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I hate my tattoo.

So I m planning on getting is lasered off.

I know that when it s healing, and you pick at the scabs it can fade the ink.

Not possible to completely eradicate the ink is it?

Even if it just fades it a bit that would mean less laser appointments right?

Like the lighter the tattoo, the easier to remove.

I know it could promote scar tissue.

But anything is better than this. And quite honestly a scar would probably looking more fitting as it is a zombie bite that was just executed poorly

Inner labia I believe it's called.

The rest of my vagina is its typically normal self, it's just the flesh of my vaginal entrance is white.

It's not discharge or anything.

It's just literally white.

I had a full std test a few months back and came back clean.

I'm also not experiencing anything unusual, I.e itching, burning Etc.

I'll be going to the Drs. Tomorrow, but for right now wanted to see if you knew what it was. And if I should be worried.

Thanks

I know these seems like an obvious answer. But bare with me.

I consume a hell of a lot of caffeine in the form of ice break - ice coffee.

(Serious addiction problem)

I've never considered it to be an anxiety trigger and I generally don't have any response to it.

Caffeine to the best of my knowledge doesn't effect me. It doesn't keep me awake or wake me up.

It's just something that tastes nice.

I'm currently dealing with a lot of anxiety in general right now, and decided to have a glass of Coca Cola.

For the last few hours I've been feeling fine, however I've just started to feel the oh so terrible feelings of anxiety.

The dread and worry, etc.

Do you believe that this was triggered by the Coca Cola, or just because I'm anxious in general at the moment. Despite being at an okay place for the past few hours.

I'm going to give you some examples of what's been happening lately.

I only had a short 2 week thing with this guy

Since he ended it I've gone from one extreme to the next

One second I'm fine and the next I'm so upset, crying and feeling like I'm a horrible person

My moods will change within a matter of less than 30 minutes

I've become extremely angry at him and said horrible things. And then been extremely apologetic the next

The whole reason things ended was because I was texting him too much

Constantly seeking reassurance that he wasn't over me

And that we were fine whenever he didn't respond to a text

I've felt extremely terrible about myself.

And what's more is that I've become somewhat obsessed with this guy

I've stalked his social media to no end, and continue to hope that he'll come back to me despite what I've done so that I can feel some sort of self worth again

his liking me will prove that I'm not crazy, and that I'm a good person

I've put him through hell over a 2 week thing

he didn't deserve anything

And I want so desperately to rid me from him

But again

It falls back into this need to have him want me again so that I'm okay

I also in general tend to go between moods just not this severely

Only when a relationship ends

I am easily to anger but I'm also easy to calm down

I do also have an anxiety disorder. (OCD) if that makes any difference.

I'm going to go and see a GP tomorrow

I just want you Your advice

I m 21, and currently struggling trying to figure out who I am as a person.

The things I do know about myself, I do not like.

I don t like my temperament, how controlled I am by my emotions, I do not like my daily routine of doing nothing all day literally wasting away my life in bed.

I don t like how emotionally disabled I become when a relationship ends, and I definitely don t like how consumed I become when I enter a relationship.

So my question is, is it okay for me to attempt to change these things?

Will it ever become second nature or will I always have these mindframes and most importantly will this lead to an eventual breakdown?

Thanks

So I recently went to my gp and we told that I have a thin urethral sponge. Which is the cause for the burning during sex.

Her only advice was to try different positions.

However I think that is a waste of time because I don't feel the area is avoidable.

I'm not exactly a wide girl.

I've read online other people using xylocaine jelly due to the same condition as me.

I'll obviously go to my dr. And make sure it's perfectly okay with her before I use it

However I wanted to know your opinion.

Thanks

I went to the dr. Today to figure out why for the past 3 years since I ve been sexually active. I ve never had sex that hasn t burnt.

Turns out I have a very thin urethral sponge!

Which caused penetration and thrusting to rub again my urethra and irritate it.

I can t find anything online to help me. And my dr only told me to try different positions.

