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My husband is great in bed but I don't feel satisfied. Is this normal? Is it a phase? There is no way he would be open to an open relationship, so because of that do I live the rest of my life bored & unfulfilled?

But I really don't want another baby, I just miss those days he used to ACT like he was in love with me & cared about how I feel.

My husband loves me and the kids to death but we struggle to get along and he just doesn't want to do the typical family man things like be home most nights, he wants to out with friends straight from work (kids are asleep already), instead of coming home and spending time with me and then sleeping at a decent hour so that he can see the kids in the morning. He doesn't always want to go places as a family, he'd would rather go golfing on his day off if I didn't nag about it.

We are thinking of seperating, I can't deal with this non-traditional roommate style marriage. He gets angry with my questioning about how late he stays out and how he spends money.

Neither of us want to be with other people and there ahave been no incidence of infidelity (100% sure). We have great sex but can't stop arguing all the time. It's been 8 yrs, I'm tired of it all. I keep in the best shape physically, I take care of the home good and get his lunch ready for work and breakfast, do his laundry, everything so I don't know why he desires such a single type life. It's like he would rather be with the guys than with me.

Should I give up? I mean I feel it would be better to be separated and live our life without the questioning and arguing. Am I just being naive?

He's 29, I'm 31.

Our kids are 5 and 3.

My children are 5 yrs (boy) and 3 yrs (girl).

when we are on bad terms and I am expecting him to apologize we'll have sex and then we never talk about the issues that just occured and why we were fighting and I never get an apology. I think this is why women use sex as a weapon because men think if sex happens then everything's back to being fine, but it's not! What do you think? Do you agree? I hate constantly saying to him "we need to talk," I just want him to suggest discussing things and saying sorry when he's done wrong. What do you recommend I do?

My Himalayan is 2 yrs old and is just constantly leaking pee as he lays there. He hasn't eaten in a few days and just lays around. We really can't afford a vet right now but I think I will have to go tomorrow. Has this happened to anyone's cat before?

To be honest I am thinking of giving him away, all I do is run after my kids (5 and 2 yrs old) and the cat is always a problem with pooping here and there, eating plastic and throwing up everywhere, I just can't take it anymore! Now he is leaking pee making his hair wet and gets litter stuck to his fur and I bathed him today for it to just happen AGAIN! Any suggestions of where I can go to advertise to give him away?

Btw - I never wanted him, I knew it would be too much with the kids and everything, my husband surprised me one day because some lady was getting rid of her pets because of her back injury.

I'm 30, he's 28

I won't go for a divorce because I love my husband and being a family (5 and 2 yrs old), but I just gotten to the point that I've changed myself so much to be less controlling. I stepped up on my sexual performance since the kids are not infants anymore and I have more energy but it doesn't work. I just find that I am misunderstood and he must feel the same way too.

Does anyone ever feel that no matter how much you communicate and TRY and TRY to get along your spouse just never really understands you? What can I do, now we just argue in front of the kids and then nothing else, don't talk or make love. I just want to give up! I thought everything was so great just a few months ago but I guess not.

He told me the other day that I should go and ask my cousin and friend how to be a good wife. I started crying right away and then he continued to yell at me and tell me my crying is ridiculous, etc. He was mean to the kids all morning and was yelling at them then put them in th car to take them to the playground then came in yelled at me and tell me that I'm a bad wife and decided to just jump his in his own car and drive away leaving me and the kids crying in the driveway. He was gone for about 3-4 hours.

I'm a SAHM because we both do not believe in daycare (plus daycare costs would be the same as what I would bring home from work) and I kill myself preparing dinner, his lunch, doing his laundry and taking care of the finances, shopping for his clothes, cutting coupons and making $50 in groceries last the whole week, the normal sahm duties etc.

I am amazing in bed and totally satisfy him in everyway (he says himself) and having sex whenever he wants. I have tried so so hard to not question him about anything like his spending and just deal with the kids on my own. I keep myself in shape after having two kids and always try to look nice for him. I manage to do this without spending hardly ANY money on clothes, hair, etc.

His business has been doing really bad so he is very stressed and so am I of course. I have been searching for a job but nothing fits his schedule, because some days he comes home 9pm and some days 5pm - it's unpredictable.

The thing is he wrote in a note "I'm sorry for being a jerk" but I am so hurt. I mean he hasn't really come to me and apologized formally, just the note. I am disgusted with him though, here I thought I was a great wife but now I know he wishes he was with a dimwit that allows him to do whatever he wants and let him be the king of the castle without any input/objections. I just don't get it, why'd he marry me then, he said he was attracted to my intelligence and my competence and my fiery personality.

