation of "shifts" to watch her and I am sick of seeing my Dad so sad and broken. I am frustrated and angry, but also sad. How does one continue to live like this? She doesn't even feel like my mother. She has seen psychiatrists, councilors at a church, psychologists, but she just DOES NOT want to get better. I am not talking about going through heartache and feeling broken for a while. She has been like this for years. And if you catch her on a bad "shift" she shouts abusive things at a person, and brings up things over 20 years in the past.

How? I don't know what else to say? Please, does anyone have any suggestions? Anything?

My mother has had depression for a few years now. I started wanted to right "battling depression" but she isn't really battling depression. She just does nothing. She doesn't even get out of the bed. She has been in rehab for medication addiction, and has been hospitalized after an overdose that left her in a coma for over a month.

My family and I don't know what to do anymore? It is difficult to have compassion when she is behaving this selfishly. We have had to start a rotation of "shifts" to watch her and I am sick of seeing my Dad so sad and broken. I am frustrated and angry, but also sad. How does one continue to live like this? She doesn't even feel like my mother. She has seen psychiatrists, councilors at a church, psychologists, but she just DOES NOT want to get better. I am not talking about going through heartache and feeling broken for a while. She has been like this for years. And if you catch her on a bad "shift" she shouts abusive things at a person, and brings up things over 20 years in the past.

How? I don't know what else to say? Please, does anyone have any suggestions? Anything?

How damaging is perming to your hair? Say to get sprial curls? Actually more curious than anything else...

Oh, and how long does it last?

So...its me again. I posted recently about my super super attached kitten that clings to me for dear life, even grabbing onto my leg as I want to work - not exactly easy to handle when I need to get to work...

As I mentioned before, she insists on sleeping ON me, as if the whole world is non existent and I'm all there is...

Hoping she will grow out of these things.

My question today is I woke up because she was licking my hair?!?! Has anyone else had this? Why would she do that? I use conditioner with coconut oil in it, and I love the smell, but not in the way an animal would?

She really is a strange, adorable tiny terror.

I was given a kitten about ten days ago, but whenever I am near her, she absolutely INSISTS on sitting, lying or clawing on me to hold on when I walk around. I'm talking about her practically acting as though everywhere else is boiling lava and I'm her safety boat. Can't even sleep decently as she refuses to sleep anywhere else but on me, even if I try push her off she is back moments later.

I can deal now when she is little, but when she gets big how am I going to deal?

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, I am 26, he is 32. We have a good relationship, and I know he cares about me. We do not live together, or sleep together, due to religious choices. He has said before that he wants us to get married "one day". In the last few months the discussion about marriage has come up several times and he gets extremely angry with me, saying that he will not put a time line on us getting married "one day". However he is a "planner" by nature and he puts time lines on everything. We have been together for over 2 years, and he said that he feels he cannot achieve everything he wants if we are married. I am confused and hurt by him, and I cannot help but feel that he is keeping his options open for someone else that might come along? He says he believes in marriage, he comes from a stable home, where as I come from a broken one. Has anyone else experienced this with a partner that seems to have a "fear" of committing? Should I cut my losses? I have this inescapable feeling that I am wasting my time and heart on someone who is more passionate about work and other things than he ever will be about me?

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, I am 26, he is 32. We have a good relationship, and I know he cares about me. We do not live together, or sleep together, due to religious choices. He has said before that he wants us to get married "one day". In the last few months the discussion about marriage has come up several times and he gets extremely angry with me, saying that he will not put a time line on us getting married "one day". However he is a "planner" by nature and he puts time lines on everything. We have been together for over 2 years, and he said that he feels he cannot achieve everything he wants if we are married. I am confused and hurt by him, and I cannot help but feel that he is keeping his options open for someone else that might come along? He says he believes in marriage, he comes from a stable home, where as I come from a broken one. Has anyone else experienced this with a partner that seems to have a "fear" of committing? Should I cut my losses? I have this inescapable feeling that I am wasting my time and heart on someone who is more passionate about work and other things than he ever will be about me?