But that doesn t make sense to me because it s not like the are is avoidable.

Please help

I have a full lace wig with a silk top.

I m wanting to install it, and have tried numerous times but I can t make it work for me.

I feel it would be easier to cut the wig into multiple pieces and install them individually. That way I can make sure its all nice and tight and laid flat.

However, I m worried it ll ruin the wig.

And seeing as it cost $1700, I don t want to destroy it.

So I wanted to know what you thought.

So I have blonde hair that is darker than my basically white hair extensions.

But I have the toner that I used to my hair.

Will using the toner on the extensions make them darker into my natural hair colour?

So I m constantly finding myself daydreaming about random things.

Stupid things really, like I m on a talk show telling Ellen DeGeneres a funny story that happened to me.

Stuff like that.

But mostly, as I m trying to fall asleep I daydream stories that don t involve me.

Always the same two people I ve made up.

And generally continue the story the next time I go to go to sleep.

I ve been doing this for a long time.

But now I m wondering if that s bad?

Do you do that too?

Back in 2012, I went through a "choking phase"

Where my ocd caused me to obsess so much over the fear of chocking, that everytime I went to swallow something, my throat would tense up and I would choke.

It s because of that, that I decided to go on medication.

And I was advised to take 100mg of Zoloft a day.

Sure enough, the choking thing passed. But I feel it was more of a mind thing, thinking now that I m on medication for my ocd it won t be a problem anymore.

However, mid this year I re developed the choking fear, it was just seeming to get better when I had another bout come through just the other day. And I m re experiencing it.

It s extremely annoying, because I just can t seem to shake it off.

I feel like it s worth mentioning, that within the last year or so I ve gone from 100mg everyday to 50mg every 3 days.

Simply because I still had ocd, so matter what I was doing. It wasn t stopping it. And I didn t feel the need to be on it.

My dr is aware of this by the way.

However, now I m wondering if whether or not it would be a good idea to go back onto 100mg a day. Do you think that is why I keep having re occurrences?

Obviously I will speak to my dr. About this. But I wanted your opinion

When I was 17, because of my ocd I developed a chronic fear of choking.

Every time I went to swallow my food, my throat would tense up causing me to Actually choke.

Which obviously didn't help.

Because of that, I decided to go on medication.

Ocd has always been an annoyance, but it never jeaprosised my health.

I believe because of the fact that I went on medication, it helped my overcome my obsession.

A mine over matter thing.

But I'm 20 now, and the fear as returned.

I'm so bloody hungry.

I know it's because I'm thinking about it.

Swallowing is a natural instinct and because of concentrating on it. It's disruptig it.

Like walking. You're more likely to stumble and lose pace when you conentrait on your steps. Than if you just walk.

But now matter what I do, I can't seem to not think about it.

I've tried eating during conversations, watching tv, reading.

But it's not working.

It's been a week, and I miss feeling full.

I'm starting to worry about my health too.

So far, I've only managed to get down potato chips, custard, and yogurt.thats all I've lived on for the past week.

So I need advice. Have any of youu gone through this and know how to make it stop?

Thanks

I m trying to decide whether to move to Boston or Atlanta for a year from Australia.

I m wanting Boston a whole lot more, just because of the weather and history.

But the apartments are significantly more expensive there than Atlanta.

Which has me wondering how anyone can afford an apartment in Boston.

Are the wages higher there or does everyone just have rich parents

Waitressing there, would I be able to earn enough to live in Boston comfortably?

I m obviously coming over with savings. But I d prefer not to spend it

I m trying to decide whether to move to Boston or Atlanta for a year from Australia.

I m wanting Boston a whole lot more, just because of the weather and history.

But the apartments are significantly more expensive there than Atlanta.

Which has me wondering how anyone can afford an apartment in Boston.

Are the wages higher there or does everyone just have rich parents

Waitressing there, would I be able to earn enough to live in Boston comfortably?

I m obviously coming over with savings. But I d prefer not to spend it

I know this sounds like a really, really stupid question, but hear me out.