What do men want? Do men just want a robot for a wife, someone with no opinions, questions, concerns, etc. I don't know what to do at this point. What should I say to him, should I just get over it?

My cousin tells my husband that he got his gf absolutely NOTHING for Christmas, not even a card and that she got him a 50" plasma and some other stuff. My husband and my cousin are both laughing about it, like it's funny.

Everytime someone tells my husband about how they disrespect their wife and don't let them "control" them he almost seems envious or they laugh about it.

I feel that me and my friends encourage each other to have happy relationships and be good to our spouse, but it seems like men promote or even show off about how crappy they treat their spouses.

What are your thoughts?

I'm not talking about here in Y!A, I'm talking about friends and family, etc.

I feel this way a lot lately...maybe it's just my imagination...

It's ridiculous, I want to avoid feeding my kids foods with dyes/colors and it's almost impossible. Even things that I never even thought of having food coloring has it! What the heck!?

Is there a particular grocery store that sells mostly foods that have no dyes?

Which dyes am I supposed to especially avoid?

It's ridiculous, I want to avoid feeding my kids foods with dyes/colors and it's almost impossible. Even things that I never even thought of having food coloring has it! What the heck!?

Is there a particular grocery store that sells mostly foods that have no dyes?

Which dyes am I supposed to especially avoid?

I PMS so intensely, could I have PMDD?

I've read on PMDD and how it's a severe PMS basically. About a week before my period I feel very sad, irritable, angry, impatient, feelings of despair, very negative and no sexual desire. Just up to the day before that I will be positive and cheerful and nothing can get me down but once PMS hits I am a mess. I don't want to leave the house, clean or do anything productive. I have been able to control my impatience with my children but I just cranky and no fun.

Of course I provide my children with all they need as far as meals, baths, snacks, going to school, etc. But I just feel so depressed and horrible. This can't be normal, can it?

I'm on the pill and when I told my gyno she prescribed a stronger pill but I don't think it helped.

My kids are 2.5 and 5 yrs old.

oh and I'll cry over every little thing during this time.

These feelings have only started happening after having my children and even worse with the second.

I've read on PMDD and how it's a severe PMS basically. About a week before my period I feel very sad, irritable, angry, impatient, feelings of despair, very negative and no sexual desire. Just up to the day before that I will be positive and cheerful and nothing can get me down but once PMS hits I am a mess. I don't want to leave the house, clean or do anything productive. I have been able to control my impatience with my children but I just cranky and no fun.

Of course I provide my children with all they need as far as meals, baths, snacks, going to school, etc. But I just feel so depressed and horrible. This can't be normal, can it?

I'm on the pill and when I told my gyno she prescribed a stronger pill but I don't think it helped.

My kids are 2.5 and 5 yrs old.

I do, I think he wishes he was single (not to be with other women but to do whatever whenever, golfing, bar, snowboarding, going to a game,etc).

He does get to hang out with his friends btw,

This was before we were dating or married so it really has nothing to do with me, but it's just weird to hear that he used to go to strip clubs and get lap dances (over a dozen times). He says the strippers let him touch their breasts and everything! I felt almost betrayed, I know it sounds crazy but he always seemed disgusted with strippers and NEVER went to strip club since we've been together. Once we went together and he wouldn't even LOOK at the strippers while I stared at them. IDK, I just feel like I was deceived. Did you ever discover something about your spouse years into the marriage about their history that sort of turned you off? Would you also feel decieved in my situation?

I know I'll get over it by tomorrow, but I can't help being disgusted!

We've been married 5 yrs. Together for 8 years, so this happened like 9 years ago!

There are no major issues in our relationship, no mental, physical or substance abuse. BUT we can hardly discuss our issues without the conversation turning into a heated argument, many times ending with anger and belittling each other. I have calmed down since we had children and so has he but still I can't discuss something with him without him getting excited, raising his voice and getting very offended. I just want someone to teach us how to work through issues by communicating without escalating and never getting any results, can a marriage counselor teach us that? Is this not major enough of an issue to go to counseling for?

Oh we argue about his mismanagement of money, irresponsible behavior when it comes to driving drunk or staying out too late when he promising to get up with the kids the next morning and we argue a lot about parenting techniques.

He goes out about every two weeks, usually poker game or to watch a game at someone's house.

I go out once every 4-6 months or so. I come home sober and at a reasonable time.

I haven't gotten our kids a single thing and we also didn't go overboard for Christmas - $150 TOTAL for the both of them together! I see people even a few days after Christmas buying their kids toys, geez! No wonder some kids get spoiled! We are not buying gifts for atleast 2-3 months after Christmas and if we do just a few bucks. What is your policy?