I'm planning on moving to the U.S. For a year, and I'm deciding between Boston, and Atlanta.

Only problem is, I really hate the Boston accent. The reason I'm more inclined to go there however, is because of the history, and the weather.

I was reading about Atlanta a while back, and someone said that Atlanta is very multicultural.

Mixed with people from all over the world, and all over America.

So I'm wondering if Boston is the same, made up of lots of people with different American accents, or mainly ... Bostonians

I'm planning on moving from Australia to the USA for a year, and am planning on taking $30,000 with me.

I just did a money conversation online, and our dollar is only worth 75c

So the $30,000 went down to $22471.80

And that to me is ridiculous.

Is there a way to convert my dollars without losing $7000+ I'm the process?

To me, what I personally classify as rape is kicking and screaming, telling him /her to stop, and them not stopping.

My experience was with a guy. And multiple times telling him it was hurting, and for him to stop, and him not stopping, and I think him saying it was okay.

However, and this is where I get confused.

Eventually he did stop, and asked if I was okay, and I told him it was hurting.

The rest is fuzzy. I was drunk.

I remember him however saying, when I called him out on it, that it takes time for guys to stop. Which i know is bullshit because it s not the first time I ve asked someone to stop.

What do you think?

I m normally on a 21 day cycle without fail.

My period has never been late, always every 21 days with the same symptoms.

Tender breasts, increased appetite and for about a day leading up, extremely moody.

Normally all this happens a week before, or several days before my period.

When the 21 days came and went, I decided just to be safe, to extend it to 28 days.

It s now 5 days passed the 28 days.

I also didn t have my usual pms.

My breasts weren t tender, but my nipples were. Only for several days. Something that s never happened.

And I was also extremely, extremely hungry. Like I ll eat something, and an hour passed I ll be hungry again.

Aside from those two things, nothin else.

On the 28th and 29th day, I had cramping as well as the heavy feeling I get on the day of my period.

But no period.

The cramping and heavy feeling have both passed.

I now feel, how I generally feel about a week after my period ends.

I don t feel pregnant, nor do I feel like my period is going to show up.

I ve done two pregnancy tests. Both negative.

So I m not sure what s going on.

I m also experiencing some discharge, something I don t experience just before a period.

Any ideaS?

Should I text again?

It s so annoying wondering.

I either want my period, or a positive pregnancy test so I can stop this constant back and forth

Some of this may be tmi, but I'm sure you'll live.

I'm unsure about whether or not I think I could be, so I just want your opinion.

Firstly, I generally get my period every 21 days after it finishes. Like clock work.

I'm very regular.

However, due date passed so I decided to wait till the typical 28 days, counting from when my last period started.

That was today.

Technically yesterday as its now 12am.

All day, I've been having what feels like menstral cramps, with the same heavy feeling in my lower abdomen that I usually have when I start my period.

But there's no period.

I typically don't even start to experience cramps until after the first blood drops.

Leading up to my period due date, my normal pms symptoms haven't been the same.

I've been extremely hungry, like the hungriest I've ever been. normally this passes after a couple of days, it's been over a week.

I'll eat something and an hour later I'm starving again.

My breasts haven't hurt like they normally do, but my nipples were very sensitive. Not anymore however. But that's never happened before either.

I Also didn't get my normal mood swings.

I took a test today, and it came back negative. But it was afternoon pee, after I had had a lot to drink. But I figure if I was pregnant there'd be hcg in my urine either way.

Anyway, what do you think?

I have a lot of memories, experiences etc that bother me.

I've done things, seem things, said things that I believe have greatly impacted the way I feel about myself today.

It's not a physical insecurity, but a personality one.

I was thinking, would writing everything down. Everything that has ever bothered my from a child, to now, be a good way to deal with those problems.

I in a way don't see the point of seeing a therapist, they can't give me advice, all they will be doing it sitting there and listening to me talk..right?

So I figure, writing everything down that I would say, and then burning the book/s could be somewhat therapeutic?

Maybe help me figure some things out?